[pegasus]

Please people, I'm sick of people saying they are leaving. It's upsetting. I like everyone here, think of a lot of you throughout the day. If you say you are leaving, it's very upsetting all round.

Use PsychCentral to help you when you need but please don't keep threatening to leave. It stinks!

[nothemama8]

some ppl here have abandonment issues, when threatening leaving is said fear comes out

"I'm leaving" usually means,

I'm upset.

I'm angry.

I'm hurt.

I'm annoyed.

I feel ignored.

I need attention.

Maybe we'd all be better off if we just said it. Someone recently did that, people gave him attention and he felt much better.

[Fuzzybear]

[pegasus]

I'm upset.

I'm angry.

I'm hurt.

I'm annoyed.

I feel ignored.

I need attention.

But I'm NOT leaving!!!

[nothemama8]

yep, we're all adults here and have fingers to type, I just admitted I was feeling used and hurt ppl have supported me now and I'm feeling better feeling abit silly too

[Bethsway]

I'm glad you are not leaving Pegasus...and hope everybody else stays also...I know people say it sometimes because they need a little extra attention...wish they could just say please give me some extra attention...I need it right now! Oh well, Please stay all!!

[pegasus]

I'm NOT leaving even if you wanted me to!

[WinterRose]

Good!

[allthegirls6]

is someone leaving

[skittles]

i agree... its getting annoying that ppl post that they r leaving....... sometimes they say that cause they have a prob with a person instead of leaving why not talk to the person ur havin a problem with and try to settle it and be friends...

[lenjan]

it's often blatant attention-seeking behavior as well....I have been here a long time and I can name on one hand, with multiple fingers left over, the number of people who said they were leaving and actually did so.

i totally agree with this thread. i'm fed up with people announcing that they are leaving and 15 minutes later, they're staying. this is after they're begged to stay and everyone makes nice with them.

just PM someone and say "i'm really having a hard time, help me" OR post it. whatever rocks the proverbial boat!!!!!!!!

the subject lines are starting to be triggering and i don't use that word lightly. in fact, i don't know that i've ever posted it.....i've PMed someone about it. i've gone public with it now.

there are many, many people here who have their own issues and work on them diligently. those threads take away from that, IMHO.......

[Gracey]

[Raynaadi]

I agree as well. A long long time ago I was getting very frustrated and knew I needed a break. So thats what I posted. That I was taking a break for a week, and I did. And people replied "Ok, take care of you, come back when you can" and the like. There was no one freaking out that I was leaving, no one was hurt and upset, I got the break I needed and haven't taken a break since.

So perhaps when we're feeling upset and just need to protect ourselves and take a break, that is what we should post. "I'm taking a break." Then no one has to beg and plead, we can get our break and then come back when we're healed.

That's really what my Sedona trip was actually....I could have accessed the internet there if I had really wanted to, but I could tell I needed a break, and that was what it was.

Everyone take care of self. A break is a good thing. The ignore feature is our friend. Take up issues with admin and mods and take a break while it clears up. That's what I've done since the time I joined in '04.

[pegasus]

[tranquility]

I agree and find it quite annoying. Everyone needs to take responsibility for their own stuff and if they need help they need to say it - not have everyone drop everything and start a mile long post about how good the person is and how much they want them to stay. Sorry - this did trigger me. I never said anything before but I don't read those threads.

Tranquility

{{{{{*****Pegasus*****}}}}}

[pegasus]

steady on pat!

It just needed to be said.

I don't know. I don't mind if people post that they're leaving.

I can reply to their post or not, as with any post.

Many people who come here are just beginning to learn to put words with feelings, learning to sit with their feelings, learning that they aren't alone in their suffering. If they need to post that they're leavng, then that's where they are at that point in time and that's the way they know how to deal with what they're feeling.

It is very hard to not have words, to feel alone, to not know what to do.

I'm glad they post something.

[Fuzzybear]

"It's very hard to not have words, to feel alone, to not know what do do"

consideration for others is what we are talking about. it TRIGGERS people!!!!!! )PM the words, if need be.

[Fuzzybear]

The posts trigger me too.

[SeptemberMorn]

{{{{{{{{{{{Fuzzwad}}}}}}}}}}}}}} That's why I don't read them!