[Fuzzybear]

How do you seek help during a time when your depression ... or possibly an incompetent doctor ... has convinced you that nothing will help, and that you are helpless, hopeless, useless etc..... ??

Take care,
Fuzzy

[inkblot]

What you are asking about I know is very frustrating. Not knowing where to turn or who to turn to. It's hard. I come here for times like that. I will talk to someone I really trust, who I know will be kind and will care, but I may only "hint" about the problem to start things off. I'm in kind of a phase right now where I don't know if my life will ever change and if I should just give up trying to change those parts. It makes me very unhappy to think about these things. Some things are hard to even talk to other people about. I am glad to have the internet and DocJohn's forums available. It gives me a connection to other people and other thoughts and ideas. Sometimes when I search information or look up something specifically, I might come across an organization or something that will be able to help me in some way, too.

[LadyDragus]

you know fuzzy I know how you feel..

i had that feeling about two weeks ago and i just got up out of bed and said "world.. You are no longer going to rule me.. "I" I am going to rule myself"
SO I called around found a new doctor and went from there..

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my needs come second
for if they did not
then I would not be a very good Friend

[heatherm]

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It is the incompetent doctor's fault for saying that hun. You are not helpless, hopeless or useless. Please hun believe that ok? There are good doctors out there who believe in you and want to help you get better.

Is there anything we can do from here to help you?


Heather

[heatherm]

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I love what you just wrote....."world.. You are no longer going to rule me.. "I" I am going to rule myself"

That is so powerful and it is something we can all learn from....thank you.


Heather

[nightdream]

I wish I could help you but I'm standing right there, just where you have described. I have lost the last bit of hope I had in me.

Take good care dear (((((((((((((Fuzzy)))))))))))))))

nightdream

[LadyDragus]

I liked it too..

It was just something I have haning on my wall above my desk, so as not to forget..

<marquee> <font color=red> World you are no longer going to rule me.. " I" I am giong to rule myslef" </marquee> <font color=purple>

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my needs come second
for if they did not
then I would not be a very good Friend

[Peanut61]

Hi ((((((((((((((Fuzzy)))))))))))))): You know, I think Dr.'s have a much higher responsibility not to mess with us, because no matter how much we intellectually know that they can't make us feel this way or that, we do internalize what they say feeling that they must somehow 'know' more than others, but, honestly, some of them are really screwed up. I absolutely know this from personal experience.

The are really good at 'mind-#ucking' with people, and there is a special place in the great beyond for those that would use there privileged place as a 'helper' to do so.

Fuzzy, I don't know how one get's thru. that in a depression, but we do right? I mean, we have to - they can't win - we can't let them.

Remember, God does NOT make junk!!! I think you are grand, (and we know I'm much smarter than most psychiatrists - lol). XOXO, Peanutty

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[Rapunzel]

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I wish that I knew what to tell you on that one. I had to bottom out before I really started getting better, and I think I was in a slow downward spiral for 25 years before that happened. During that time there were plenty of people who should have helped but didn't, at least not enough. When it comes down to it, no matter what anyone tells you, you are really the only one who can make yourself feel either good or bad. It takes a great deal of effort, but you can make a decision to change directions, and then act on that decision and carry it out. It helps to have people on your side who will encourage you and advise you. Try to find people in 3D as well as us here. Don't go back to the ones who only push you down. Reaching out to give help is also good for you. As you see them grow, you have evidence that you are not useless or helpless, and you can give each other hope. You will be growing too. It's hard to do it alone, so keep looking for someone who will help you. You know that you always have us, right?


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[darkeyes]

Try to discard of this incompetent doctor, you are not hopeless, or helpless, the hell with him or her, they are the waste you need to throw out. There are so many good, competent docs out there, hard to believe but true, don't let this creep bring you down to feeling this way about yourself, remember what I told you my former T was like near the end? Well, I have gotten through that, my present pdoc and therapist said he was unprofessional, etc. See, I found a good mix, that has helped me tremendously, so don't stop looking for someone new. . . don't give up on yourself.
You just need to find a new doc,one you'll feel comfortable with, try if you can, it makes all the difference

PS My "dear bear, I do not see you either helpless or hopeless, I see you as a wonderful person and friend

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DE

In giving advice seek to help, not please your friend
SOLON

[Butterfly_Faerie]

Hey fuzzybear

When I am at my low point, I read, and I write, writing helps me to purge all those negative thoughts, or I go see my boyfriend, or call my psychiatrist up when I don't know what to do. I Cry alot and that helps after a bit...

Don't know what else to tell you everyone is different.

~Sundance

"Never react emotionally to criticism. Analyze yourself to determine whether it is justified. If it is, correct yourself. Otherwise, go on about your business."

Norman Vincent Peale

[bptoo]

Hey Bear,

I heard that you have a healthcare similar to Canada's there. Is it really a lot of hassle to change to another health care provider. I'm with some of the others, if this doctor is making you feel this way, a change is most definitely in order.

Love you,
Greg xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

[nightdream]

I hope you will have a good day today sweety!

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nightdream

[Fuzzybear]

Thanks so much everyone!

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