question on homosexuality and therapy

Does anyone here know of a forum for discussing homosexuality in the context of the idea that it stems from unhealed wounds? Not sure I'm making myself clear hear. A discussion where the underlying psychic pain and how it relates to the development of same-sex attraction is discussed. Hope the gist of my question comes across. Thanks a lot!

I know that www.Crazyboards.org has a forum to discuss Gay issues.

I have many family members who are gay.......so I am in the "born that way" camp........at least for us....

I hope you find what you are looking for, but the above site is a good place to start.

Take care

edited to correct website name.......sorry

I was wondering the same thing myself, but i never thought to ask here on the forum?

I'll check out the link that the previous member left...thanks

Just so you know, homosexuality is NOT caused by unhealed wounds from past abuse. It's something that is just there. Whether people realize they are homosexual right away, or in later life, its something that is there from the get-go. What about all the abuse survivors that are heterosexual?

I believe that past abuse can certaintly cause homopbobia, but not homosexuality. The question is NOT what causes homosexuality, but what causes homoPHOBIA.

I'll put the question back to you! What do you suppose causes HETEROsexuality? Same thing, guys!

There are no facts on this issue, just evidence. People can have differing opinions--I just want to point out that the original poster just seems to be looking for a resource, not a debate.

this bothers me, thats all im saying. Its bringing out the worse in me

Hey guys, just wanted to apologize for my outburst earlier. I'm sorry if I upset anyone. Its a sensitive topic for me.

((((Hugs))))

dez,

nothing you said offended me. I didnt mean you to think that. I was getting worked up cos I think people are gay just because they are. Sorta born that way which was what you were saying anyway,

Were cool, yeah?

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dez,

nothing you said offended me. I didnt mean you to think that. I was getting worked up cos I think people are gay just because they are. Sorta born that way which was what you were saying anyway,

Were cool, yeah?

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Yep, absolutely!

I am aware that there are opposing views as to the origin of homosexuality. I am also aware of resources in support of the view that homosexuality is "genetic", if you know what I mean.
What I'm not aware of is a resource in support of the view that homosexuality has its roots in childhood/adolescent development, etc. The intent of my post was to reach out to the public, perhaps one of you is aware of such a resource and can direct me to it.
I did not post with the intention to stir a debate.
I thank you in advance!

Guys I understand where your going with this. HOWEVER.. if a person feels they may be gay due to their past... its VERY minimizing to disregard their ideas, experiences, and curiousities. We are here to learn about ourselves, and NOT to use someone's questions for political purpose. Let's just support each other in our journey for knowing ourselves.

If someone has questions they want to explore about themselves and it makes us mad, that is our problem to work out. To all on a journey... good luck, no matter what you might find

ahem, without questions, can there be answers?

9874, I am sorry if my comment in my initial response caused you any bad feelings.

Have you checked out the site I suggested? If they can not help you, they may be able to point you in the right direction. I will also keep looking and let you know if I happen upon any other sites that may help.

As you can see the subject of homosexuality illicits strong opinions in a lot of ways. Please do not be put off if you come across those strong opinions. They are just that "someone else's opinion".

Take care.

Daniella, thanks for your kind words. I do not even remember the words in your original post. Just to show I have no hard feelings here.
I generally do not take replies to my posts personally. I understand that in many cases the replies are reflective of the poster's personal experience. A lot of people (including myself) are hurting inside. And we read threads that push certain buttons in us... I understand that. What is helpful in a supportive community as this is to be aware of our triggers and process the pain it evokes. Tall order, huh?
I checked out the website mentioned above. I learned a lot by observing the defensiveness in many posts. By listening closely I heard about psychic pain, and denial of it, shame, body image issues,etc. and that was instructive as well. I learned a lot about myself, as reading others' posts stimulated some introspection, which led to greater self-awareness.
I'm still looking for the kind of forum where folks are open to explore their past and how that has impacted their gender issues, sexual orientation, etc. Without expectation of changing it. Although there's a chance that when the underlying psychic pain is worked through these issues do as well.
Personally, I'm respectful of either view. Humans are so complex, allow their complexity to be, and leave it to them to deal with it in whichever way they want to.

I'd like to add one comment: I'm pretty much accepting of folks. I don't get hung up on the "labels". I'm a lot more interested in how they got to where they are not, what have been their life experiences that have brought them to the point of this "label".