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Aug 09, 2006, 02:49 PM
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If my kitchen floor is a little dirty when you visit tonight?
Or if my dishes aren't done but are covered with a dishtowel until later? If my sitting room is less than perfect? If my toilet hasn't been flushed (water restrictions, but still ...)? If my home is mostly uncluttered but I still bother that you are going to think I am messy / or untidy / or God forbid ........ dirty? Why do these things matter so much? My husband tells me that I am wearing the walls, floors and carpets right down with my constant cleaning. I reply that there could be an unexpected visitor. Why on earth does it matter so much, and what difference does it make anyway? 
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Aug 09, 2006, 03:01 PM
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I feel bad also if my house isn't "clean" when people visit but they never or rarely do but they understand my limitations too.
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Aug 09, 2006, 03:14 PM
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When I clean, dust, do dished, flush the toilet, I do it for ME. Not anyone else. Of course, I pick up my "carpet" from time to time or if I KNOW someone is coming over. After all, it's 100% dog hair! LOL
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Aug 09, 2006, 03:14 PM
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We had a bunch of people over one evening and as the night progressed, I decided to do some dishes. While I was busy, one of the female guests asked "what are you doing" (sarcastically). I replied, patiently, that I was washing dishes. Her reply to me,
"You really don't have a life, do you?" 
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Aug 09, 2006, 03:17 PM
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 I would say you had a life! LOL You were having a party and it was better to do up the dishes then to either run out or have them accumulate! GEEEEZ! LOL
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Aug 09, 2006, 03:33 PM
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Well, yes .. that is it exactly. I was the one that had to be up at 5am the next morning and the last thing I wanted was to come into a kitchen of chaos.
I have been to her house once thereafter .. she passed out .. drunk ... and left the rest of us to do her dishes ... and then ..... hehehehe ... I sat outside, with the men, and did nothing!
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Aug 09, 2006, 03:38 PM
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I am the same way Sabrina. Constantly cleaning for fear that someone will show up unexpectedly, and the house will be dirty. I have OCD, so what is dirty to me is clean to most others (or so my husband says) but I would be so embarrased if someone came over and I hadn't even vacummed yet. Once in a while I think like your post...what does it matter what they someone thinks about my house?
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Aug 09, 2006, 07:09 PM
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There is absolutely nothing wrong with liking a clean and tidy house and doing a bit more when you are expecting company! I do the same thing!
As for that woman who said you had "no life" well just send her my way and I'll set her straight!
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Aug 09, 2006, 07:11 PM
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If someone comes over to see the house that's their problem. Someone who comes over to see me doesn't "see" the house.
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Aug 09, 2006, 07:42 PM
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As long as my kitchen and bathroom are spotless I don't mind about some surface clutter ... I think it is those two places that people tend to 'judge' on anyway
 I have clothes all over my bedroom ... and work stuff ... and oops there are wine stains on the floor upstairs from our last party lol (we haven't got around to getting a carpet cleaner yet). But kitchen and bathroom are clean and tidy. That's all that really matters to me personally. |
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Aug 10, 2006, 04:58 PM
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If there is a clear space for me to walk & sit, it doesn't matter to me at all. If I drop in unexpectedly on someone I just want to see the person - I don't care if there are dishes in the sink or the floor needs to be vacuumed. I probably won't even notice unless there were dirty dishes & laundry & garbage everywhere.
Even then... like if the place was still trashed from a party the night before, I would just sit & talk to the person.... if I knew them well enough & it looked like they were in the middle of cleaning, I'd probably just pitch in and try to help straighten up. |
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Aug 10, 2006, 10:28 PM
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My housemate and I have someone come over and do a thorough housecleaning once a month, because both of us have physical problems as well as mental health issues...our bathrooms( we have one and a half bathrooms in our condo) and kitchen are always clean...but my room, which no one else but me usually sees, looks somewhat topsy-turvy, the thing is I know where everything is and I don't have to look for it which keeps me from getting frustrated...and my computer desk has everything I use out where I can see it, within reason. Plus my computer area has my NASCAR collectibles as well as my Beanie Babies, which are, to me, what makes it 'my space'. Sometimes my knees hurt so bad that even walking bothers me, but I try to do what I can.
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Aug 11, 2006, 12:55 PM
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Well, I'll be honest, there is a huge difference between having a clean home, a absolute perfect cold domain, and a obsession with cleanliness. I'm not sure of your exact situation, but to take a break and let the house get a little dusty now and then is okay. I think it does matter ultimately if your husband has something about it. Maybe take a break for a day, then clean the next. Or clean just the basics like dishes, laundry, and after yourself for one day, then sweep mop, and dust the other day.
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Aug 11, 2006, 01:44 PM
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Well, as I work from home, it is fairly easy for me to keep everything clean and tidy. I do a full house-clean every single day before starting work. That just goes without saying.
But what if I didn't? It wouldn't really matter - and that I am trying to come to terms with. Thankfully, I can say, that my home is not cold .. certainly not after having a son and stepdaughter at any rate! I don't think I have an obsession either, but I think my husband might disagree - 
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