[abbidy]

I feel so much guilt!! How does everyone handle this? I can't get over my anxieties and go out into social situations. So my husband doesn't get to see his friends very often. I don't take care of my house like I should. I don't work, and that makes me feel bad, because whenever someone asks me what I do, I just sort of smile and feel like an idiot. I'm only 27, but I just can't handle working. Guilt is choking the life out of me!! I feel guilty I didn't make the bed, anything will make me feel guilty. What can I do to manage this?

[drunksunflower]

I work really hard because while I'd love to stay in bed all day, it just isn't feasible. I don't want to end up behind my peers just because of being 'depressed'.

Sometimes it is a matter of forcing yourself through things and then you get some satisfaction/motivation from actually achieving. Even though you thought before you did it that it was impossible ...

Guilt, though, is not a constructive emotion.

Good luck

[darkeyes]

Oh wow,so much sounds like me and when I feel that way,which is often,I worry about everything,more and more as I get older,then I feel guilty for not doing everything,or getting to everything that needs attention.
This was and sometimes still is something that comes up in my pdoc visits and when I was going for "talk therapy".
My pdoc and therapist always remind me that I should carry guilt for the things I haven't gotten to, I don't know your situation, but in my case, my pdoc tells me with all that is happening in my RL right now and the past5 yrs. I shouldn't put pressure,and feel guilt about so much.
Get this, I even feel guilt that I do not play with my dogs,cause of my RL responsibilities,but they aren't bored,but content to lie on the couch,sleep,eat and have a sunny spot on the kitchen floor or having the AC on.
But here I go, even that I worry and get guilt feelings,it can really be overwhelming.
I worry about the safety of my adult son,my husband,my health,the earth,current events, the list goes on.
I never use to be like this. Also I am not working a 9 to 5,when people ask if I work, Ipause with the answer "no, I used to",but now say "I work without pay, 24/7" caregiver for my elderly/sickly mom,try to care for both homes (cleaning and bills)take care of her pet and my dogs,food shop,drive mom to all doc visits,tests,etc. I don't ever get vacation.
Oh well, I did elect myself to care for my mom,when dad passed away,so I am "guilty" of bringing more stress and guilt to myself.
Talking about it helps, and my pdoc gave me anti-anxiety meds to use "only as needed" and I rarely use them,for I need to be awake so much, but they do help relax me when so much is in my head and I just can't make it stop,and get some sleep. Can lie in bed for hours,stressing and/or even cry over missing my dad and the good old days.
Okay, I rambled,I apologize too, but wow,I couldn't believe how your post was so close to how I feel so very often.
Even the idea of having the beds all made was a thing, now over the past few years, I make them if I'm up to it, but I do change the sheets and pads about twice a month.
It's amazing what stuff can do to us,but it is helpful to see a T if you can. It may help you discover different coping techniques,relieving a lot of unwanted stress.
Take care now,
DE

[hillbunnyb]

))))))))abiddy(((((((( make a list of everything you can do and keep it handy. When you get stuck look at the list and find the one thing you could manage to do and make yourself do it. This includes chanting positive affirmations and deep breathing with good thoughts and anything else you can do.

Gotta just start somewhere to turn the negative lfe stopping broken record guilt messeges from waylaying yer life. We can only hold one thought in our head at a time. Make yours consciously positive consciously whenever you can. The balance will start to shift your way...... work work work cut out fer ya kiddo.

[darkeyes]

Hillbunnyb, that is an excellent reply,and so very helpful too!
Making lists have helped me over the past few years.
I can't say 100% but lists really can be our friends.
Again, terrific reply.
DE