A question for everyone

Love_Hate_Sad,

In case you haven't recognized this, there are people here who have been through hell and back and are trying to get better. One of those ways to get better is through support from friends and others who have had similar experiences. In the short time that I have been here at PC, I have met wonderful people, none of which have never wanted to get better. For me, it helps to know that I am not alone with these problems. It helps to know that people care. Why would we even come here if it was not for the goal of getting better? Think about that.

David (NewDawnFades)

I have a reply for everyone. The show of support for all on the site is just awesome. All you have to do is ask for help and there is a line of people there to offer support, words of wisdom and they'll put you back in your place GENTLY when you need it. A group of virtual strangers gathering around acting like a family protecting their own.

I can only guess at the spirit in which the thread was started, maybe she was having a bad day. Maybe she was trying to send a message to a particular member that is getting on her nerves. But I have to say that the responses give me continued faith in humanity. And I for one am happy that you're all here!

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Cthomas said:
Guy, never formally met...but i love that.....

"get better dummy"....perfect!

LOL ROFL.....you rock!

Colleen

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Glad I could provide humor for you. Sarcasm is a free service that I offer.

To know me is to laugh a lot at yourself and with others.

I am know to be a protector of women, children and those that are not able to protect themselves.

have a great day.

Some people have no where better to go. I have been coming to PC for a few years now...AKA Desirae. I mean I just had my second child when I came here and was suffering from postpartum depression. I was very lonely and nobody with in my real world (outside virtual world) understood what I was experiencing and why. I'm connected with these people for even they understand what you'd think nobody else on earth would.

This isn't therapy! People aren't coming here to get better...people come here for support and complete understanding. They come here to be anonymous, because there is no shame here in PC.

I wouldn't pass judgement upon the folks here in PC, because first off you don't know what these people want with PC and how they will take it to their advantage. I used to think exactly what your thinking...."people here are so freakin whiny, they seem to enjoy being sick"...but I was sick myself at the time, more then then now and it was terrible to pass that sort of assumption. I didn't know the folks here then...I do now.

If it's something that you and I both witnessed in recent chat (last night?), I fully understand where you're coming from... unfortunately, what you may have realized is that sometimes those who need to hear a question like that are often the very ones rejecting it.

Yes, people are here for different reasons. Some "just to hang out" in a safe environment. That they still act out and suffer from their disorders is part of the package, at least for the time being. The unfortunate offspring from this though is they may create what feels to others as an "unsafe" place in the process. One solution for those reading this is, when in chat, if you don't have something nice to say about another, then USE THE PM function in the chat room. Don't make your comments public. That will help maintain the safe feeling in the chat.

Having been here as long as I have (and I think others who have been here as long or longer) one thing that is enjoyable is to see members progress positively. They may arrive here battered and broken and speaking mean things about everyone, but through the time here realize they don't have to be so offensively defensive. They not only mature physically but psychosocially as well.

I find it a legitimate question you've asked.

It's a tough call I think for admin and mods to walk the fine line with members who act out. I think they do a good job. It's up to the membership to begin to think, when reading questions like this, "does that apply to me? Could I be treating others poorly here and not giving enough support?" Support needs to be given to all, not just a member's friends who join them in their acting out. From what I've seen in chat lately, a few are still too busy acting out to be able to give support to those members here they don't like. Hopefully, their journey in healing has already begun.

