An excellent idea. I used to go to chat quite often but found I got "ganged up" on several times by women who either hate men or say "you don't understand, you're a man", so I haven't been to chat for months.
I do feel this is primarily a womens forum, but other than chat, it hasn't been a problem for me, as I've learned a great deal more about women and relationships.
So, if a men's forum section is not possible then a men's chat session would definitely help.

[seeker1950]

This forum is clearly predominantly female, and I can see where a male might feel the need for more male interaction. Why do you think this is so?...so few males? I would like to hear the other males' opinions on this subject. Have we heard from any?
Personally, I see no more need for a male only forum than for a female only forum. So I guess I agree with Candybear and Greenleaves in this manner. It smacks of segregation and seclusion.
Patty

[radio_flyer]

Good point mellors.. I did not know chats could not be saved and I did not know what is said in chats could not be reposted in the forums... I hope you guys get a forum. Because I do understand that guys need places to discuss issues.. keeping fingers crossed something can be worked out ...

I don't look at a men's chat as a "back door" type thing for men... I used to go to a "panic attack" support chat years ago and found it helped me even more than private therapy... Support groups are a good thing esp if one is designated to "run" it and keep the room flowing with various topics.... etc .. I also understand where u r coming from...

i did not put you down green, i answered your question after pointing out you were trying to validate what candy had said by taking it one step further in trying to bring creed and race into the equasion when it has no bearing on this thread, in any way.

[lenjan]

I'm not threatened, and I explained why I thought it was a bad idea. You asked what people thought. I'm a person. I have a thought. I expressed it. No need to put words in my mouth or characterize unfairly what I said.

Let me see if I can make it more clear: I think it's unnecessary. There is a point to segregating forums by illness, so that you can share with others -- male and female -- who have those illnesses. There is no reason whatsoever to segregate forums by gender, or race, or favorite color, or the month in which you were born, or any of the other things people invariably would ask for if you start down this path.

Men are welcome to open a thread anywhere and say "males only please." I know I would respect that. I'm sure most of the rest of us adults here would respect that. Why do you feel the need for a separate forum when you have the same capability to share as anybody else on the site already?

[Greenleaves]

This topic triggered me. I feel upset. I just want everyone to be welcomed.

seeker there is no nedd for me to anser your question, you answered it yourself in the first sentance "This forum is clearly predominantly female, and I can see where a male might feel the need for more male interaction. Why do you think this is so?...so few males?"

but i will ask "why do YOU think that is ?" so few males that is, and what do you think we should do to attract and keep more males to the site?, whats your solution?

candy where am i putting words in your mouth with my post to you, here it is again so you dont have to scroll back a page

Candy this entire website is predominantly female, my idea of creating a forum just for men is to try and keep the men that join he site by giving them someware to go for the support off another male, why is this so threatening to you?

welcome to the thread gtrplayer

[seeker1950]

Mellors, in my personal experience in dealing with various issues, the men I've known have not been inclined to talk about concerns or problems. That's what we do here...we talk and hopefully help each other thru various concerns and/or even serious problems.
It's really good to see a man here who wishes to discuss matters on a variety of subjects, but perhaps I am prejudiced to think that most men just don't care to talk about [stuff. That's been my experience, and this is why I think we see so few males here.
Patty

[PlanningtoLive]

I agree with Candy and Greenleaves - it is unnecessary. Simply put Men Only in the Subject line - we are grownup enough to respect it.

Just an opinion, as requested.

[lenjan]

Mellors, I've now explained twice, as clearly as I would to a small child, why I feel the way I do. If you choose not to read it and understand it and respect it, that's not my problem.

Again -- as *you've* now told me I am, twice -- I am NOT threatened. I am an intelligent human being expressing an opinion, for which you asked. I'm now done. Good luck to you.

"the men I've known have not been inclined to talk about concerns or problems."

thats my point seeker, men are more likley to talk to another man than to a woman over issues concerning them, its a social peer pressure thing, we, well some of us, have been brought up being told it is not the right thing to do to share what is happening to us with a female, its classed has a sign of weakness so we bottle it up, you being a female can not possibly understand it, the same way we men cant fully understand pregnancy, you tell us what is happening but we dont fully understand the complexities of it has we can never experiance it.

[drunksunflower]

candybear, to me that seems a little selfish - mellors is correct that the site is female dominated.d

a little sanctuary for men, such as the one created for people who are religious / spiritual, seems like an excellent idea.

I vote yes!!!!!!!

i understood the first time candy, i repeated the answer but maybe i wasnt clear enough, i think i made it clearer on my post above this to seeker.

thank you dsf

[SeptemberMorn]

Mellors, for what it's worth, I think you're on the right track. I don't see your efforts as exclusionary or causing division/segregation.

I completely understand you wanting to make the men welcome that come to this site looking for support. Men DO talk easier to other men.

I wish you the best of luck in this.

just for clarification i did ask for your opinions on this thread, noware did i say i wouldnt try to change your minds, if you have a question or concern i will try to answer them not just leave them sitting on the thread.

thanks sept

[okiedokie]

It seems to me you are more interested in promoting your own agenda than in hearing other people's opinions. Back off!

I think if a men's only forum is established, the men you are concerned about serving may only wish to read/post in that forum only and they will be missing out on a good opportunity to LEARN how to interact with both sexes and in general, on a lot of good information to be had in the other forums.

That being said, I personally don't have any objection. But, do you plan to suggest a gays only forum too?

[January]

I used to be part of a huge site concerning a particular disease. We had lot's of regular forums and a "Men Only" and a "Women Only" forum. They were very helpful to all of us. There are just some things that men need to discuss with each other and some that women feel more comfortable discussing only with other women.

I would like a "Men Only" and a "Women Only" Forum.

Jan

[drunksunflower]

(edited by LMo)

I think if a men's only forum is established, the men you are concerned about serving may only wish to read/post in that forum only

whats wrong with that? if anything it will be a step forward, at least they will be posting and not just leaving the site because they cant find something or someone to relate to,also the entire site will still be open for them to read and post if they wish

has for promoting my own agenda, my agenda is to have a male only forum established and i wont back off not now, not ever,
have any of you wondered why more males have not posted on this thread other than myself and gtrplayer?

think about it and get back to me, answers on a postcard please

[desirae]

ANYWAY....there is absolutley nothing wrong with it...we are speaking of every man of every kind. Of course there will be people with their dramatic objections, but in every case there always is...the majority of the vote was yes...not that it will happen or anything, I'm just saying...

I'm a chick, and I just don't care if men go scurry off and have their male problems with held between man and man...I respect that. It's not like I'm gonna be talkin about my floupian tubes in the general columns...you get what I mean...

thanks for understanding desirae, i understand your point also