[Otherworlder92]

I'm just really tired with dealing with my mom's antics. It seems like I can't go week now without having to deal with something my mom has done. I'm honestly just thinking that should just giving up on having a normal relationship with my mom and just cut all ties with her.

[Sunflower123]

What types of things is she doing?

I am jumping to memories of my own mother who in hindsight I now recognise was unmedicated bipolar. I was forced to pick up and move away so as to avoid her hysterics and unreasonable behaviour. It pained me to do so but it was necessary.

I am not sure of what behaviour you speak but I can certainly sympathise.

[treevoice]

It's hard to know what to say without knowing what's going on, but I've always struggled to have a healthy relationship with my mother. What I have been working on lately (and the jury is still out as to whether it's helping or not), is to try to stop thinking of her as a mother and start thinking of her as a person (independent of all relationship to myself). When I try to approach our relationship as a daughter, I become so angry and hurt over all the things a mom should be that she just isn't. But when I can approach her as a person, I not only can see her through more compassionate and understanding eyes, but I also can disengage from the expectations that cause me so much pain. Wishing you love, luck, and healing. <3

[Otherworlder92]

Originally Posted by Jennifer 1967

What types of things is she doing?

She has been calling me and my wife just for no other then just to start argument with us. She has been calling me late at night drunk demanding that I pick her up and drive her home or she will drive home drunk. She has trying to start physical fights with people over the most petty of things. This is just a few of things that she has been doing.

Can you call her a cab?

[Otherworlder92]

Originally Posted by justafriend306

Can you call her a cab?

I have offered to call her a cab but she refuses it for some reason she only wants me to pick her up.

[possum220]

I remember your other post and checked back in on it. So she calls you a terrible son. Other's in the family have distanced themselves from her. Would you consider her to be an alcoholic?

Sad to say that she is not just abusing and using you but your own family as well. You have done the right thing by calling a cab for her. The fact that she chooses not to take it is up to her.

She needs help and she has to want it. Hope you can encourage her to get some counselling.

If you are seeing a psychologist maybe they can help you to establish boundaries.

[MickeyCheeky]

Sorry about that.. I guess you can just try to distance yourself from her as much as you can..

[Otherworlder92]

[QUOTE=possum220;5717453]I remember your other post and checked back in on it. So she calls you a terrible son. Other's in the family have distanced themselves from her. Would you consider her to be an alcoholic?

Sad to say that she is not just abusing and using you but your own family as well. You have done the right thing by calling a cab for her. The fact that she chooses not to take it is up to her.

She needs help and she has to want it. Hope you can encourage her to get some counselling.

If you are seeing a psychologist maybe they can help you to establish boundaries.[/QUOTE
I would consider her a alcoholic and I'm going to try and encourage her to get some counselling for it and I will definitely use my psychologist to help me establish boundaries. I don't know if she will want to get help yet but I'm going to hope for the best.

[possum220]

I would consider her a alcoholic and I'm going to try and encourage her to get some counselling for it and I will definitely use my psychologist to help me establish boundaries. I don't know if she will want to get help yet but I'm going to hope for the best.

Addiction in family members is very hard to deal with. I am pleased that you have a psychologist who can help you navigate the challenges that go with dealing with your mum and her behaviour. You aren't alone in this by any means.

Here is a link to a forum on this site. https://forums.psychcentral.com/adul...en-alcoholics/

Glad you found us here and hope that you find support.

[BLUEDOVE]

Alcoholics will only seek help when they reach their own
gutter. As long as you help her out,she will continue;in
short,you are 'enabling' her to carry on with her addiction.
This is tough stuff I know,but you can help her by not
supporting her in ways SHE wants. E.G. "I will call a cab for
you,but I will NOT come and pick you up."
Be Strong,
BLUEDOVE