[wushuduck]

Anyone else have a massive inferiority complex? To the point where it seriously interferes with your life. For example, I stopped hanging out with my friends because of feelings of inferiority, like I wasn't good enough for them. I mean, why would they want to hang out with me? The same thought process applies to other things in my life, like getting a job. Why should I apply for a job when there are hundreds of people that would do a much better job of it than me? I completely lack self confidence. I feel like there isn't a place for me in the world, and that I don't play any useful part in life. Can anyone relate to this?

Yes, at times I feel like I am not good enough for anybody. Feel like a total reject.

[pegasus]

Yes, can be part of depression.

[atomicc]

Yes I definitely feel inferior to others. I'm always second guessing myself and feel like everyone else is much better than I. It definitely gets in the way of relationships because the inferiority feeling can cause me to become bitter.

[tinyrabbit]

I used to struggle with this a lot. It helped to acknowledge that other people could have different opinions even if I thought they were wrong.

[ChipperMonkey]

Have you ever tried CBT? (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) I think that it could really help you tackle these negative thought patterns. I have struggled with inferiority issues and low self esteem for much of my adult life. I have found CBT to be a lifesaver, although it is not a quick fix. I have to practice my skills every day.

[smmath]

This title reminds me of the "I Love Lucy" episode where Lucy develops an inferiority complex, so you are not alone. (sorry if that was not the place to say that)

But yes I have been in similar positions. I often feel unworthy of support and kindness...sometimes even because of how I look. So I see where you are coming from. Hugs

[wushuduck]

Originally Posted by ChipperMonkey

Have you ever tried CBT? (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) I think that it could really help you tackle these negative thought patterns. I have struggled with inferiority issues and low self esteem for much of my adult life. I have found CBT to be a lifesaver, although it is not a quick fix. I have to practice my skills every day.

I've got a support worker who visits me and she does CBT, so I'm definitely going to mention my inferiority complex to her, and see what she says. Thanks!

[shezbut]

Oh, yes, I can relate to your post very much. I have recently had to step away from some things in my life as well, for similar reasons. I tried to force myself to work as hard as I could, to overcome my inabilities, but it didn't work. Hopefully, this is merely a momentary crash (in the grand scheme of things)! You aren't alone.

[Blitter2014]

That one of the worst voices in my head. Captain can't.

No your not good enough to be friends with them.
No you wont be able to cope with that.
Your pathetic for not having me under control.
How are you going to do xyz....when you can't even...

Its the one thing I do well....talk myself down to the point of not having confidence to do anything.

Its a big reason why I daily try to test my boundaries, because if I lived by what my mind told me I could do, my world would shrink to the point of not living at all.....

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Hi Twigg, I can relate to the inferiority complex. Since this depression started in early August, my self esteem and self confidence have taken a major nose dive. I feel that anyone who's not depressed is somehow "better" than me. I think it really hampers my social interactions, makes me not as confident in what I have to say so I clam up most of the time. Just know you're not alone.

[wing]

Yep, Pushing the comfort zone is definitely a necessary part of overcoming my inferiority complex. And CBT is amazing. Couldn't "do" without it.

[wushuduck]

Originally Posted by Blitter2014

That one of the worst voices in my head. Captain can't.

No your not good enough to be friends with them.
No you wont be able to cope with that.
Your pathetic for not having me under control.
How are you going to do xyz....when you can't even...

Its the one thing I do well....talk myself down to the point of not having confidence to do anything.

Its a big reason why I daily try to test my boundaries, because if I lived by what my mind told me I could do, my world would shrink to the point of not living at all.....

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Yes, this is exactly it!

Good to know I'm not alone. I don't know if its the depression, anxiety or whatnot, but it is a horrible thing.

I feel inferiority complex and some other complex too.

