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Dec 04, 2007, 02:42 PM
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</font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
DIFFICULTIES There are two ways of meeting difficulties: You alter the difficulties, or you alter yourself to meet them. Phyllis Bottome (1884-1963) Writer </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> as some of you know, the past few months have been very difficult for me! we lost our house and had to move. For about two months I felt like such a failure! Like I, personally, was letting my family down because I couldnt stop it from happening. Between crying and being angry at the fact I was losing my house, I was turning into someone I didn't even know much less like! Then one day driving home from work, I started crying and thinking at the same time. And then it hit me! I am not a failure.... this is just a set back and we will be ok! So I decided I had to change my attitude about it! I couldn't change the fact that I was losing my house, but I could change the way it was effecting me! I decided I would make it a positive thing! When I finally did that, it was like the anger was gone. Don't get me wrong I am still upset about losing the house, but I have my family! We are all healthy and we are together! I had to "alter myself to meet my difficulty"! It makes sense!
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Dec 04, 2007, 02:51 PM
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Oh, how wonderful, Mel. Perspective, perspective, perspective! I love when I can turn that corner and look at things in a better way for me. And, it being our own lives, why shouldn't we?
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Dec 04, 2007, 03:00 PM
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Perna I agree with you! It is our own lives and we should be able to look at things at each and every angle. I know for me, I think I was more scared of the unknown than anything else. Things like how is this going to effect my kids? Are they going to be ok? Are they going to blame me?
It feels good when I get out of bed every morning! I know that we had a setback in the road of life, but it will all be ok!
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Dec 04, 2007, 03:28 PM
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I helped a friend who was going to lose her house so she didn't. . . right then. But her kids were in private school (Catholic) and she wanted them to stay there (and couldn't afford it) so she ended up losing the house anyway a couple years later! But it all came out wonderfully. She kept paying me back and I even lent her more money for her daughter's wedding and now everyone is doing extremely well and she and her husband and me and my husband get together once a month for dinner out :-) Things do work out well in the long run usually, if we let them.
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Dec 04, 2007, 04:21 PM
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oh wow dont we know those feelings of faliure, especially when we lost our home and were homeless and then we found this place not the best but defiantly not the worst
your doing a good job there mel
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Dec 04, 2007, 04:35 PM
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Excellent reframing there!
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