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Old Dec 30, 2007, 09:45 AM
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as some know i posted a copule of weeks ago about my grandma dieing... its been hard on me and my family... im trying to stay strong and be there for my mom cause even though she trys not to show it shes taking it really hard.. i try to not think that my grandmas gone cause once i come to reality about it im gonna lose it myself prob... i write to her on ohio.com its a guestbook ppl can sign if u go under obt. and type in Poe and say sign guestbook..... i belive that she reads them so i go on and write to her often.... some say silly but i dont care... well thats all i have to say i guess.. thats why i havent been here,.. im gonna try to come more often.... hugs to all...
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Old Dec 30, 2007, 09:53 AM
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Not silly at all, a good part of the grieving process of not having someone we love here with us.

{{{Skittles}}} take care of yourself. I'm glad you're there for your mother, too.
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Old Dec 30, 2007, 09:53 AM
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((((((((((((((((((( skittles )))))))))))))))))))))))

I'm sorry you've been going through so much, hon. I'm sorry for your loss and I think it's way cool that you write to her.

You take all the time you need, knowing that we'll be here for you.

PS - ALL my grandparents, aunts, uncles were born in the very same small are in W. Va. I'm gonna ask my mom if she knew them.

You're cared about,

KD
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Old Dec 30, 2007, 10:10 AM
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((((skittles)))) i lost my gramma a few years back and it was hard on our family.. there arent many of us and mom took it very hard... it didnt help that within a year, we also lost a cousin who was very involved with the family.. two strikes in a short period of time.. like you, i worried about mom..

for me, being depressed, it was hard to process my feelings...

i told myself how grama had had a good life and had done all she could for us by giving unmeasured love..

what ive learned about dying is what hurts most i think, is this idea that the person is now gone, and gone forever...

i tricked myself, maybe in a good way... along about the time gramma died a popular movie was out.. its ad said something like "when people die, its not them who close the door, its us" ...

i thought about that some... it eased my pain to think gramma was still here, but it was only that i couldnt see her anymore..

in truth, she is still here... in my heart and my mind she lives and appears often... i am not going to close the door on her... i will continue to remember her lessons and she is very alive in my heart...

(((((skittles)))))
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Old Dec 30, 2007, 12:16 PM
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(((skittles))) Yes such sadness for you! You are missed but I think everyone at PC wants you to do good self care. Just make sure that you are missing out the caring here you get, with something that is less rewarding!

Much love in your time of sadness.
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Old Dec 30, 2007, 12:19 PM
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((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((skittles))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) I am sorry t his is so hard for you and your mom. Please PM me if it will help.

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Old Dec 30, 2007, 02:12 PM
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Im so sorry for your loss! One of my grandmas passed away over 20 years ago and I miss her everyday.
I think your writing is wonderful. It is not silly to write in the guestbook! How does anyone know for sure if Grandma reads them. I say she does! Keep writing if it comforts you! why i havent been around
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Old Dec 30, 2007, 09:01 PM
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Skittles, I am sorry for your loss. I will send positive thoughts your way.
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Old Dec 30, 2007, 10:21 PM
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Skittles, sweetie, I am sorry for your loss.
I just lost my mother and I know the feelings you are experiencing. The holidays are especially hard.
Healing thoughts,
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Old Dec 31, 2007, 06:58 AM
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((( skittles )))

It is so hard to lose someone you love. I'm glad you're taking good care of yourself and doing what feels good to you at this time.

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Old Dec 31, 2007, 04:27 PM
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((((((((((( Skittles )))))))))))))

I am so very sorry for the loss of your beloved Grandmother. You will never forget her or love her less, but I do know that time will help lessen the pain.

Gentle hugs,

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Old Dec 31, 2007, 06:16 PM
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I am sorry to hear about your loss Skittles........ YOU will be in my thoughts and prayers.
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Old Jan 01, 2008, 10:21 AM
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thanks everyone.. i miss u guys but dont really feel like posting much lately.... thanks for ur caring words....
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