[Raynaadi]

This is always a sad time of year for me. I lost my mom when I was 20 to cancer. All the commercials, all the specials on tv.....I've gotten tearful nearly every morning this week watching the Today show.

So for everyone else here missing Mom.....we all have each other.

(((((((((( {{{{{{{{{{ ~*Mom*~ }}}}}}}}}} ))))))))))))

[snowflake_48888]

(((((((rayna))))))) (((((((mom)))))))))
Snow

[Sabrina]

(((Rayna))) and anyone else missing their Mom!

[sabby]

((((((((((Rayna)))))))))))

I so can relate hon...I lost my mom to cancer when I was 25. That was 26 years ago. I still miss my mom like mad and so wish I could lean on her shoulder once more, or taste her awesome homebaked cookies again.

We can cry together if you like, and reminisce about our wonderful mommies!

Hugsssssss
J

[Raynaadi]

Are you looking forward to all the Mother's Day commercials being over with too?

Missing that I never really had a "mom" due to her having an extreme case of bipolar & got sick when I was about 3. Her suicide when I was 15 really made an impact on me--not a positive one--it taught me that suicide was an option. Hope she has found some peace that she never had here on earth.--Suzy

[sabby]

Yep Rayna...you bet I am going to be happy when they are all done!

[Bethsway]

(((((((((mom))))))))))) miss you!!

[drunksunflower]

yea i am like rayna's situ, I was 17.

hugs to everyone

i wish i didn't have to hear everyone else being happy about it ... i suppose i have a mix of yay enjoy it and why can't it be me too going on.

:/

[okiedokie]

(((Rayna))) and everyone else missing their mom. My mom died of CA just a few years ago too. I miss her terribly and have also cried many times over the last couple of weeks.

I will be thinking of you all on Sunday.
Take care,
Okie

Thanks Ray for starting this thread. I too lost my mother so I know the pain and the sorrow surrounding this special day. 26 years ago this past April 28. Just 6 days after my birthday. For the first 10 years I'd start to cycle into a depression early in April and it would take till Father's Day passed before I could find my way out again. Ten years of a horrible two month long depression that got worse every year. After two years of living through these times with me my partner suggested we perform a special ceremony from his culture.... a feast for the dead.

On the anniversary of my mother's birthday the next August we went to where I'd spread my mother's ashes and we layed out the blankets. We prepared the fire and set out the offerings. We gathered in a circle to smoke the pipe and offer prayers. We partook in a meal of my mother's favourite foods. Some of her sisters were with us and while we ate we remembered together her life and why we loved her. The eagles came that day as did the ravens, the coyotes and squirrels. The sun broke from behind the clouds as we ate the last bits of food. The clouds swirled to make the shape of a woman floating and dancing high in the sky. We all felt the sensation of freedom, satisfaction and joy. We laughed.... we cried.... we honoured my mother and we embrassed the memory of the times in our lives that we share becasue of her.

My culture teaches me that we can hold a loved one back by our grief. The feast allowed me to let my grief go... to let her go to continue her journey. To set her spirit free.

The next year before the dreaded April rolled around I was visited by my mother in a dream. She was dancing and singing and smiling at me. She told me she loved me and she replaced my grief with thanksgiving. I woke that morning to begin a new tradition. Never again to dread this special day. Never again to cycle into depression.

As mothers day rolls around I prepare to honour my mother with thanksgiving ceremonies. I am a mother myself now so while my son showers his love upon me in person he joins me to shower our love upon my mother, his grandmother. We take time to offer prayers. We take time to talk about her life and our connection to her. She gave us love. She gave us an appreciation for the gift of life. Her life was cut short but her love is everlasting. We give thanks for who she was and will always be in our lives and the lives of all those who are yet to come. We also take the time to visit one of my mother's sisters and to honour other mothers we know with a visit or a phone call.

I admit to still battling some quiet sorrows when I'm alone late at night. I too shutter a little when I hear the commercials or the special programming on the radio or on the TV. While I may have found a way to redirect my grief into thanksgiving I'd give it all up for just one more day of her in person.

I feel your pain my sisters. I share your sorrow. I want to encourage everyone to find their one way of turn your sorrow into appreciation. I've been blessed by the gift and I know you too will be blessed.

May you be strengthened by my story. May you pass through this time the victor. I pray for that to be so. I pray for your peace.

With love......

[SeptemberMorn]

I was doing okay until I took a nap this afternoon and had a dream about my mom.

Then I went shopping for flowers for my daughters-in-law. There were women lining the isle where the cards are. They were talking amongst themselves and I thought to myself "I don't have to worry about that" and I smiled to myself. When I got home, I had a good cry. It never gets any better... even after 22 yrs.

I want my mommy!

I'm so sorry September that you are going through so much sorrow. My prayers are with you. I know your pain and pray you pass through this time quickly. I have been taught to believe that our tears are collected by angels who deliver them to God that He might bless your weeping with peace and understanding.

Wish you well.....

[SeptemberMorn]

ChocolateLover, thank you so much! To top it all off, it came to me that today is the 23rd anniversary of my mom's first major stroke. Tomorrow will be the anniversary of when I moved her in with me and cared for her until her passing on Aug. 3. I'm having a rough time even though we're going to my youngest son's house for a Mother's Day lunch today and tomorrow my oldest son will take any request from me to celebrate the day. This year, I would rather skip it... but I won't.

I haven't shared this info with anyone yet this year so you offered me a chance to get it off my chest. Thank you again!

[Soidhonia]

(((RAYNA))))))))))) ((((((((PSYCH CENTRAL))))))))))
I am very sorry for all of your losses of your Mothers. Please take care of yourself. Soidhonia