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Jul 17, 2006, 01:53 PM
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not sure where to post this so if it needs to be moved ok.
first of all hubby and I are having to move out of our house very soon. The problem is I can't move far away til after any settlement with workman's comp. So we or I am moving to my dad's house at least until then. My dad is also not doing well health wise. He will be 77 next month. His wife has no idea what is going on because she will not take him or go with him to his dr appts. Then there is my hubby's dad. he is 80 and recently lost his wife, so he is in Kansas all alone. None of the kids live anywhere close to there. He wants us to move out there. I don't really have too many problems with this except of course my dad not doing well. But lastly is my grandson. He needs me I think more than anyone. He asked me the other day if I am moving far away. I asked him why he asked that. He said "grandma I would miss you too much if you did". So this is my issues right now. I can't please everyone. Everyone has always expected me to be here or there...I am only human...I can't please them all. I have no idea what to do..me stay with my dad and have hubby go to his dad's til he is gone. errrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
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Jul 17, 2006, 02:37 PM
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Bebop,
Hi sweetie, ((HUGS))) I don't know if this might work for you in this situation or not..but would your hubbys father consider coming to you? To be closer to you...So that you wouldn't have to be uprooted from your family and friends and whole life and he could still be with his family. This is what my family did with my Grandfather..granted the situation sounds much different than yours but they asked him to compromise a little and he was willing to do that for their sakes. Just a suggestion? I don't know your hubbys fathers situation..but if he has no family left in Kansas maybe he would be willing to make that compromise with you if you were willing to share with him your concerns about your own father and his own failing health..I dunno..its worth a try?? I will keep you and your family in my thoughts..as you are very dear to me..love and hugs!!! |
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#3
Jul 17, 2006, 03:00 PM
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Liv I don't think he would. Everything he knows is there in Kansas. All his friends, his home, and believe it or not he still works!! Bless his heart. He told Pat last night he sure does miss us. That just makes it harder for me. *sigh* thanks hon...you mean alot to me too
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Jul 17, 2006, 03:34 PM
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Bebop...I hear you..was worth a shot..My hubbys Dad still works and he is pushing 79..hes the fulltime doctor I was telling you about the other day...he thinks if he stops moving..he will literally STOP moving..know what I mean..hes a funny man..well..hmmm..I don't know sweetie..hopefully things will work out for themselves..my mother was the type that was always giving giving giving to other people..ask Jenne..she knows her..she sounds like you..always being pulled in all directions..alwasy doing what everybody wants of her..but not of herself..always thinking of herself last..because to think of herself first was like the worst thing she could possibly do..The question Bebop is..What would YOU like to do? Honestly..if you could choose without thinking about anything or anybody..what would YOU do?
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#5
Jul 17, 2006, 03:46 PM
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Liv honey I have no idea. You are asking me about ME! lol I have no idea. You know me too well dont you hon? Yes I have done for everyone all my life trying to please everyone. I really don't know what would make me happy. That is kind of sad isn't it? I don't know who I really am I guess. dang! You are good lol
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Jul 17, 2006, 04:14 PM
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I don't think that is sad..That is sweet..that is a mother..a giver..unfortunately..you have lost yourself in the middle of all that giving..and well..somehow Bebop needs to be found again! My mom did it..she lost herself..BIG TIME..but she needed too..she needed to loose herself to find herself..does that make sense? and when she did she just blossomed..and now she is this beautiful creature..not that she wasn't before..but if you knew her then and then know her now..she is the same person..just DIFFERENT..she found herself..shes happy..shes at peace with herself and who she is..just like I am now..and you MUST know how difficult that had to be for me..but its not the same..I was never a giver..not like you or my mother..so I cant compare..You..You live for others..you give of yourself until there is nothing else..until you are so exhausted you can't even sleep..am I right? so what is left after that? You give to your grandson..your daughter..you husband, your father..and now you want to run to Kansas and please your husbands father too..Why? What would happen if you didn't?
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Jul 17, 2006, 04:34 PM
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I have no idea what I want to do hon. wish I did..yes I do know!! I want some me time! I want to go to the beach! relax for awhile
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Jul 17, 2006, 04:38 PM
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heee..heee..I live by the beach!!! Lets go!!!
 seriously..I don't mean to lecture..HA HA..I have no right..I just care..and I will shut up now..you will do what you will do..and I can't stop you or tell you other wise..but I wish you WOULD take some time for you..that trip to the beach!! That WELL DESERVED trip to the beach..and when there sit and soak up the sun and think about every thing else that you need and want to do!! (((HUGS TO YOU MY FRIEND))) always in my thoughts!
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#9
Jul 17, 2006, 04:40 PM
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hon if I had the money I would do just that!! how close are you to the beach? southeast tx? hmmmm my brother use to live in Houston area so I am kind of familiar with that area
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Jul 17, 2006, 05:36 PM
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I am an hour north of Houston..about an hour and a half from the beach..but the beaches here really suck..so you wouldn't want to come to the beaches here..unless it was Corpis Cristi..then maybe..but Not Galveston..the water there is GROSSSSSSS..and the beaches are not much better..and the people..well you aren't gonna find any surfer boys to look at..its sad really..I like going to surf side..its a little drive further..but more secluded..alot less people..nicer beach..your brother might have heard of it..
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#11
Jul 17, 2006, 05:39 PM
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I miss Pensacola, Florida..talk about beaches!!!
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Jul 17, 2006, 06:02 PM
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I have been to galveston! it use to be pretty nice down there. heck at one time they even had a nude beach down there lol. I use to go thru your area from time to time driving the truck...in fact I went thru back roads from arkansas the day after that shuttle went down...what an erie feeling that was...right thru the main town it went down in. yikes
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Jul 17, 2006, 09:59 PM
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(((((bebop)))))
I'm not good with these kind of things (I'd be the one who was stubborn and stay with my dad no matter what) but I just wanted to let you know I'm here for you no matter what happens.
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#14
Jul 17, 2006, 11:38 PM
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awe thanks lexi. yeah I am thinking my dad needs me really bad...like today he went to the dr alone again!!! his wife will not go with him...he can't remember much so by the time he gets back home he has forgotten so much of it. errrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
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Jul 18, 2006, 11:11 PM
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bebop......i'm sorry that this is happening to you right now.....it's a hard one........good luck, xoxox pat
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Jul 18, 2006, 11:22 PM
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thanks Pat. how is Bill?
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