[ShineYourLight]

sometimes its so difficult to overcome all these emtional problems that we all face on a daily. This is why self-esteem is the key to all of this. Think about it? if you found a way to build your confidence? Do you think you would have a problem with facing these problems you are having?

[stewartmays1]

due to living in hell most of the time my confidence is at a all time low unemployment will rob you of any self worth you may have and self esteem i dont know how to change and improve my situation

[ShineYourLight]

Originally Posted by stewartmays1

due to living in hell most of the time my confidence is at a all time low unemployment will rob you of any self worth you may have and self esteem i dont know how to change and improve my situation

since im assuming you dont have a lot of money since you are unemployed a good trick that helped me when my self esteem was low was with little things. Lets see if you can handle these goals first....

1. clean your room- try your best to keep your room clean. Dont look at it as a chore. Start looking at it as art. Put posters on your wall, organize your things in your room the way YOU want to organize it. And keep it clean....

2. If your living with your parents still (assuming that you are) start to serve a little. Start doing chores around the house. Dont look at it as chores though. Look at it once again as art. Or even just "helping out" around the house. You dont have to set your goals high NEVER do this. Just tell yourself once a week that im going to do one chore

3. exercise? maybe a simple walk....me personally i like to stay up at night (party) w/e the case may be. So what i usta do is take a simple "night" walk....i liked to talk to myself and clear my head...

eventually when you start doing some of these things ESPECIALLY THE CLEANING YOUR ROOM PART. your confidence builds just a little more. Even though its a little, believe me your'll notice the "little"..Because confidence is HUGE when it comes to human development. Then after the confidence increases your motivation WILLL increase. Then hopefully after keeping up your room for a little. You will finally start to believe in yourself more then you can make the decision whether or not your ready for another job

[avlady]

Shineyourlight is right. it will help greatly, you can paint your walls too.

[ShineYourLight]

Originally Posted by avlady

Shineyourlight is right. it will help greatly, you can paint your walls too.

HAHHAH i love the "you can paint your walls too" yes absolutely. as kids were "ordered" to clean are room. well some of us. i was hehe. but when i started to look at it as "my room" it all changed and i took ownership and start to decorate with my taste hehe. BIG SCREEN. stuff like that you know

[Aviza]

My self-esteem level is fine for the most part, but then the reality of my situation sometimes brings it down.

[BlueCrustacean]

I think that once your self-esteem is really strong, you look at your surroundings, even if they're terrible, and see possibilities of how to change it, or look at what's good, instead of letting it get you down. Confidence is attitude, and a good attitude is key for any situation that you're in. Then there's nothing you can't overcome.

Originally Posted by ShineYourLight

sometimes its so difficult to overcome all these emtional problems that we all face on a daily. This is why self-esteem is the key to all of this. Think about it? if you found a way to build your confidence? Do you think you would have a problem with facing these problems you are having?

If only it was as easy as building up self-esteem. It's important, yes, but raising oneself from the ground up, it takes time, and different paths per person.

I think that there's no easy solution for "emotional problems".

We don't know how deep they are, what caused them, and the way out of them. Each person is different, had different experiences ranging from "skinned knee" to "severed limbs" in the "hurt scale", so... no, I don't believe that there is a "one size fits all" strategy.

So, what's the key? I don't know, I'll leave that to the ones that are trained to find that out.

[ShineYourLight]

Originally Posted by BuildABridge

If only it was as easy as building up self-esteem. It's important, yes, but raising oneself from the ground up, it takes time, and different paths per person.

I think that there's no easy solution for "emotional problems".

We don't know how deep they are, what caused them, and the way out of them. Each person is different, had different experiences ranging from "skinned knee" to "severed limbs" in the "hurt scale", so... no, I don't believe that there is a "one size fits all" strategy.

So, what's the key? I don't know, I'll leave that to the ones that are trained to find that out.

I think that sometimes we have developed ways to believe that its hard to develop personal skills. I think when we train our mind to believe that its hard then it becomes hard. For ex) say YOU were stuck in a situation that you cant seem to find a way to get out of. Would you rather me tell you, its going to take time, but you can get out of it. Or would you rather me say," its not hard to get out of, you CAN do it on your own also, there is a easy way out!" which option would best comfort you? Please if your going to argue with me Don't argue i beg you.. Only uplift me not bring me at a steady pace. Why do you think people are on this forum. to be steady where there at? Or motivated to come out of the situation. Bring people up the best you can

[krinkle1973]

[QUOTE=ShineYourLight;4866000]since im assuming you dont have a lot of money since you are unemployed a good trick that helped me when my self esteem was low was with little things. Lets see if you can handle these goals first....

