Use the Chat Rooms? Please Read This

I notice that some of the people uspet by chat are here a month or less. It is what it is.....its like getting married and thinking you are going to change everything about the other person once you do. If chat is often upsetting to a person than that is probably not a good place for that person to be.

we agree with heyjoe

we doubt that all members in chat know that some members are triggered by red type
some members are triggered by caps, coz they think you are shouting

how is a new member meant to guess these things ?

perhaps we need a new FAQ on chat netiquette ?

if people can agree on the rules

Let's please remember to keep any responses supportive of ALL reading.

If we'd all show acceptance with tolerance, chat would generally be a great experience. That which you absolutely can't tolerate, but isn't against the guidelines, place on ignore. Ignore is a VERY effective tool in chat.

KD

I have to come in here and say I have been here since July and I have seen many members who are older than me causing many of the problems especialy with the useing of the red and the caps. As for causing arguments also older members as well as younger ones, this is not the place to name names but if asked i will do so in pm to mods.

Trish.

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I notice that some of the people uspet by chat are here a month or less. It is what it is.....its like getting married and thinking you are going to change everything about the other person once you do. If chat is often upsetting to a person than that is probably not a good place for that person to be.

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Hey Joe,

That's the odd thing, it wasn't like this when I began coming here are few weeks ago. It's only been in the last week or so that this strange attitude has emerged.

And as for not knowing the rules about red, when I have been in chat and a new person use the red font, they have been asked nicely and respectfully to please choose another color and why. And thank you for adding caps to the list as it slipped my mind.

In the incident that I spoke of a new person started with the red font and was asked very nicely to please change their font and she did. I was a member that's been here six months minimum that decided it would be "fun" to do since it bothered people in the room.

I have read and re read your post Heyjoe and am still confused... are you saying its ok to use red font and caps and everyone is to deal with it or are you saying that read the rules follow them if not then deal with it ?

First let me say there are NO rules about red or orange font color in chat. In fact, before I came, there was no one that realized it could be an issue.

It would be a courtesy for those in chat that have a problem, that's all. Those of us who do usually ask in PM to change your font color, often with an explanation. If you choose not to, then we have a choice of putting you on ignore (which we hate to have to do) or leaving the chat room. Not much else we can do. I've tried to stick around and not ask, and just read... it the person with the red/orange color doesn't say a lot and does that seldomly lol then it can be tolerated (for me.)

But there are rules/guidelines about using all CAPS.

Some members have visual imparities and might ask for BOLD... it isn't a rule, but a request that most of us are happy to comply with.

One has to wonder about why someone would be upset with changing something that is bothering another, something so easy to change, I mean. Perhaps the holidays are getting to us and the frustration level of anything extra is just too much?

Tishie what im saying is that with all different kind of personalities and new people and old people who use it at one time or another, things are going to happen that you dont like. Of course you can ask someone to change something or even make a complaint, but there will always be things coming up that someone isnt going to like and in the long run if it makes you more aggravated than it is helpful than it may not be a good place to hang out....or i just thought of this make a room and then you can throw out whoever annoys you....ha

So because I find too many caps difficult then I should leave chat or make my own room and hope nice people join me ? What if I had a problem reading unless it had been put on bold ? Leave ? Or if it was the red type ? leave ? How about people being a little bit nasty ? Leave ? Or stalking which has happend leave ? Where do you draw the line ? If I made a room for every little thing rather than expect others to be polite kind and helpfull then I would never meet knew people as they dont go into private rooms or perhaps your right and I should just leave chat all together.

(This is a quick reply and directed at anyone in particular)

As Sky said, there is no rule regarding red type. It is simply a courtesy and it is ok to ask a chatter to please change colors. If they don't, put them on ignore, save the chat, and PM a moderator. If someone is being a bother, put them on ignore, come get a moderator, or go to a different room.

This isn't to say that someone should have to leave or not chat. Its simply about using self-care. There are several rooms to choose from and the option of creating a private room.

This thread has run its course. If there are further questions about the use of chat etiquette etc, please PM a moderator or administrator.

Thanks,
Rayna