[gloria]

I used to have a friend years ago. All she did was complain about her husband until one day, I got sick of it, and I asked her: If you are so unhappy, why don't you leave him? Make a choice, either leave him and be happy, or stay and quit nagging about it!

I find myself now doing the same thing .... I apologize, it's just that your replies help me get stronger every day as I prepare for the Grand Exit.

Please just bare with me and I deeply apologize for nagging all the time. It will be over soon.

gab

Ok. You're forgiven. (((((HUGS2U))))) LOL!
You hang in there. It's so difficult to leave someone that you care about. Been there, and then I made the mistake of going back and then she broke my heart--so, keep your chin up.
Blessings,
Jon

[SeptemberMorn]

"it's just that your replies help me get stronger every day as I prepare for the Grand Exit."

I don't understand. Sounds like a contradiction of terms or a mixed message. You're getting stronger but STILL plan a "Grand Exit??" I just can't support you in that.





<font color=blue>"Our doubts are traitors and make us lose the good we oft might win by fearing to attempt" --Shakespeare</font color=blue>

I think the grand exit was meaning leaving her husband?? Is that Right Gloria? I sure hope so cuz we need you here!!

[dexter]

Gloria there is no need for apology, because while apparently you see yourself doing the same thing your friend did, in fact you are doing the opposite and living by your own advice.

It is not expected that the decision to "love it or leave it" be made lightly, quickly, or without a lot of fear and stress and questioning. Just because you have been very unsure, and this has been a process rather than a "decision," the fact is that all this time you have been working on clarifying your thoughts and feelings so that you could eventually make a decision.

You're accusation of her was about continually complaining about it without making any effort or consideration as to what to do to better the situation. That is the easy course to take... to whine but just accept the status quo. The fact that you have had such difficulty wrestling with this over a period of time shows that have been questioning which road to take. Choosing and following through is a process, not a decision. You have been in the process of making that choice.

(I am also assuming that by "grand choice" you mean leaving your husband, and acknoleging that it won't be an easy thing to do but will be in your and your children's best interest, if that is the choice you have made).

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[krzyk101]

(((((((Gloria)))))))
I don't know the entire situation, though no need to be sorry, cause you are not nagging, only expressing your feelings to get the strenght to do something that is very difficult to do, whats best for your own self. I wish you hope, strength and courage in your plans for the future. Best wishes- Chris

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~KRIS~

If you think you have totally gave up, you haven't, because you are here!

[SeptemberMorn]

OOPS! I guess I stuck my foot in my mouth again. Sorry...





<font color=blue>"Our doubts are traitors and make us lose the good we oft might win by fearing to attempt" --Shakespeare</font color=blue>