[desirae]

I'm hysterical right now. I knew this would happen to me, I'm cursed!

The story is my little sister decided to go to Washington D.C for a week and my mother and I was going to split the week with her 3 month old son. Well Saturday night, the "supposed" father (not yet determined) sister Missy came and got the baby saying she had family plans. Well she's taken the baby many times before and has always been trustworthy and has always returned him on time. Well Monday morning behind all our backs she went to CPS, hired a lawyer, and went in front of a judge and told them my sister abandoned her baby and they were given temporary custody.

I was supposed to receive the baby today for the holiday, and I'm not even allowed to receive him because he's no longer mine!!!

They have hired attorney, it's not good, they will fight nasty. There's all sorts of dirt on both my mom and sister. But they're not little angels either, Missy's husband was just released from jail because he failed a %#@&#! test, he had coke in his system.

I know my feeling, my instinct, and I can tell there will be no good outcome of this..........he was taken from right under us, literally.

I feel as though I lost a child, I was supposed to have him till the 9th from today. I prepared my house for him and everything.

I'm crying and crying and my husband is getting mad. He's telling me to mind my own business and to not care. No hugs, no compassion, no sympathy.....I've literally been gutted, so it feels.

My sister is a very calm state right now, I don't think she understands what has happened to her and her baby. She's on her way from D.C right now, she will be home later tonight.

They have court tomorrow, but it's not custody court, it's fraternity court. As soon as they find out the baby is Scottie's (which he is, he looks exactly like him), then there will be a war for custody.

THIS IS CRAP!!! Scottie has never even visited him. I was there during his birth, I cut his umbilical cord, and I WORE THE FATHER BRACELET!! I'm more of a father to that baby then he ever will...I get diapers, bottles, and drive them to the store when they need formula.

I'm so mad, so hurt, so alone. I will not be able to stop crying today, not unless by some miracle my nephew is given to me.

Please help me....say anything...please.

[desirae]

Please somebody tell me if anything can be done........if you can meet me in chat, I will be there. I don't have much time to get this figured out.

[Rhapsody]

I am so SORRY - and while I know I cannot remove the pain you are going thru right now.... please let us share in it with you, as to lessen the wound.


LoVe,
Rhapsody - (((( hugs ))))

[SeptemberMorn]

Desirea! If you can get the proof you need to prove that cocaine was found in this person's system, GET IT!!! Get an attorney! Your family can pitch in for the costs!

Your husband obviously is not dealing with this very well, either. I'm so sorry!

YOU HAVEN'T LOST YOUR NEPHEW YET!!

[Evangelista]

(((Desirae)))

Agree with the comments already stated..getting a Lawyer to assist in this manner is highly recommended..the court needs to hear both sides of the story..so they can determine the appropriate action..especially if this other person's spouse has a documented history of drug abuse..your hubby probably is feeling defensive as this is unfolding, and he sees you in such crisis and pain, but I hope he comes around to help you thru this....many hugs..good luck...

[LMo]

Oh no Desirae - I don't know how to help but you have ALL of my support!

[desirae]

I jsut got done talking in chat and I've realized a few things while I was up there. I'm calmed down now, still a little hurt because I was supposed to have him today, but much calmer and cool. I'm going to go do something with my kids!....fireworks, something.

Thanks for your support.

[Evangelista]

((Desirae))

Hope you enjoy celebrating the day with your children...glad to know that someone was able to chat with you and support you thru this horrid situation..best of luck and take care....

[January]

(((((((((( Des )))))))))))))

Go to that hearing tomorrow. Ask to state your case. Please let us know.

Hugs,

Jan

[(JD)]

I'm sorry. (((hugs))) All I can think is that the court system usually tries to keep the child with his/her natural parent..and relatives... I hope the judge can see and do what is best for this child... and I hope it turns out in your favor too

[kimmydawn]

(((((((((((((((((( Desirae )))))))))))))))))))))))))

He got emergency temporary custody. In hearings alot of the time, that's easily turned around sometimes (not always) when the allegations are answered.

The allegations that were stated in court will have to be answered, but even if the court deems the allegations true they will offer suggestion for correction FOR THIS CHILD. What that means is if they deem the baby's to stay with father for a bit while mother does what they suggest, it can always be reversed...FOR THIS CHILD.

You haven't lost him, honey.

Hang tight.

We're with you.

KD

[Lexicon78]

(((((desirae)))))

I'm so sorry! This must be excruciatingly painful for you!

I just wanted you to know you are in my thoughts and prayers!

[Rapunzel]

Desirae, I am sorry to hear about this. I hope it works out for the best. No matter what happens, it sounds like you have been an important source of stability for your nephew and really care about him. I hope that you will continue to be able to be closely involved with him.

And it sounds like it would be a good idea for your sister to get a lawyer.

Best wishes!
Rap

[Maven]

I don't know enough to offer advice, although it sounds like the others have given you some great suggestions and hopefully some comfort. Try not to worry too much, because no permanent decisions have been made.

[desirae]

Update....

OMG, it got very scary and horrible after I left here yesterday.

Well what happened was after I got off the web I walked down to the local police station and asked the police officers their advice on the situation. They said that a court ordered temporary custody order would take longer then 24 hours and it would be nearly impossible to get in court in one day, especially before the holidays.

So I went to mom's, and called Dana, who was on her way home from D.C. I told Dana to call me when she gets to Missy and I would pick her and the BABY up. I was very pissed and demanded that she come home with the baby.

