Crazy neighbor--may call police

Amen to that, Vet!! I just posted an APB for her and Dexter. Hope they answer soon!





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I'll second all what Itltedvett just said.

Strarbuck

Born in 1963 of French mom and Canadian dad. Studied a lot (Majors in History, Theology, M.A. in Sociology).

This guy has been almost getting more relaxed in his ways and not so compulsive to do things, but he is still a bit of a problem. Wednesday night he saw me in the parking lot by my car as he was pulling in. There is an alley, so he drove right on through and went to the front of the building and pretty much waited for me. He appeared that he was carring things from this work truck up to his apartment, moving boxes, I think. Of course he stopped me as I attempted to go up the stairs. He was giving me the "nice guy" stuff and said he was sorry if he's been bothering me too much, or sorry if he's been scaring me. I reminded him, yeah, well, things went farther than I expected, too. He said something like, Oh...yeah, well, um, sorry about that. I'm like yeah. I don't really believe. I'm only getting notes under my door every other day now. He mentioned that he'd hoped to have me over for dinner sometime, but I told him that don't even bother because I don't eat. He became confused enough and I was soon able to get away up the stairs. Not much else to tell you.

Hi inkblot,

This story is quite wild.

Anyways, I'll take it as face-value.

So even if he's got milder, that means nothing.

In fact, I would personaly still be worried...

Do you have friends living nearby, do you have a cell phone ?

Take care, ok ?

Starbuck

Born in 1963 of French mom and Canadian dad. Studied a lot (Majors in History, Theology, M.A. in Sociology).

Hi Ink. I hope things are getting better. I had an idea. When I had a situation when I needed to get a restraining order I was put in touch with a local women's services organization. They were great! I had a woman sit with me and help me fill out the paper work. And she helped me with the court appointment too. I was allowed to give my testimony over the phone because it was really frightening for me. Even if you don't want to file a restraining order a women's services or battered women's organization might be able to give you some great support. My thoughts are with you! Good luck! Annie

Hi ink

glad you are ok so far.

i hope you can be more specific with this guy in the future. if he asks you to dinner again, don't give an excuse, just tell him you are not interested. if you give him an excuse you are giving him a reason to try another tactic like inviting you out to a movie or something, and in his mind even an expectation of success in the future.

if he blocks your entrance to the building again i would try to avoid getting sucked into a conversation with him again. tell him yes I heard you say your were sorry but i want to go to my apt now. if he keeps you remind him that him keeping you there is the kind of thing that he needs to stop doing or else he will be apologizing for it in the future.

use your judgement with this. be gentler if you have a sense that being firm with him might anger him. and you probably did the right thing by not making too much of an issue of it in a dark parking lot.

other people have asked and i'll ask again, (sorry if you answered this already) do you carry a can of pepper spray with you? if you see him again in the parking lot or something take the safety off and keep it in your hand ready to use if necessary.

good luck with this and please continue to let us know how you are doing.

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Definatly keep an eye on him, it didn't give him any right to touch and grab at you, that is sexual assualt, and if he is constantly sending you notes then it's good to safe them, have you thought about going to get a restraining order for him? If he is doing this it's your right to let the cops know what's going on, that he is bothering you with notes, maybe they can talk to him?

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