which is more important to you?

Hi Pas, thanks for your reply!

and I know people who a part of me likes who I don't respect..... but imo the healthier one is, the more likely rigid and angry attitudes of lack of respect for some others are softened.... don't all survivors deserve respect? I think so... IF we are all doing our best!

xo Fuzzy

Being respected...this was a tough one to decide but I'd much more rather be respected.

k if i do have to chose it would be respect, i am well known on this site for being blunt, and not pulling punches in my responces, i dont do it because i want to be liked, its just the way i am, some people like it some dont, its up to that individual to decide which one you are to them.

I don`t think I can respect someone I truly don`t like. I tend to agree they both go together but respect for me!

Since I have to choose one it would have to be respect.

Thanks for your replies shearmaniac, bear, Lex and everyone else

respected, but I tend to people-please...so that is what my mind says "respect" but if it came down to it, I might not listen to my mind? lol

lolol... I used to be a people pleaser so I understand

excellent responses _Sky and nothemama!

respect hands down.

life isn't a popularity contest and being liked doesn't really matter much if there isn't any respect behind it.

life is too short to worry about who thinks what about us. when we respect ourselves we tend to not care so much about what others think as we're not living our lives to please them or to cater to their needs.

whether or not folks like us is none of our biz.............someone on here used to say "your opinions of me are none of my business" and we take those words to heart!

Good post zen!!! I agree 100 percent!

I agree, good post! =)
...now if only I believed it? lol

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I would rather be respected. However, I feel if someone respects me there's at least one thing they like about me so I'm receiving both if I'm respected. I also feel that respect is earned. I believe that a person can respect certain things about another person as opposed to a general respect for the whole person.

Bottom line, I would prefer respect (even if it's only about one aspect of who I am) because I feel that somewhere they like that thing about me that they respect.

KD

Definetly respect.

Hi Fuzzybear,
I've avoided answering this question because I want to say it's more important to me to be liked but everyone else is saying it's more important to be respected and that makes me feel like there's something wrong with me.
Here's why I choose to be liked more important then to be respected...
I would give up my seat for someone I respected but I wouldn't give up my seat AND give them a glass of lemonade to drink unless I liked them (whether or not I respected the liked person).
I would smile to be polite for a person I respected but I would never smile just to be polite to someone I liked.
I wouldn't neccessarily hug someone I respected but I'd definetly give a hug to someone I liked.
And there are a lot more examples of this.
Respect warrents a given kind of behavior that can be done sometimes just simply out of fear. I would rather someone act on these behaviors out of love.
Think of your boss or a police officer or a parent. You HAVE to respect these people. But you don't really have to like them.
Also, respect does not induce loyalty whereas genuine admiration and caring would.
Respect can also be given in a cold way. Like I respect my one sister because of her accomplishments but I'll stay at a cool distance from her. Whereas another sister I don't really respect some of her choices in life but I'd be there for her in a nano second if she needed me.
So, I have to say that I'd rather be liked.

Thanks for all your replies!

(seems like I can't stay away from this place...... sigh)

Thank you for your excellent post Jax and for "daring" to share a controversial viewpoint. I agree with a lot of your points..... respect, without caring, can indeed, be VERY cold.

Respect..which I find, sometimes it's hard to come by. I really have a hard time when people out there in the world think it's perfectly all right to disrespect me because I have a disability. I sometimes wish I could find a way to show them or tell them there's more to me than what they percieve or choose to see. I try to give other people respect, even when they don't respect me. I believe what comes around goes around.

Respected

Personally I find respect is much more essential then having people like you. People can like you, without respecting you. I've been through that personally, and if I could turn back in time, I would have demanded respect instead of having somebody like me.

thanks Kimthecatlover and Pilatus

Thanks Desirae, I know EXACTLY what you mean "if I could turn back in time, I would have demanded respect......."