I want my mommy

Anyone can help me explain how comes that at 34 (living with parents) i want my mom with me all the time and when she has to work i cry?

(this started recently after an inpatient stay)

Hi sinking,

I empathize greatly with you.

Can you think of anything in particular that may have triggered this yearning since your inpatient stay? Did you form an attachment to one of the nurses or health professionals in the hospital?

I know it is so hard when you want your Mommy. I want mine too. Have you ever heard of age regression? Do you experience it?

You are not alone.

Thanks,
HD

I've been feeling the same way. I just called mine and it was a short call but I feel better. I got to say I love you, at least.

Hi sinking,

I think it's separation anxiety.

It seems your mom makes you feel secure, so when she's not with you anxiety sets in.

You may want to see a therapist to help you with the anxiety.

I wish you the best.

I'm sorry, it sounds stressful for you To see a therapist would be the best thing, if it doesn't stop. Since it started after going inpatient it's highly probable that it's related to that. Maybe you missed her very much there and now you are afraid to be separated from her again? Or you were very 'cuddled' by the nurses there and you want a special relationship also now? Just ideas, I don't know if these can actually be reasons for this.
Wish you all the best

I agree with kindness. I was that way with my husband and would begin and cry for him not to go to work. He had to work and was responsible and left. I did get over it in time. Actually I think it was when I started to do things on my own. I would write down a schedule the day before. Usually home unless I had an appointment. Some samples of list is. Clean a room, read for an hour, make a phone call, watch a favorite show, exercise, go out in the yard and do a little work, get the mail, take a hot bath, paint finger nail and maybe toes. You get the point. Hope you feeling better soon

yes i think this is age regression with separation anxiety. and yes, i missed her very much during the inpatient stay and maybe thats why it was triggered. its comforting to hear im not the only one who have experienced this. i hope i'll get over it in time too. thank you for the suggestions.

but what do i do when not even my mom is enough to keep me from sobbing?

sounds like seperation anxiety to me too.

but not even my mom makes me stop hurting and crying... what do i do?

Well, this doesn't sound like it is an attachment to your mom then. It sounds like depression and you are just attaching the feelings to your mother. Are you seeing a therapist or on any medications?

Does your mother support you? If so, maybe you need to find support elsewhere (therapist, support group, ect).

So, also if she stays with you, you don't feel better? Do you think that it is because you are still scared at the idea to stay alone (also after discovering that you aren't going to be alone), or because actually the problem isn't that? It's difficult to understand for you, I know, but maybe you could try to think about it...
I agree that seeing a t would be the best thing.

yes, my mom supports me, im looking for support everywhere i can.
at this point i dont think my mom is the real problem, but i dont know what it is except i dont have meaning and purpose in life and i dont care about anything except my parents...

Do you ever happen to be alone with other people that aren't your parents? How does it go?

yes, it happens. i feel safer than alone but my thoughts are always about my mom

So maybe the problem is more about not being alone...Would you have the opportunity to see a psychologist?

yes, they say i was triggered to my fear of abandonment. i hate it. every time she leaves its a struggle. i KNOW she comes back but i always FEEL like she goes and dies and never comes back so im left all alone, unsafe.

I just realized my mom is saving my life. i would be dead without her...

I'm sorry you struggle so much The only thing I can suggest is to try step by step to stay alone at home, beginning with little little separations. It's hard but you can do it We are here to support you.

Thank you. this phase is passing. im still very attached to her but i dont cry anymore when she goes to work. its progress and im happy about it. i hope i'll continue "growing up" as my T said i need to do.

I'm really glad you're improving! You have to be proud of yourself Go on in this way, and keep us informed!

Dear Sinking, I wonder if wanting your Mommy is wanting that feeling of safety and security that nothing bad will happen with our mom there, and the reason having her there is not enough to keep you from crying, is that you long for that trust and security, but it doesn't come from a PERSON, it comes from being naive, and trusting that nothing bad can happen to you WHEN your mom is near. Maybe being hospitalized somehow made you long for that safe feeling, and you can't seem to recapture it because you are no longer a child.

When I get sick, or hurt, I always want my mom. I am 48 years old. My mom is a good person and I love her very much, but she is not the ideal I imagine when I long for her when I am sick or sad. It is the FEELING I used to have when she would smooth my brow with a cool washrag, or bring me chicken noodle soup, and the feeling of being loved. I get it now when my husband comes home with my water bottles or my medicine when I am sick, or rubs my back. It is that warm comforting feeling of being ca red for.

SearchingforMe, i think you hit the nail on the head.
I'm still very attached to my Mom but im able to stay a bit by myself now too. Its more progress. I guess you're right saying that i long for that secure feeling and that it doesnt come from a person, as much ad i wish it could. My T says its a phase that will pass and that it came up because i needed someone to contain my feelings since i've been crying a lot since i got outpatient. I tend to agree with her too. I need her to protect myself lf from too much pain...