[Fuzzybear]

I've recently realised how dependent/attached/addicted to the board I've been, and how it hasn't been healthy for me for some time. I had the same issues with one of my former therapists.... attachment issues and we were able to work through it but that hasn't transferred to my experience here

So I am really going to limit my posting....... and the time I spend reading here.

I wish for peace,

Be well,
Fuzzy

[Raynaadi]

I totally understand the internet addiction. I'll have the boards up and just hit reload to see if anything new has been posted. Sometimes I need a break too!!!! Take care of you Fuzzy.

fuzzy, I so know how you feel in this respect. I feel so stupid when I start talking in T about problems I experience online *blush*. The only hope I have is that as I move on in becoming secure in my today, my addictions or behaviours will modify themselves.

When I try to stay away from anywhere before I'm ready, I find it like hitting myself over the head. Whats the saying "That which we resist, persists" that is so true.

Actually having said this, I am down now to only posting on this site. My other sites that I have been a member of for so much longer than here (4yrs) I have now moved away from.

Its catching ourselves just before we go to do the action of going online and asking ourselfs, do I need to read/post/check right this moment? Sometimes I can say "no" then move onto something else.

[sabby]

((((((((Fuzzyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy))))))

Please do whatever you need to do hon. Totally understandable. Just know we are here and care about you and want you to be healthy and happy.

*Gentle Hugssssssssss*
J

[Soidhonia]

Hello FUZZY.
It takes a very STRONG person to admit that you have a problem and are willing to help yourself with the problem. I always look forward to your posts and talking to you in chat, but you also have to know when to take care of yourself. Take care and good day. PM anytime Soidhonia

[(JD)]

I limit myself from time to time, as you know Fuzzy. Self care is always a good thing

I do take events and issues I run into here at PC, to my T, as I use them to better myself in the social setting. The political (yes, political) dynamics of a website such as this are very complex and we all do well, in general, in navigating them, imo.

[AlteredState01]

You too?? Wow, I became addicted after the first week! I thought I was the only one who felt like that. It was one reason why I left so suddenly (but then again, I always leave suddenly everywhere I go - probably for the same reason. Well, that, and I am awefully controversial in my speech, but not tough enough to take the responses!)

Will miss your emoticons, Fuzz, because they have always spoken VOLUMES to me!

Will miss you terribly! Come back soon?

Altered State

[(JD)]

I have 18000 posts and you all are worried about being addicted?? Sorry, that just struck me. Maybe I should reevaluate my posting and time here too then.

[therealme]

fuzzy, i feel the same from time to time, but its safer to talk on the boards then talking in the real world.
my cpn has concerns about me shutting myself away in the internet, but what does she know anyway (that another story)
you have to do what you think is best for you dear friend, but if you decide you need a break, know we will be here when you need us
dec xox

[seeker1950]

Fuzz...and all of you..
I too have been addicted to this board, but don't beat yourself up about it. I needed it at the time, and it was beneficial. I have been absent for several months now, and only now coming back sporadically. I think we can comfort ourselves with the presences here and visit as we feel the need.
Patty

fuzzy wuzzy honey bear........hope that you don't stay away too long......

[SeptemberMorn]

I probably need to re-evaluate the time I spend here, too.

Gonna miss you, Fuzzwad, but you're doing the right thing in taking care of yourself.

[Christina86]

(((((((((Fuzzy)))))))))

It's your decision. I'll miss you though.

It's so hard to leave here even for a few days for me - it's darn near impossible.

Love ya.

[Bethsway]

I will miss you alot...but you need to do what is best for you!!! You are an inspiration to me...I read your thoughts often...Take care and drop in when you feel up to it!!!

