[emma4health]

I have always talked to myself, whether it be conversations in my head or out lound, I know it isn't normal to the extent I do it, I have learnt to live with it, altough lately it is getting really bad, I can't shut the **** up!
Back and fort with pointless conversation, before I decided to wright it in hear I went over what I was going to type countless times, out loud and in my head like who ever was reading this was listing to me already.
I had to delete social media a few months ago due to a huge amount of negativity and my social life is diminishing, so I am spending more time alone then normal and I feel like I am in my head way to much, I practice meditation as much as I can, although it is extremely hard to do for me and isn't helping.

[Skeezyks]

Hello emma: I find myself doing a lot of this too. Sometimes I catch myself having conversations with myself, or with other people who aren't there, & I just shake my head & smile to myself at the thought of how hopeless a case I am...

You mentioned you practice meditation. But it's hard for you to do & it's not helping. I've also practiced meditation over the years. And I'd also have to say I never really felt as though I derived much benefit from it. It's kind-of a long story, & I won't go into the details here, but I recently switched from doing sitting meditation to doing a mindfulness yoga & exercise routine. (I also do some walking meditation.)

In my case, I'm an older person & I'm retired. Plus I lead a pretty-much thoroughly solitary lifestyle. So I have time available &, as a result, I spend a couple of hours a day at my practice. It's not a cure. But it really helps curb my generalized anxiety which I presume is at the root of much of my own self-talk. If you're interested in the practices of mindfulness yoga & walking meditation, one book you might take a look at would be Jon Kabat-Zinn's book Full Catastrophe Living. It details the stress reduction program that was (& presumably still is) offered at the University of Massachusetts Medical Center.

Also... I don't know if this will be of any help, but here's a link to a wikihow.com article on how to stop talking to yourself:

How to Stop Talking to Yourself: 11 Steps (with Pictures)

[epthe2]

I also talk to myself and to voices. I've learned to refrain from doing it in public because it can get you into some trouble, but when I am by myself I still do it. I think it actually helps me. Otherwise no one to talk to about these things I might get even worse.

[James Nguyen]

I find myself sometimes talking to myself to but i don't think it is a big problem. You can train yourself to stop doing that in public. Try focus on one thing at a time.

[MickeyCheeky]

What kind of conversation do you have, exactly? What do you talk about?

If it's bothering you so much, I think you should go to a doctor.. do you have a diagnosis? Do you take meds?

[emma4health]

I don't hear voices and I don't do it in public.
I have a feeling it stems from being an only child, it hasn't bothered me much before but lately it has been getting a bit out of hand, I'm guessing because I'm by myself alot more and don't have as many people to talk to.

Hey Skeezyks, I do practise all different kinds of mediation when I can, I also do have alot on my plate so it is only sometimes once a week sometimes a few times if I am lucky.
I just finished up doing a cleaning job, and my gosh it is not the right work for someone with an over active mind! Haha!!
That also has probably contributed to my state at this moment.

Hello MickeyCheeky, it is a bit hard to explain, today for example I was imagining how I would renovate my house and I was having a pretend conversation, imagining I was explaining to my partner what I wanted done.
I don't think a doctor will help to much, I don't feel doctors, diagnoses or medication is the answer to a situation like this.

What I am lacking is fun to be honest and I am feeling that the lack of it lately because of my lifestyle at the moment is causing this extra anxiety and stress, hence the out bursts of stupid repeated conversations.

I just need to find something that will put my dopamine levels back on track that I can do.

[MickeyCheeky]

It sounds a bit closer to daydreaming, actually.. the example that you described doesn't seem too bad, tbh. In what way do you think these conversations are damaging your life? Do you think they're taking away from your real life, or something similar? Either way, I hope you'll be able to find something that can distract you, if that's what you want.

[Teddy Bear]

I used to talk to myself alot but it quit for a while. now I talk to the voices in my head. I don't know how to stop it. I just hope you enjoy the conversations.

[emma4health]

MickeyCheeky I only gave you one example, there are many ways I do it, but like I said I am not talking to voices and I have done it all my life. I'm 24.
If I thought they were damaging my life I don't think I wouldn't bring it up in a forum.
In my original post I was only expressing my frustration.
I'm not sure what you mean by taking away from real life...
And like I said I have realise why it has increased.
I don't need so much a distraction but more a hobby/something fun.

[Sunflower123]

Good luck with breaking your habit.