Dana got to Missy's house, and immediately they told her that she was not allowed to leave with the baby and if she tried to they would call the law. I told Dana who gives a %#@&#!, I'll come get you, we'll park down the road and wait for the cops ourselves. Well Dana was very frightened and decided it would just be best if she stayed there for the night with the baby and to stay civilized so they wouldn't kick her out of the house.

Later in the evening, after many hours of frustration, Dana called mom crying saying they took they tried to take the baby from her while they were sleeping, claiming she would sneak out in the middle of the evening with him. Well Dana refused to let go of her baby and everybody (Missy and her family) began to threaten her and would not let her leave the room. One girl even said "I'll kick your ***, I don't care if you have a baby in your arms". Dana called the police, and like I told Dana a million times, there was no way possible they had a court ordered temporary custody order, and I was right. The police and a social worker took Dana and the BABY home.

Missy threatened to take home when Dana wasn't looking, so mom and Dana went to the police station this morning and pressed charges for kidnapping, threatening, and asked for a restraining order for both Dana and the baby.

I'm so relieved the baby is home safe and that Missy is going to pay the price for stealing my nephew from us. I hope I never see her or her brother on the streets because I tell you what, it will get very very ugly.

Thanks all for your support.

[bebop]

if I were your sister I would not let them take the baby with them ever again!!! if they want to see him I would make them come to the house and supervise visits!! what a wench!!

[desirae]

Oh I know, she's more then a wench....you don't wanna know what I am saying right now...lol.

Yes, my sister and mom have made it very clear that if they are related then they will have only supervised visits, and if they aren't then last night was the last night they will ever ever see him again.

[mrb020377]

omg! that is very scary.... i am glad that they both are safe now! i hope that it all works out for you and your family

[wisewoman]

Des, I am so sorry that all of this has happened. However, I would like you to think about that child's life and future. I know you feel you have limitted power. I know your spouse doesn't care. But this little baby was not asked to be born into all of this. Babies are a gift and he is getting a very sad picture of the world everyday. I don't care if he is just tiny, tiny people know things and it affects them. I don't know the answers, just that babies/children/ no one should have go through this stuff. Good luck

[desirae]

I know, it saddens me that he has to experience such bull crap so early in his life. I sometimes I wish I could swoop him up myself, but for the mean time it is impossible.

I did go over there today to see him and he seems to have some sort of bug, he has truly been through so much in the last week.

What saddens me the most is Dana wants to leave him again to go finish her "vacation" and leave the baby behind again. I don't understand her.

[bebop]

Des could you possibly take custody? that little guy needs a stable environment!

[desirae]

Just found out some more news. Missy has attempted to gain custody again and we have discovered that there has been an open CPS case against my mom and sister for along time. Plus my mom had her own CPS case from when she was using crack and Dana was being neglected.

It don't look good, I think the baby will be taken out of the home, and I fear I will never see him again.

My sister and mom are thinking about booking out of state, when they ask me if they should, I say yes.......I know that's wrong but I don't want Missy to have the baby, I don't even know this girl, all I know is she's freaking crazy.

I do want custody of the baby, and I wish I could have him with me, but for the meanwhile, there is no way possible because of my husband. He'd never let me take the baby home just to visit, let alone have him live here. He's cold hearted like that.

I'm going to figure something out.

[bebop]

That is sad des! if they do take the baby they will try to place him with family first! meaning you or another relative! I am sorry your husband is cold hearted like that as you put it. That baby needs a loving safe family. Heck I will take him!!

[desirae]

I know, this is very hard......almost to hard. It's time for me to stand strong and do what's right despite what my husband says or does to me. I think I'm going to get custody of him and let him still live at moms 50% of the time. I think I would gain custody first.....I just can't let Missy win or we will lose him forever.

It's funny how Scottie has not been involved in any of this since the beginning, he doesn't want the baby.....why should Missy get the baby if the supposed father doesn't even want him in his family? Doesn't make any damn sense to me.

[desirae]

Taking him away, You reap what you've sowed.


Born a day, not alone
I was there for you even before I knew you.
I watched you breath air for the very first time,
I cut you free, you became your own person.
I wore the bracelet that claimed you as mine.
I was in love, and you were beautiful.
Now time has passed and your all your own.
Drugs, corruption, and pawning has become apart of your life.
Not neglected, but emotionally stolen.
People have come to take you away,
they're now reaping what they sowed.
People are coming to claim you as their's,
and I will never see you again.
I want to fight, I want to cry,
but apart of me has given up.
I love you little man, your so sweet,
but it's hard to determine where you belong.
Sweet milk, soft knitted blankets,
and the smell of your bald head will fade.
Somebody else will take your heart,
and we will go astray.
What do we do to win this fight,
do we run, skip town, and hide.
I don't understand this lack of love,
Am I supposed to fight for you when the battle has seemed already won.
I love you little man, and I love to see your face.
But I fear our days are numbered.
Fairness, betrayal, and a little bit of conspiracy,
lies were fabricated, and backs are now bloody.
Your life is a pawn in a sick twisted game,
I'm so sorry little man, if only I was an angel,
I would swoop you out of this place.
I fear, I hurt, I even feel numb,
my heart, my gut, my soul has been burnt.
Love is so useless when it comes to a law,
motherhood, family, blood, is all nonexistent.
To those who have not cared from the beginning,
you reap what you sow and now we will lose him.