[Jake_Mo]

I'm ok with this because I love my parents very much, but it's like I never want to be away from them. I'm 30 years old. I have GAD, BPD, and other mental issues, so I'm wondering if this is part of it.

It's not that I'm trying to not feel this way, but I'm just confused by it. For instance, if something happens at work, or some social event, I just want to be home. I rarely hang out with friends or anything anymore because I'd rather just be at home with my parents.

Anybody else ever felt like this? Any answers and info is much appreciated!!

[Sunflower123]

I've never felt like that but it's great that you do as long as it's because you enjoy their company and not out of fear of making friends and being away from the house. My cousin is like that. Lives right next door to my aunt and uncle and prefers their and her sister's company.

Hmm... do you think perhaps you are clinging to the security of home and your parents too much? I don't think it's necessarily healthy for a 30-year old to shun their friends to be at home with their parents, so it could be your mental health issues at play that are holding you back. It seems that from what you're saying you used to hang around with your friends. Did something happen that made you shy away from socializing? I think it would be good to get out again and to be more social. (((Hugs))))

[MickeyCheeky]

Perhaps you're too insecure about going out with others and that's why you prefer to stay with your parents..

[Candle in the wind]

I like reading that you love you're parents and you have a good connection with them, but what are you're parents thoughts about you wanting to be around them all the time? Do they encourage you to get out and get together with friends? or are they enabling you to stay close by and you feel rather guilty if you get out to do your own thing.

I feel it's important to have a good balance, Good friends to have by your side,if not more important to give to support and encouragment

Have you ever left home and lived on your own or with others?

[bpforever1]

Some cultures don't think it is odd for adult children to be emotionally attached to their parents. I live in Japan and know some adults live with their parents still and dote on them. I don't think there is anything wrong with it. When society dictates you to feel that it is wrong to be attached and dote on your parents, then it is fault with society, not you.

[sapphire_aria]

I feel the same often (wanting to be with parents).
Also early 30's and GAD.

When I used to have friends, they would try to get me to go out and I wouldn't answer the phone. It was scary to be around people I could not fall apart in front of. I had to keep up an appearance of being semi-normal to the outside world. I always felt too ashamed to let friends know how I was doing. Now, I don't have any friends. I have a couple I see once or twice a year. And it's really lonely. I wish I hadn't let the fear and shame deteriorate all my friendships.

I personally hate social events of any kind. I either want to be at home alone or hanging out with one of my few very close friends, just the 2 of us. Unless your paycheck depends on it, it's perfectly fine to skip the social events. Not everyone is super extroverted all the time. I have a very strained relationship with my parent so I can't exactly relate to you wanting to be with yours all the time...but if you (or they) feel that it's too much it might be good to find someone who is similar to you who you can spend time with sometimes. It's really not healthy to be with any one person 24/7 (even if it's your spouse). Or try spending some time alone and see how that goes.

[Shazerac]

Hmmm...rarely hang out with friends "Anymore"? This implies that you used to hang out with friends. Has something happened to change that?

[eskielover]

I always had an independent desire & wanted out of living with my parents by the age of 13 though because financially I couldn't I stayed with them until I was 21.

I love my parents but we got along much better with the distance between us. They always came with us on vacation because they didn't have money to vacation the way we did & we had a condo they could stay in with us. Two week vacation together was great....living together never worked well even when I went back for awhile when I separated from my H. Personality conflicts made it not work out well.

Each family, personalities & dynamics are all different. If your parents are enabling you to not become independent & learnbhowbto take care of yourself & learn life skills necessary to function on your own....then there could be an issue & it may be tied to your mental illness issues.

If you have the skills to take care of yourself if anything would happen to your parents & you are just doing it because you want to & it's a convenience.....there is no problem. You can still care for your parents & be independent. I have elderly neighbors who own a farm & their 59 year old unmarried son came & helped them on their farm every weekend.

You & your parents are the ones that both need to work through the situation. It reminds me of the possibility of being like a fairly old movie "Failure to Launch" where the guy was just so comfortable at home that he never wanted to grow up & be responsible. Only you & your family really know the situation that exists.

[Travelinglady]

I was thrilled to get away from home since it was a toxic environment. I'm glad that you like to be with your parents, but I think you need to get yourself to get out some. They won't be with you always and you need some other connections when they pass.

[Biteplate]

Originally Posted by Jake_Mo

I'm ok with this because I love my parents very much, but it's like I never want to be away from them. I'm 30 years old. I have GAD, BPD, and other mental issues, so I'm wondering if this is part of it.

It's not that I'm trying to not feel this way, but I'm just confused by it. For instance, if something happens at work, or some social event, I just want to be home. I rarely hang out with friends or anything anymore because I'd rather just be at home with my parents.

Anybody else ever felt like this? Any answers and info is much appreciated!!

I'm 30 years old and exactly the same. I prefer the company of my parents or my 1 friend. But mine is a mental health issue. My anxiety is so bad I can't go places alone. My mom has to go to the store with me, etc. Idk what I will do when my mom is gone. It scares me.

[eskielover]

Originally Posted by Biteplate

I'm 30 years old and exactly the same. I prefer the company of my parents or my 1 friend. But mine is a mental health issue. My anxiety is so bad I can't go places alone. My mom has to go to the store with me, etc. Idk what I will do when my mom is gone. It scares me.

Have you been this way all of your life or did an event happen that initiated this feeling? In other words do you know if thete is anything that actually has caused you to feel this way or what is the underlying cause of the anxiety. There is usually a fear that is associated with feeling like this & the the fear comes from somewhere. Getting in touch with the history of the fear can mist of the time be understood, processed, then the anxiety can usually be lessened.

Know when we experience a traumatic event in our lives it can cause this kind of reaction.

[Biteplate]

I do have a fear of people to a point. I get really overwhelmed being around some people. The grocery store is the worst for me.

[eskielover]

Have you worked it therapy as to what the actual cause of this fear is? Fear doesnt JUST HAPPEN. There is usually an event (s) or preceived events (as watching something that scared you) that creates fear in our minds. Getting to pinpoint what that WAS can help to process & overcome the fear. Not always easy if it happened in very young childhood but definitely something worth looking into.

It has been interesting for me trying to look back & find causes but in my case it was why i felt pushed away from my parents rather than closer.

Every fear has a history.