Ok, Let me just say this...ok. I have also been threw hell...but im still here..am i not? I am 23 yrs old. 2 girls and married to somoene that just can't understand a dang thing about me or my pain. I understand what you all are going threw..been there done that. My point is only that to over come this...and maybe not everyone...but most of you can do this on your own. I have learned that...but i have also learned at hard times you do need someone there. Not all the time everyday. Then coming here is like another addiction. The more we hear others stories here the more we COULD maybe become confused about our dx. If your around negative all the time how does it help? doesn't it kinda just make you more negative? For example, if someone you know is pissed off all the time wouldn't you become angery as well if it was none stop everyday. Its almost contagous. If you are around someone more posative then would someone that smiles and laughs all the time help you become that way even more? they are my thoughts at time. I am sorry if my post offended anyone...but i really think that to get better you have to learn to accept you dx and everything and then go from there to reconize the problems to prevent or change them MAYBE. i understand that things take time...a long time in fact. But i have analized myself to the point i notice everything going on with me almost. And no im not well right now either...which s one reason why im bein so pissy lol. I am trying hard to fight it and make it go away or ignore it. I have been hiding in games to escape my reality and it didn't work. I now have drama in my game and irl. I feel like im a F up. but im still workin threw it and i refuse to give in to my mental issues. I fight hard to try and get healthier. when i wrote that i was a little upset. I apolgize...during this time i become moody fast. I read something where one of you said that maybe you can't get better, Is there somthing to that? no there isn't a cure...and i beleave we all can get better..you just have to want to bad enough..maybe im wrong. I can't speak for everyone..i know that. But fight hard to get better for yourself and the ones you love most. I fight hard for my kids...i love them to death and i would hate to see them like me. I try hard to stay posative around them...its not always easy. I wanted to say thanks to everyone that has replied..sorry again if i triggered you.I am a bit to outspoken and open minded.

I understand where you are coming from. and trust me if it were that easy i WOULD want to be better. and i am working towards getting better. we all are. this is what is called a support system. I apologize that you have felt so bad. but mental issues are just that. MENTAL. and they cannot be cured by a magic pill, it can only help the chemical imbalance so much. There is work aside from meds in order to feel better. So yes, i wish there was a cure. And I apologize for your pain. I know its hard on all of us. I guess what we are all trying to say is being here is WANTING and TRYING to get better.

I admire your strength and hope to continue seeing you around. I hope this post gives us all a better understanding of what PC stands for PEOPLE in the same situations CONNECTING for the greater good of all.

I apologize if I myself came off sounding harsh. its not my intention to hurt people, just help where i can and hopefully better myself in the process.

take care...
colleen

PC = People Connecting!

Thank you love_hate_sad.... for sharing and caring enough to clarify.

I hear your pain. I'm as desperate as anyone to believe I can and will get better. It takes balance. Faith to believe you can get better combined with a commitment to doing all you can do to get better.

Balance also means peace. Acceptance and patience. Seeking harmony. One symptom at a time. One day's dramas at a time.

Perhaps some of your impatience with others is related to your impatience with the pace of your recovery. If effort were all it took you should be cured. You try so hard and you fight every obsticle and still you are far from the prize. You will get there though. Of that there is no doubt. Your determination and self awareness will serve you well.

Be patient with yourself and with us too as we together travel similar though separate journeys. PC = People Connecting is a very good thing.

Be sure to celebrate and enjoy the successes as they come.... might make you less pissy!! lol. Least you can admit it when you are. That's a very good thing too.

Appreciate your honesty.... supporting your persistance... standing with you when you need a helping hand.

Take good care........

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love_hate_sad said:
but i really think that to get better you have to learn to accept you dx and everything and then go from there to reconize the problems to prevent or change them

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IMO -

I personally believe that is why each and every one of us is here..........
We have come to terms with our illness and now we seek to better it as to make us a better person, even if it takes ten years.

eeerrrrrrmmmm ..Chocolate........... She pissy always >>> ,,,,,

Now I gonna make her really LOL........ I make her LOL in the Morning ,, But that is what I give back for the Good Morning This Cool one does as a Poke with stick time .

But it is all good ,,, Mutual >>> for we know the sharpnesss of each others stick > * ouch * < . .

Sometimes you have to measure time as a place you count as seasons ,,,,

greetings L H S..I have considered you a friend here
too.Along with Wmd...
thanks for your encouragement you have given.
When I first read the initial post I thought..
'hey did someone else use your computer'?!!!
I remember back to the time you said
you'd like to do phone counselling....
Listen everybody again as wmd said L...H...S...
is an absolute sweetheart and someone might
have kidnapped her computer and posted
this post which was not her.....lol...