Furious!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! abusive dentist

Grrr... I am ANGRY! My son was at the dentists this morning. Afterwards hubby came home looking totally exhausted. Why? Because this so called dentist had forced my son to lay down in the chair, by suddenly grabbing his arms and force him down and then opened up my son's mouth with his hands... as he had a very hard tone... saying things like this: "lay down now "boy devil" so we can look at your teeth".

Our son's got AS and was very anxious about going to the dentist and this really will make a lot harder next time he needs to go check his teeth.

I called the dentist and gave him a piece of my mind. I was furious!


We will never ever go see this dentist again!

you're right to be furious. whether my kid has AS or not, i would never let anyone treat my kid that way. maybe, you might want to go further with this complaint - like to a dental association in your state or something like that. i know it's frustrating in getting people to treat your kid right. my mom had to make sure people treated me right when i was a kid, since i was deaf since birth. so sorry that your son went through this. i'm sure it will be quite difficult next time. one thing for sure, i would never go back to that dentist. wishing you the best.

Oh Nina...what a horrible experience for G and hubby and you to have to deal with. There is no excuse for what that dentist said or did. He was dead wrong!!! He was cruel and inhumane. That makes my blood boil so badly.

(((((((((((((((((((((Nina G Hubby )))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

I'm so very sorry this happened hon....I'm glad you called the dentist and let him have it.....he should be treated the same way when he is scared and ill.....grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!!!!

Love to you all!
sabby

ohhhhhhh..... grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr...

I would be sooooooo angry too.....

((((((((hugss to you, hubby and son)))))))))

This was totally uncalled for, and he needs to be reprimanded by the ADA for his handling of your son. There are other angles you can take here, but I think you might have better luck with the dental board. He is totally UNPROFESSIONAL!!! in his manner, and may complicate your sons condition??? For that alone, I'd be willing to go and punch his lights out!!! That's what he needs.
Also, you can report him to your ins. co. and tell them what went on. They can do what's known as "black" listing and refuse to let their clients see him. That will kick him where it hurts!!!

Please do not ignore this, your son was a victim here of extreme mental cruelty. Even abuse........

I'm sorry!! And I agree with the grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!!!!!!!!!!

A dentist who I still in fact see but ONLY because he is technically competent and did a good job of some veneers and explained WHY they were needed..... said some crap like "I knew you would want an injection for this, you are the one in a thousand patients who would"
(
The dentist I saw before said I needed "crowns" Yikes and I'm glad I did some research! )

Did he really expect me to believe that???? Utter and complete unprofessional %#@&#!.... I mean rubbish!

Strangely enough he's been more polite since he left the NHS and went private. Now, I wonder why that could be?

Thank you all for your supportive words!

This dentist is known in our community to be good with kids. But... he sure can't handle kids with AS! He knew about our son having AS and still he acts like this!
Our son's been talking about this a lot this afternoon and evening.

I'll see to it that this never ever happens to my son again.

This is actually the second time in less than a month that a person has totally lost it coping with our son.
The first time was even worse in a way... My son and I went to my "special educationist's (therapist's) home for her to help out making him feel more comfortable about his diagnosis. He felt so bad during the summer and wanted to die. He felt unworthy of living. As a mother I've been talking a lot to him... used social stories with drawings and text- to help him. Now my therapist wanted to help out.
Well... we went there and my son was anxious and worried... so he lashed out at this woman... gave her the finger- saying "*****, you!" and then he kicked her on one of her legs.

How did she react?

She flew up from her chair... put her finger up in my son's face... said "***** you!" and then she pretended to kick him in return.

Such an evidence of true patience and understanding of AS!!!!!!!! NOT!

I finally manage to calm him down by talking about his special interest.

She's supposed to be an EXPERT on AS and has been working many years with kids. Yeah, right! Expert????!!!!

The following day I went to get a chat with her and then she said next really hurtful thing and not at all psychological words. "If he'd done that on the town square he'd have gotten arrested and put in jail... he would be taken straight to... [and then she said the name of a town with a prison]"

I said to her: "Don't you think that those fears are in the back of our heads ALL the time??? Why do you think we're seeking help???? For you to say that flat out was really hurtful, because one hardly dare thinking the thought in fear of getting totally nuts worrying.

I just don't get! How can people have such a lack of patience when they only see our son for like 30 min- 1 hour... when we deal with it every day???

The only good thing that came out of all this is... that we've realized that we're actually good parents that tries to look upon things from our son's perspective and to prevent causing anxiety looking for triggers and to use certain methods to make him calm down when things get rough. Yes... we fail... of course... but compared to some others... we're GOOD!
I can't believe I just wrote that: "we're GOOD!" Well... I guess it's time to start believing in oneself! But boy is that HARD!

Thanks for reading! You're a wonderful bunch of men and women! Keep going day by day! I'm cheering for you!

Good grief - the behaviour of both is completely unacceptable. Both should be reported - written about in the newspaper - I don't know .... something! Totally reprehensible!

How wonderful for you to find good in yourselves as parents though! I absolutely applaud you for that! Your son is very blessed to have you as I am sure, you also feel very blessed to have your little boy!

Sending you much strength!

You are good parents, I can tell that !!

And I'm sorry about the "professionals".... sometimes they really suck.

I admire you for not giving up on finding professionals who are more competent and caring - sometimes its a long long long road to find them!

((((((((((((( Nina and family ))))))))))))))

((((Nina and Family))))

This is absolutely shocking and overwhelming to me, I can't even fathom how you and yours are feeling. Again, I question myself, what is happening to humanity??

I am so very sorry for all thats going on.



Dee

I agree!!!

(((Nina and family)))

I agree, that was not very professional or very nice of him either...

you're the best... yes- you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you and you...and of course you too

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