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Oct 18, 2007, 08:46 PM
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I don't know how much time I'll be able to spend here for a while. I just spent the past 12 hours in the hospital learning from her doctor, that Mom has pancreatic cancer also in the liver. The doctor gave a prognosis of 3 to 6 months. After they do a procedure to drain her liver, she will have to come here to stay with me. I know it will be difficult, but I truly do not know what I'm in for. Please keep me in your thoughts.
Love, Patty |
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Oct 18, 2007, 08:52 PM
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I am so sorry that your mom is so ill.
Please contact hospice in your area. They will help you manage this very difficult time by providing visiting nursing, pain managment and emotional support for you, your mom and the family as a whole. Your hospital social worker should be able to put you in touch with them. Again, I am so sorry..my prayers are with you and your family. |
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Oct 18, 2007, 08:55 PM
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 That is heartbreaking to hear (((( seeker )))) Please don' t put anything off... talking about things, doing what can be done together etc. Unfortunately, doctors often use the 3-6 months, but for many it's much shorter. 
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Oct 18, 2007, 09:09 PM
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Thanks, Danialla and Sky,
I know that my aunt (sister-in-law to my mother) was also recently diagnosed with pancreatic cancer, and she has only lasted a month, and is in hospice care full time now. Her son said she will not last more than a day or so. I know if Mom is here with me, I will need hospice help. Thanks to both of you. Patty |
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Oct 18, 2007, 09:11 PM
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(((( seeker )))) I'm so sorry about your mom. Both of you will be in my thoughts and prayers.
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Oct 18, 2007, 09:24 PM
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I'm so sorry! (((((((((((((( seeker ))))))))))))))
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Oct 18, 2007, 09:27 PM
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(((Seeker)))
Thoughts and prayers with you and your mom. 
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#8
Oct 18, 2007, 09:42 PM
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Patty, I'm so sorry to hear about your mom. You'll be in my thoughts.
I'm including a link here to a John Hopkins Univ site home page and there is a link to Discussioin Boards there. While I was fortunate not to have Pancreatic Cancer (PC as it's referred to frequently), I did have a surgery called a Whipple that is discussed there often so I went there for that. What I saw was a very very active and supportive and helpful group of folks from all over. I hope you'll find it helpful too. http://www.path.jhu.edu/pancreas/ hugs, |
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#9
Oct 18, 2007, 10:29 PM
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hon my mom passed with pancreatic cancer 14 yrs ago. please feel free to pm me. I have been in those shoes before. yes you will need hospice. please know my thoughts and prayers are with you and I am here for you.
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#10
Oct 18, 2007, 10:46 PM
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(((seeker)))
My dad was diagnosed with brain cancer and sent home after surgery with expectation of 6 months. I wish they had been honest. We were all figuring on a regular Thanksgiving dinner as a last one... but at least one of the family members (SIL) noticed how quickly he healed from the surgery and made us all plan a thanksgiving dinner for two weeks later (this was June) He died June 30th of that year, 13 years ago. He didn't realize it wasn't November, though, and was thankful for the family get-together. But I wish I had been told it might only be weeks. God loves you, seeker. Lean on Him and His strength. You, too, (((Bebop)))
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Oct 18, 2007, 10:46 PM
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((( seeker )))
We're in similar situations, I just learned today. My thoguhts are with you and your mom
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#12
Oct 18, 2007, 10:50 PM
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(((((((((((((((((((((((((seeker))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) I am so sorry.
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Oct 18, 2007, 11:07 PM
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((((((((Seeker and mom))))))))))))
Your in my thoughts
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So often we dwell on the things that seem impossible rather than on the things that are possible. So often we are depressed by what remains to be done and forget to be thankful for all that has been done.--Marian Wright Edelman |
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#14
Oct 18, 2007, 11:35 PM
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Seeker, I'm so sorry! I nursed my mother during her last days. Please do get all the help you can from Hospice and Visiting Nurses. My thoughts are with you.
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Oct 18, 2007, 11:55 PM
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(((((((((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))))))
I am so sorry... and my thoughts and prayers are with you and your mom.. |
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Oct 19, 2007, 01:08 AM
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((( Seeker )))
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Oct 19, 2007, 02:11 AM
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(((Seeker)))
Thoughts and prayers with you and your mom
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Oct 19, 2007, 05:31 AM
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((((seeker and mom))))
its going to be hard for you to say the least but im sure you and your mother will make the most of this time and i hope this doesnt sound too inappropriate but miracles happen .....there have been doctors who say 1 month and it turns to 1 year....i dont know i hope that wasnt to wrong of me to say...my best wishes to you and your family....and no matter how long always bless that very day that you get to be with her....a few ideas to take her mind (and yours) of things would be to play some board games...rent some movies.....see who can solve a sudkuo puzzle first....take lots of pictures......
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Oct 19, 2007, 05:44 AM
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(((((((seeker)))))))))))
May you and your mom recieve all the help you will need. I will keep your mom and you in my prayers. I am sorry. |
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Oct 19, 2007, 07:21 AM
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(((((seeker1950)))))
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Oct 19, 2007, 08:38 AM
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(((((((((((((((seeker))))))))))))))))
my thoughts are with you.
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Oct 19, 2007, 11:21 AM
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I am so sorry about your Mom.
I will keep you & you Mom in my prayers. .gif) 
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#23
Oct 19, 2007, 12:10 PM
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oh seeker, I am soo sorry... (((((((seeker and mom ))))))))
you and your mom will be in my thoughts and prayers |
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Oct 19, 2007, 12:15 PM
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Sending thoughts and prayers your way...
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#25
Oct 19, 2007, 01:09 PM
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  Please do not take this the wrong way seeker1950, but I've been where you are, and you are about to take the most arduous journey in your life. I won't sugar coat anything for you, as I don't believe in doing that. You are losing one of the most important people in your life, and there is little you can do or say about it. Right now your mom just needs to know that you "love" her no matter what the circumstances were when you grew up....it doesn't matter anymore. Let it go. Spend as much time with her as you can, and make the most of a sad situation. We all go thru that door eventually. Tell her you love her everyday and make sure she knows it and hug her often. It's a healing concept for both of you. I didn't get to do that with mine. She committed suicide six weeks after my younger brother died. I never got to tell her good-bye or that I loved her in spite of herself. For me there will never be "closure". You don't want them to linger on in that kind of pain, though, either. My mom had terminal cancer too. Breast, then spread to her lung, and I think to her brain. She didn't last too long. With liver and brain cancers, the most you get in reality is 3 months. I haven't known anyone who lasted longer than that. They are the most vicious of cancers, and the most painful. I wish you peace and comfort for you both. You will need her to talk to you seeker. Pls. for your own sake, just sit and be there for her. It will help you in the long run. Each day you have her is a gift of time from God. |
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