1. clean your room- try your best to keep your room clean. Dont look at it as a chore. Start looking at it as art. Put posters on your wall, organize your things in your room the way YOU want to organize it. And keep it clean....

2. If your living with your parents still (assuming that you are) start to serve a little. Start doing chores around the house. Dont look at it as chores though. Look at it once again as art. Or even just "helping out" around the house. You dont have to set your goals high NEVER do this. Just tell yourself once a week that im going to do one chore

3. exercise? maybe a simple walk....me personally i like to stay up at night (party) w/e the case may be. So what i usta do is take a simple "night" walk....i liked to talk to myself and clear my head...

eventually when you start doing some of these things ESPECIALLY THE CLEANING YOUR ROOM PART. your confidence builds just a little more. Even though its a little, believe me your'll notice the "little"..Because confidence is HUGE when it comes to human development. Then after the confidence increases your motivation WILLL increase. Then hopefully after keeping up your room for a little. You will finally start to believe in yourself more then you can make the decision whether or not your ready for another job [/QUOTE

That is awesome advice. Thank you

[ShineYourLight]

[QUOTE=Aviza;4866538]My self-esteem level is fine for the most part, but then the reality of my situation sometimes brings it down.[/QUOT

i think i already spoke to you. but if your reality sets in and your not comfortable with your situation, i dont believe that you have met your potential of your self-esteem. For ex) me personally if things are rough, im still comfortable where im at. sounds crazy right? Lost my job and live with my parents, still happy i know im going to get out of it. THATS CONFIDENCE for your self-esteem. Would you rather me say to myself, man this sucks idk about this situation, idk if im going to do this on my own. There aint no confidence there muahahh

[Nammu]

I think I'm fine therefore I am fine. Good luck with that,

[jacky8807]

Positive visualization vand "you are what you think" I believe is true on many levels. It sure as hell helps a lot
It amazes me sometimes ppl are so against the idea they can get better

[BreakForTheLight]

My low self-esteem IS my problem.

And yes I know I need to work on that but when you hate yourself it's my so easy to "just built up self-esteem"

[Lazarus16]

Thanks ShineYourLight, I did just what you said today, I attacked everything I did with confidence and man, I was playing some mean mean bass on Rocksmith 2014. Rio from Duran Duran is so fun to play and whenever I rock harder songs, I can feel it boosts my confidence through the roof! It's an incredible feeling.

That would be my tip for anyone looking to boost their confidence and self-esteem, find a hobby you're very good at and whenever you'll do it, you'll feel re-energized!

[ShineYourLight]

[QUOTE=Lazarus16;4870729]Thanks ShineYourLight, I did just what you said today, I attacked everything I did with confidence and man, I was playing some mean mean bass on Rocksmith 2014. Rio from Duran Duran is so fun to play and whenever I rock harder songs, I can feel it boosts my confidence through the roof! It's an incredible feeling.

Honestly i have to post again for you..

i read this post one more time and caught the fact that you attacked it! that you attacked it with everything!!! awesome man awesome!! keep up the work!!!
sword fight

-SHINE

[Lazarus16]

[quote=ShineYourLight;4870830]

Originally Posted by Lazarus16

Thanks ShineYourLight, I did just what you said today, I attacked everything I did with confidence and man, I was playing some mean mean bass on Rocksmith 2014. Rio from Duran Duran is so fun to play and whenever I rock harder songs, I can feel it boosts my confidence through the roof! It's an incredible feeling.

Honestly i have to post again for you..

i read this post one more time and caught the fact that you attacked it! that you attacked it with everything!!! awesome man awesome!! keep up the work!!!
sword fight

-SHINE

Yes, I think I might suffer from mania so when I'm not upset by things, I have so much energy and almost become hyperactive so it reflects in what I say! XD Today too I'm attacking everything I do with all I got but I'm not violent, I do it in a peaceful way! LOLL

[eskielover]

Actually for me I had to get out of the bad marriage I was living in & find out that when I left my problems didn't follow so I knew the problem wasn't me....so it was time to find out who me really was starting at the age of 54. It wasn't until I started to know myself that my confidence & self -esteem could start to grow. It was in there like a butterfly coming out of a cocoon but it had to be found & nurtured...it didn't JUST HAPPEN. Living on my own for the first time in my life was the best way for that to happen & also find the most wonderful friends I have ever had in my life....feels like FINALLY...but glad for that I was able to escape. I have never been happier in my life than I am now that I'm alone ( with my dogs).