Not having a sense of humor=bad person?

I think some people don't like me because I don't have the same sense of humor as others. I can never think of witty comments to say back, and I have a very hard time understand the things they find funny. I DO laugh at things, but they have things other people can't understand-like for some reason my Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle stuffed toy with his crooked smile can make me laugh. I think of words I associate with a certain object, or ideas, like that he was going to go and work on Wall Street (it's funny for me, the thought of a stuffed toy, this one in particular, going out and getting a job) or other backwards things like my dog getting a job. Then when I tell someone else about it they don't understand.

What's strange is that I love shows like South Park and The Simpsons, but I pay more attention to the political meaning of it. Sometimes I do laugh only it's usually at other things, like the facial expression of the characters, rather than the actual jokes. I always think deeply about what they say, how it's supposed to be reversed, and those shows teach me a lot. I don't get offended by jokes, I usually just go into the deeper meaning of them and that seems to bother people.

But I can't make regular humor sound funny no matter how hard I try. I also get annoyed in Real Life when I'm being serious and someone says something smart-aleck because for some reason, it gets them attention. It's like they can't have a serious conversation. Then when I'm in a good mood and I'm laughing about something, I don't get to share it with others because they don't understand or think it makes sense.

So maybe that's why people are so drawn away from me, because they see me as dull and uptight.

I don't think having a different sense of humor as bad. I find that I don't like what most people think as funny, anyway. It's cool that you are still laughing instead of bottling it up and feeling ashamed.

(Bear agrees with the above post )

I know how you feel because exactly the same thing happened to me when I moved abroad! Getting immersed in a new culture has been awesome, but 5 years into this experience, I cannot bring myself to mingle with "the locals" because of my sense of humor. As you said it, I am more interested in "geeky" or political kind of humor but I feel that here people laugh more at other people (for example, I don't feel like I could get a kick out of a video of someone falling down the stairs).

But to answer your topic question, no it doesn't mean that you're a bad person. One of my best friends back home doesn't have much of a sense of humor but she's one of the most dependable and caring people I know.

Gently saying, Is it maybe just an insecurity issue?

There are many people who do not appreciate my warped sense of humor. I can be a bit strange though, I will admit, so only a few people really understand my flavor of humor.

I think that it probably isn't that you don't have a sense of humor rather your humor is different than some people you know.

You seem accepted here and I certainly like you. I have never thought of you as a bad person. I think lots of people think of things they could have said after a conversation is over. I do.

i like sarcasm the best!!

Everyone is different and we all find different things funny.
The main thing is that you find something that makes you laugh.
We all need to laugh, we get off track sometimes because of our struggles
but we all need to laugh.
I love humor and find it helps me get through some tough times.

Nope.

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This is how I feel. It upsets me when people laugh at others. I notice that a lot of people try to make little jokes at the person's expense when they are upset. They do it with me and don't respect my boundaries enough to stop (even my family is like this).

I think there is a time and place for humor but when someone is upset it's disrespectful to laugh at them, no matter how silly you make think the issue is. Yet people do this, all the time. I've seen people do this with toddlers throwing tantrums or crying over things an adult would think is ridiculous (but it's serious to the child). I don't see what about that is funny?

When I try to be witty back , it's terrible. For awhile I had tried this, but I realized that it's not my strong point. So now if someone asks me a smart-aleck question, and even if I know it is, I will respond literally. I did it the other day with my aunt.

I get it, girl! I used to observe who laughed and who didn't when someone made at joke at someone else's expenses and I used it as an incredible people-filter. It took me a long time, but I finally got to coalesce with other people who shared my sense of humor...