[okiedokie]

Hi,
I'm embroiled in an ugly war between two people at work and I'm in trouble. I'm tired. I'm worn out. I'm afraid for my job and for my life.

I'm physically ill with anxiety. I will find out more at 9AM big meeting tomorrow morning.

I don't know what I need...yes, I do. I need to know that everything is going to be alright and I don't think that's possible.

All I have ever been is honest. I'm finding out that honesty isn't always the best policy. It's about politics. Who ya know. Who knows you. Who likes you and who doesn't.

I want to go back and live under the radar. Unfortunately, the higher you climb the worse it gets.

God help me.

Okie

[Christina86]

((((((((((((((((Okie)))))))))))))))))

Wish I knew how to help. I hear you about the "honesty isn't always the best policy". Politics of any kind are frequently bad for people. I'm sorry it's making it hard for you

I hope the meeting goes well.

[okiedokie]

Thanks, Christina. I hope you are doing well tonight!
Okie

[Raynaadi]

((((((( Okie ))))))))

That sounds so stressful. I hope things turn out ok tomorrow.....let us know. Take care of you....

[okiedokie]

Rayna,
Thanks for your well wishes. I am SO stressed out and uncomfortable and I don't know how to make myself feel better and I don't want to blow almost 6 years of abstinence.

Any advice????
Okie

[Raynaadi]

Well....all I can say is that ending abstinence won't make the problem go away. The problem will still be there...and that you can't do anything about it right now. And unfortunately its pretty much out of your hands and all you can do is hope for the best and be prepared to accept any outcome. I don't know if you do, but if you believe that everything happens for a reason, then if this door closes, a window will open. Who knows what the next days or weeks will hold....but maybe whatever will happen will lead to better things.

You reminded me so much of my boyfriend when you said that the higher you climb, the worse it gets. Thats what he struggles with too. Just like in Spiderman, "with great power comes great responsibility" lol.

Just know you'll get through whatever happens and you'll come out on the other side, and then you'll have experience to help someone else down the road. (I need to listen to my own words right now....oh how I know this is easier said than done.)

[lenjan]

UGH, office politics are the worst. I ended up having to leave a job because of it after it put me in the ha-ha house for 3 weeks from the stress. Is there any way you can transfer to a different department? It might just be time to find a new job. Your mental health is worth it.

Good luck and let us know how it goes.

[biiv]

(((((((((((((((((okiedokie)))))))))))))))))))
i hope things go well at the meeting. a job is just a job. its not your life or who you are and your abstinence is certainly not worth less than a job! try to remember something that relaxes you and focus on doing that for a while before you go to the meeting. meditation, listening to music, praying, just having some quiet time somewhere to yourself etc.
good luck
biiv

[sabby]

((((((((((((((((((( okie ))))))))))))))))))

I wholeheartedly agree with what Rayna posted to you. We can't control what others think and do, only ourselves. Preparing for the worst and hoping for the best is about all we can do. Having a Plan B is always a good thing to have so you have a safety net to fall back on.

I think I remember something about an interview for another position. Have you heard anymore about that? Was it within the same company or another one? Is there a chance that this is happening to open the door to the next position? Maybe my thoughts are offbase here....but like Rayna said, when one door closes, another opens. And I always believe - "We always get what we need"

Good thoughts and strength going out to you dear one. Remember to breathe......nice and slow

xoxoxox
sabby

[MyBestKids2]

(((((((((Okie))))))))

Hope everything works out for you at the meeting. I know they say honesty is the best policy, but we all know that isn't true. I'll keep you close in my thoughts tomorrow morning.


Dee

[Raynaadi]

Thinking of you Okie....hope everything's ok today....

[sassypants]

You certainly aren't kidding!! I feel very bad for you, that you
have to go through this. I also was in a very nasty working
situation. I am so glad it's over. I sued and won.

I will keep you in my prayers and hope everything works out
in you favor.

[okiedokie]

Thank you everyone.

I got fired.

Apparently, I'm "not a good fit for the new executive team."

I'm devastated, shock, numb...

((((((((((OKIE)))))))))))

[Fuzzybear]

(((((((((((((((( okie ))))))))))))))))

[biiv]

oh okie. im so very sorry.
(((((((((((((((((((((okiedokie)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
im sorry i dont have the words right now. this just sucks for you.

[Raynaadi]

((( Okie )))

That is just plain horrible! I'm so sorry....

[Bethsway]

My thoughts are with you...Hope everything turns out okay at the meeting...!! Sorry you are in such stress right now...Know that we at PC care about you and want things to go right for you!! Keeping my fingers crossed!

[Rapunzel]

((((((((( Okie )))))))))))

I know that getting fired isn't something any of us want to have happen, but I hope you find a better job that is right for you. Maybe you will look back on this and realize that you were too good for them all along.

[January]

(((((((((((( Okie ))))))))))))))

Oh Okie, I'm so sorry you were fired. I know you're in shock right now and going through a multitude of emotions. Will you have a severence package? You can draw unemployment until you find a better job than the one you had.

I'm here for you. Pm me anytime. Please let us know what is happening with you. A whole bunch of us care about you.

Hugs,

Jan

(((((Okie)))) I am so sorry...(((((hugs)))).....

[eskielover]

(((((((((((Okie))))))))))))))),

I know it is hard to end up being fired, but sometimes things happen in our lives to get us out of the ruts we have been in & can't find a way out of ourselves, or we might not even realize that we are in a rut because is it so much a part of our lives.

I am 54 & a forced retired aerospace engineer......I've been where you are & know how devistated it feels to loose what was me.....Who I was. The best part is that there is now time to look & analyze the past & focus on where you want to go in the future. That is a very good thing even if is doesn't look that way at this time. I felt that I wasn't good enough, that some how I failed at being perfect in my job because there never was anything that I couldn't do. Turned out I realized I couldn't sell myself out for the job or force myself to be the kind of person I really didn't want to be just to keep the job that was my life.

I couldn't see the good at the time, because of the hurt & loss I was feeling at loosing the one thing that was my identity & not on my terms. It does become clearer in the long run & it is important to remember that we aren't our jobs, but the values we bring to them.

It will be ok....the future will be even better than what you had now,
Debbie

[January]

((((((((((( Okie ))))))))))))))

'Just thought you might need another hug.

Hugs,

Jan