Why?

Why do you post here?

What is your definition of supportive?

Why do you think others post here?

Those are great questions FuzzyWuzzy

I started posting here because I was depressed and needed to feel a connection with others. I've not been very good at asking for help over the years, and still find it difficult to do so. Most of the time, reading others posts, the answers they get in return and posting my support to folks helps me in ways that I could never have imagined.

My definition of support can be different in different circumstances. Sometimes it's a matter of giving a hug and saying I understand what the poster is going through. Other times its having been through something similar myself, so I can give more support in how I dealt with the situation as it pertained to myself. And then, there are other times when I think we all need to hear something along the lines of a reality that we aren't seeing when we are engrossed in our issues and can't seem to find our way out. I always try to give my support, no matter what kind it is, with love, understanding, compassion and hope.

My thoughts about why others post here is very similar to my reasons.....we all need to feel a connection with others who go through similar experiences in life. The online community gives us a security of anonymity (for the most part) and we don't have to be face to face with others when we find it difficult to face ourselves, nevermind the rest of the world.

And the #1 reason for me to be here are the friendships I've received, the knowledge I have learned and the fact I've been able to find the real me inside! What more could one ask for in an online community as PC???



xoxoxoxo
sabby

Why do you post here?
i post here because sometimes when I write it , I let go of it. Also I have made may good friends here who right away see my pain. And help.

What is your definition of supportive?
SOmeone who will listen to me. But always tell me the truth.
Someone who may just give me a kudos or a hug or a picture in the games.
Sometimes its just someone who may sit beside me while i cry then helps me to go on.

Why do you think others post here?
Because pc is a supportive SAFE place to be.

Great reply, thanks Sabby!!

I agree with most of what you say and one of my "goals" is to be able to express my thoughts in such a clear, kind, non critical (in a negative sense) manner!

And not to "take sides" either, although I don't know how you manage that! (while being true to yourself??)

"sometimes when I write it, I let go of it".... Exactly (wish it was more of the sometimes for me but still it is the sometimes)

"Also I have made many good friends here who.... see my pain. And help".... Agreed!!

Good reply, thanks muffy!!

Why do I post here?
Because I have found friends and understanding that I have never ever encountered in real life. Because I don't "do" real life friends very well which makes this a perfect environment for me.

What is your definition of supportive?
Sometimes, simply replies to a thread show support. Even if it is just to say, "I can't give advice, but I do understand". I do feel that criticism, even constructive, sometimes just isn't at home in a thread where support is sought after. There is so much more to "supportive" though - what I have said here doesn't even begin to cover it.

Why do you think others post here?
I would think that others post for very much the same reasons we all do!

I started posting here because of the overwhelming sense of relief of being with others who could understand "me". No one IRL has walked a mile in my shoes except for the people here - the understanding and caring has never been equaled anywhere else. I have friends here now - people that have been there during my dark times, and they still care about me.....I find that amazing. They've seen "me" and are still around.

Being supportive is being able to have empathy and understanding for others who are having difficulties - just being there is sometimes enough.

I think everyone posts here looking for the same thing - a place to call home where they are accepted for who they are.

Mary Alice

It's good to feel accepted for who I am and not criticised.

Thanks for your reply (((((((((((((( Sabrina ))))))))))))))

((((((((((((((( Fuzzy ))))))))))))))))

I believe one can stay neutral and not take sides and still be true to oneself all at the same time. To me, it's a matter of realizing that I will not always agree with how some folks think or feel or how they do things. But you see, it doesn't necessarily matter what I think as I am not the one going through what they are going through. Maybe I would do things differently from them, but that's the beauty of having freewill.......and it's what makes the world go round!

One of my favorite sayings is this "There is always more than one GOOD way to do something". In other words, it matters not how something is done, what matters is the end result.

Having differences of opinion is one way to learn and grow. Validating yourself, validating others....that is how one can be non critical of others and to not take sides

xoxoxo
sabby