Moving Out??? What Are Your Thoughts

i am going to be moving out of home soon... what are your thoughts on what age people should move out of home?

I guess the best "age" would be where one is legal for all things necessary to take care of one's self (can get credit cards, car insurance, etc.) and where one won't get unduly hassled about one's age.

I moved out about six months after I graduated from college, I had a job and car and credit cards and my stepmother was getting on my nerves more than was healthy :-) I found a house-sharing situation, little house in a good neighborhood of the big city.

Entangled, I don't think there is a right age to move out. I think it is dependent on levels of things like maturity, responsibility....and whether or not you have the financial means to take care of yourself.

When I "lived at home" I had periods where I was homeless and then, there were times I just ran the streets. I officially moved out when I was 17.

If I had a fairly stable home life and a choice, today I would choose to go to college before moving out.

Well I think ideally, Perna's thoughts are best if the circumstances allow. However, with that said-- I had to be on my own when I was 19, didn't stay in college-- couldn't afford it AND an apartment (which was not a very safe place-- as I watched a girl fall to the ground while her boyfriend beat her, and once a TV crashed through a window across from my apartment.) But I had to make it and I did.....

If you decide to move out, hopefully you'll have some kind of help in getting settled and choosing a good/safe place.

Did you know that in some countries girls are married off and taking care of a home by the time they are 15 or even 14? I can't imagine that!

good luck to you what ever you decide.

mandy

as was stated before I think it depends on maturity, a good job and stability. if you are like 18 or so I would make sure to save up some money to fall back on. it is expensive with all the deposits and stuff. you need a couple of months worth to fall back on at least.

I think that maturity, being responsible, & financially stable are the most important aspects of being on ones own (moving out from family?).

If you are not financially stable, the first time you don't end up with enough money to pay rent, then you either become dependent on someone else to bale you out or you end up homeless (neither are good options).

Having a budget & money accounted for all your expenses & living within your means is being responsible & mature (that doesn't mean living on credit cards).

It isn't easy being on your own. I was never happy at home & wanted to move out from the time I was 13 (I'm now 54....lol). I ended up only moving out when I was in college & when I got married. Looking back, I wish I had been out on my own for a while & been completely independent. It is a wonderful experience, but it isn't wonderful when you aren't completely financially independent & have to worry about someone else controlling you because they have the money you need to live on.

just my thoughts,
Debbie

I moved out at 21 and into a house with 3 other girls. Looking back, I wasn't mature enough yet. I wracked up a lot of debt and began partying heavily. Thats the road I took, not saying you will too. Just be sure that you're financially sound. They recommend making 3 times as much as your rent. If you're doing a roommate situation, try and know that person pretty well. Set up cleaning schedules and stuff. In my situation, me and one other girl did most of the cleaning and it drove me nuts. Some of my dishes ended up getting broken. Just be prepared, if you're doing a roommate thing, to be able to take it as it comes and try to have a game plan as far as chores and friends coming over goes.

Moving out for that first time is so exciting. Just make sure you're not getting in over your head.

I agree there is no magic age to move out. Hopefully you won't be that far from loved ones so that you have a support network and source of sound advice.

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Did you know that in some countries girls are married off and taking care of a home by the time they are 15 or even 14? I can't imagine that!

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I met and worked with a Pakistani woman this summer and that was the case! She was "shipped" from London back to Pakistan with her 5 sisters to be married off when she was 15. Her husband was abusive (as had been her parents) and it took her 15-20 years to convince him to emigrate to the US where she knew she could get a divorce. As soon as she got her citizenship she took her children to a womens shelter and filed for divorce and is now "free" and persuing her education (I met her at a University function) and doing quite well :-)

well i intend on moving out at the end of nexxt year once i have finished year 10 because i have been offered to live with my best friend. she would pay for rent and i would pay for food.. i have a fairly stable job.. and i could go to a public college