[darkeyes]

((((((( Fuzzybear ))))))))))
You need to do what's right for you, I feel addicted often too, as my house stays messier and other things I'll put off till later . . .
It's almost like I feel guilt for being online and not doing house stuff, sometimes I even log off and walk away when my hubby is walking in the door, as if I wasn't on the computer but was getting ready ot clean or do paperwork, it's terrible that I have to feel like I need to sneak onto one of our computers just to socialize with the outside cyber world, which I find rather fun or just comforting.
I also find it so amazing to chat with people from all over the world. I never thought it possible, but I must say the internet and websites like this can be addictive, well at least for me it can be.
I discipline myself the best I can, and frompast experience I try not to get too deeply(emotionally) in relationships to protect my sanity.
I feel if a person feels some sort of unusual amount of time being online starts to interfer with one's daily type chores,careers, and/or schedules, they'll need to limit or even stay away from a computer a little, something like a vacation from the computer? Can't think of the right words so I hope I made myself understandable.
I will confess there has been time that I was close to being late for appointments cause I was on the computer instead of being on the road at a certain time.
When I'm online I sort of lose track of time.
Yep, this can be addictive.
Take care now,
Roe

((((((((((((((( Fuzzybear, dear bear )))))))))))))))

(((((((Fuzzy))))))))))
I understand that. I went through that with this board about a year ago.
I hope all goes well. We'll be thinking of you and we'll miss you lots and lots. I hope you'll still be popping in occassionally.

[bipolar_bear]

((((((((((((((((((((((Fuzzy)))))))))))))))))))))))) I will miss you greatly but I am glad you are doing what is best for you. Please take care. You know how to get hold of me.

[Fuzzybear]

Thanks so much everyone xo

Sky and Sept.....NO!!! You don't spend enough time here!!

[AlteredState01]

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Patty

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Wow! Thanks, seeker! I don't feel so bad for disappearing! Yeah, because someone we have connected to is still here!! I never thought about it that way! IRL, it's even that more tenuous, isn't it (at least in my case...)? Online, with the wide reach of people, it maybe just that this is more of our reality?? (Not that I endorse isolation!!!) - Ok, getting off track here, but what I mean is, there IS SOMEONE AT THE OTHER END typing this message to you, isn't there?

As mean as I get, there is always someone here to calm me; or set me straight...

Altered State

[darkeyes]

That is so true.
I know if I do no feel comfort coming here, then I'll stay away for awhile giving things a rest. And to get back to 3D things that need attention,my house,my yard and myself.

(((((((((( everyone on this thread )))))))))

[Raynaadi]

One day I really wanted to clean my apartment, but I couldn't seem to get of the boards. Then my internet went down. I called my service provider in a panic and they were having a service outage. I got my apartment clean because of that incident.

I told my friend about it later and she said her son has a shirt that says, "I'm only here because my server is down." I want that shirt!

[darkeyes]

Cool shirt!! I relate to this, it to has happened or if my car is being service, and I become "imprisoned" in the house I'll get a lot done, but the typical feeling I always have, is there is never enough in my home. LOL!!
Can't always say it's cause I'm online too much, fully, it does help when other family members help with the chores too, after all they live under this roof too.
Grrrrrrrrrrr!! It's amazing how hubby and son are allowed to go off in the different parts of our house where the computers await, spend hours doing whatever they choose, but if mom gets on one of the computers (we have 5) I pay the price later, cause nothing has been done, so I'm up late cleaning up the kitchen,laundry,etc. Oh, I'm sure many can relate to this scenerio, eh? LOL!!
Enjoy yourselves.

[silver_queen]

(((((((((((((((( Fuzzy )))))))))))))))))

I understand what you mean. Taking a complete break from the site - eg going on holiday and not having any access - always helps me. However stressed out I've been feeling about events on the board, I return with things more in perspective and better able to deal with things going on here.

[Rapunzel]

Sounds familiar to me too. Here I am reading the boards when I ought to be working. And the withdrawal when I went to California for the funeral, too ... I carried around my computer hoping we would stop someplace with wireless. My parents were sure that what I wanted was to send DH an email, but I can call him on the cell phone easily enough. I wanted to keep up with my friends here.

(((((((((( Fuzzy ))))))))))))

TC,
Rap

[Fuzzybear]