what a good day .....NOT!.........warning .....may be very triggering

feel free to move or even delete this post........

what a %#@&#! great day, when i wrote this it was 7pm (uk time). i was alone in my bedroom crying......... and i wondered how i got to this point......
so i wrote.....

at 9am i woke and got out of bed, ready for my meeting with my cca ( community care assistent) i put the kettle on to make myself a cup of coffee,
at 9:50am my cca (peter) arrived and we spoke about a lot of things (tv, scooters, poems) ...... just before 11am kath and second oldest step daughter came out of there bedrooms, step daughter went and got the post , i had a letter from DLA, saying i was entitled to more benifit, from the moment i recieved that letter i was on a high.........
my neck was still hurting so i decided not to go swimming today, so about 11:30am we left home to go to the pool to let the bloke from fit for life i would be there next week.
as its kath's and my wedding anniversery tomorrow (16th) we went to the local town to pick up cards and gifts...
at about 1pm we left the town and made our way back home , where i watched tv and kath was on pc.....

still with me ????? quite a dull day so far.............

at 2:30pm we left home to pick kids up from school, we arrived home again about 3:45pm
i went on the computer to post something about my good news (the letter) but i couldnt think of any thing to say so i left it........
my youngest daughter was by this time bugging me for the computer , so i logged off and was about to move , when the phone call came...........
the call that had put me in my bedroom, alone, to scared to face the world.
the call was from social services..... telling us that our oldest daughter how has ADD, had told someone something and was not allowed home...
memories of a few years have come flooding back now, when she told her helpers that i had touched her........ (which with hand on heart im tell you i never did)
at the moment they arebt saying what she has said this time. but im guessing im looking like the bad guy again, just because im a member of this family.
so i am shutting myself away in my bedroom, if no-one is around me then i cant get blamed for anything else...
last time her stories nearly tore this family apart, i dont think im strong enough this time... why does she do this to us...
is it because we dont take her shopping when she wants to go, or is it because we tell her off when she does something wrong. i just fear that when she comes back home this time, i wont have any time for her................
HATE is a strong word and i dont like using it, but at this moment , i hate her...... for putting us though this %#@&#! again.

dec

I'm so sorry, trm. This is awful news.

My thoughts are with you, kathy, and your family.

Petunia

((((((((((((((((((Dec))))))))))))))))))) I'm sorry.

(((((((dec))))))

I am so sorry this has happened to you...I just want to say I will be thinking of you and Kathy and we are here to support you always, this must be so hard, I cannot imagine what you are feeling or going through, I have no advice, just know we all know you are not capable of doing something so awful. I dont understand why she is saying these things, I just want to send you a big cuddle and know I am with you and love you sweetheart.

Wishing you some peace, I hope this is sorted out soon and without too much pain for you....

This is one of those times I would love a magic wand and just put things right......

my love, Jin xxxxx

I am so sorry hon. it seems always that when we are feeling good something happens to knock us down. (((hugs)))

I'm so sorry hon!! ((((((((((((( Dec )))))))))))))

Oh dec, and family...
I am so sorry.

I can't even imagine what you must be going through. Please try to lean on us if you need to. Be strong my friend. I know it is hard.

wow what a wake up call as TRM started this post i will update you as of 9.36 this morning TRM was arrested by cid , they have taken him for questioning
omg this is my daughter why is she doing this the aligations she has made are for wed he wasnt alone then

((((((((kathy and DEC)))))))))))
I trust you both, I know your family
you know mine
Even thou we are miles away we all know each other..
We know what shows we watch, what our kids are doing

I know dec will be cleared......He is a good person

We are here for the both of you. Our whole family

Remember your Daughter is not well......and after this is over that needs to be adressed...............
My prayers are with you all

((((((((((((((((((((( Kathy & Dec ))))))))))))))))))))

I'm so very sorry to hear of all this. What heartbreak for all of you to be going through. I pray that the authorities, through their investigation will see the truth and things will calm down. Please know that you are all in my prayers.


sabby

(((((((((((((((kathy and dec)))))))))))

sending love

Jin xxxxx

therealme:

A detective story: why is she doing this? Now you need to be a detective and find the answer (if possible)! You might be surprised at how good you can be at this, better than all the other detectives put together! Think of it as a way to master the pain and fear, and come out ahead.

I hope you can do it. Drag in some allies to help you, too. Form your own detective agency. Not to blame or punish, just to solve a mystery and provide healing.

No demerits for trying...

today i was arrested, with a sexual abuse charge on my step daughter.

i have been on a strong dose of diazipam for a week now for my neck, and my memory is foggy..... i cant remember yesterday let alone 2 days ago.so i couldnt remember all the questions the police wanted to know.
the police have taken my dna , my finger prints and my photo..... this is standard they said.
i dont feel very safe just now, i have returned to the ppolice station in the new year,
if i last that far, i am having strong feelings of suicide at the moment ..
and i m not sure i want to fight them anymore

you can do this hon! I am really sorry she is making these alegations against you. I know how hurt you must be. you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

one step at a time dec... focus on getting through one minute at a time if the need be.

This is a very tough thing you are going through. Can you make contact with your T to help process all of this?

I feel for you my friend

Geez I am so sorry. Life grabs you by the ---- sometimes, for me, a lot of the times, I hope it will turn out alright.

((((((((((dec)))))))))))))))
hang tight my friend as I am here for you
you know how to reach me

(((((((((DEC))))))))))

We are all here for you, like Muffy says, hang on tight dear friend, this will work out.

Love, Jin xx

OH! I don't blame you for feeling such despair! (((hugs))) But there is life on the other side of the problems... you are ok for now, as you stated this doesn't result until after the new year. I hope you are obtaining legal assistance, please?

Hello (((TRM)). I am sorry that you and your family are going through this at this time. I hope things get straightened out soon. best wishes. Soidhonia

dec........i'm so sorry that you are having to go through this but the rest of your family and your friends know your character and know that this is not something that you would do...believe in yourself.......the evidence will show that you are not guilty of anything ...it sounds as though this step daughter needs more help than you can give her at home...kathy....you are a great mother and sometimes the best thing for all involved is the hardest thing to do......you have to think of your family as a whole and let her get the help she needs..if living elsewhere will improve the situation....so be it......you will alwyas be her mom........

Oh no!

(((((((((Dec and katheryn)))))))))))

I'm so sorry. Please don't give up, and I pray that things work out for you.

Oh no!!! I somehow missed this additional post. You absolutely don't deserve any of this horrible stuff that's happening, please stay strong as you are. You'll get through this. PM me any time, you know I'll always be here for you. Friends for ever means just that and no strings (((((((((((( Dec ))))))))))))

((((((((((((( dec ))))))))))))))

I understand how upsetting, confusing and scary this whole thing is for you and the rest of the family. Hold on tight to the support you get from them and from us here at PC.

I'm sending you healing and safe thoughts to help you through this difficult stuff. Please take good care of YOU!

Hugss
sabby

(((((( Dec & Kathy )))))))

Oh dear! I just now read about this.... I'm shocked....
I know and trust you Dec. You've always been such a wonderful friend to me! I know how much your own daughter E - loves you. You're a great dad!
I feel for you both... Dec and Kathy... and your family.