-No friends after school years till now
-No drive a car,i already have driving license 7 years but still..
-Failure in studies more than twice
-No relationship so far
-No fun,no vacations never
-Νo job experience so far
-Shyness,antisocial behavior,fear of failure,of take action for anything
-Feelings of useless,hopeless,low self esteem,low self confidence,insecurities,loneliness,isolation,lost meaning of life

Zero experience in whole life all over the years made me feel that time passes but i have stuck in the same point without i can help my self to overcome these stupid complex.

[joe2014]

Sacred Path, I feel the exact same way.

[sweetie_7]

I very much relate to feeling inferior. I have zippo self esteem. I deactivated my Facebook account about a year ago and lay night I reactivated it. Everyone seems so jolly in their perfect pictures of friends and family fun. I moved 3 times in the past few years so I really have no close friends. Everyone I know is in a relationship and has kids so it's hard for me to relate and have any kind of social life. I'm 36 and starting all over.

[BLUEDOVE]

Please invest in books by the master on subject,
Nathaniel Branden,especially "Honoring The Self".
The man changed my life.

[sweetie_7]

Originally Posted by Sacred Path

I feel inferiority complex and some other complex too.

-No friends after school years till now
-No drive a car,i already have driving license 7 years but still..
-Failure in studies more than twice
-No relationship so far
-No fun,no vacations never
-Νo job experience so far
-Shyness,antisocial behavior,fear of failure,of take action for anything
-Feelings of useless,hopeless,low self esteem,low self confidence,insecurities,loneliness,isolation,lost meaning of life

Zero experience in whole life all over the years made me feel that time passes but i have stuck in the same point without i can help my self to overcome these stupid complex.

Are you in school? Do you work? (Sorry if that's too personal just trying to brainstorm helpful suggestions)

Originally Posted by sweetie_7

Are you in school? Do you work? (Sorry if that's too personal just trying to brainstorm helpful suggestions)

Im not in school,not working,im 27 yo.

[sweetie_7]

Originally Posted by Sacred Path

Im not in school,not working,im 27 yo.

Are those options? Maybe volunteering? It's hard when we wake up one day and realize we are not living the life we thought we would at this age.

[WantToGrow]

I can relate as well. Mainly just super low self esteem. I have been too negative in life and am trying this web site: happify.com. I finally feel like maybe becoming more positive and happy is possible. Unfortunately, this is a website that has the goal of making money and so they allow you to do some stuff for free but to benefit from all the site can offer they want you to become a paid member. I guess it's less costly than therapy, though, and since we live in the sticks and our co-pay for therapy is over $30/session, I might just go ahead and pay!

I'm all for things i can find online to help because I hate leaving the house and have found the whole therapy deal in the past rather wearying. But, we have got to pull ourselves out of this negativity, right? It just sucks and I'm sick and tired of living like that - we deserve to have happiness and we do have value!

[gizmo87]

Me too. I've lacked confidence for a long time and it usually doesn't take much to throw me back into the cycle... I began looking at it as the classic problem of the chicken and the egg. Which came first? The difference is I'm asking myself "Was I born a loser or did I prove it first?" In either form of the question, neither answer makes much sense, which is the point in this case. Thinking about it like that helps ease things sometimes. At least to give me a break from being so hard on myself so I can get a couple of things done.

Thanks to everyone who mentioned CBT. I'm also going to look into it. These things are all very new to me.

(((WantToGrow))) I checked out happify.com as well, and there seems to be something to it. I like how it links individual studies on the side as the reason for an exercise.

I'm really dissapointed that i still facing stupid inferiority complexes all over the years,i see no escape and i am shy to search any kind of help.I have read many articles,supposed solutions...

[avlady]

alot of people have inferiority complexes. the strange thing too is alot of these people come across as being arrogant or people think they think they are better than everyone else. i think that about me, i am soo shy people think i think i'm better than them, but really i'm scared to engage in a conversation. i often feel like i could never live up to certain expectations of others too.

[Teacup381]

I definitely know how this feels.. It sucks to not be able to do things in life and take opportunities when your feeling of inferiority is so overwhelming. I'm glad you have some sort of support to help you through that though.