parents of Problem Teenagers

I need to locate a chat room for parents of problem teens...i have a 16 yr old who just was released from a locked facility and is currently residing in a group home due to several skirmishes with the law, etc..."tough love" website no longer has chat groups...i need to find a group where i can relate to parents in similar circumstances...i do not want this child home...ever! my hsb. does....pls. let me know if you hear of such a group online..thanx

Sorry, I don't have any idea of where you can find a 'Tough Love' Chat room anywhere for 'PROBLEM TEENAGERS'

As you say that you 16yo was 'locked up' for actions and now in a group home, is this group home a place where he /she is to be getting help?

I really do not even understand why you would even bother going to a 'Tough Love' Chat room at all, as seems you already have your mind made up that he/she is a 'problem teen' who you never want to come home.

I believe there is no such thing as a 'problem' teenager. In my opinion the teen years are very difficult and all teens have problems. Surely your 16yo must feel the vibes that you NEVER want the child home.

Do you not think that the very fact that the 16yo not only may be feeling unwanted, and unloved only it is being directly being shown by you that the feelings of being unwanted are in fact true.

I honestly feel for your 16yo that in one hand want a chat line for tough love and in the other you have no intentions of this teen ever returning home at all.

I am sorry if this is not what you wanted to hear, and being once a 'problem teen' myself know how much it hurts to feel and know you are not wanted by your parents. Without support from the family the cycle only continues. My advice would be to look for a chat room of parents who have difficult teens and practice unconditional love.

Peace

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~KRIS~

If you think you have totally gave up, you haven't, because you are here!

re: Kris: do you think i do not live with terrible guilt becuz i do not want my child home? she is violent and has had several assault charges for violence against me, cops, guards, etc...she fits all the criteria of a sociopath...i NEED a chat room of parents in similar situations to help me deal with the guilt so that i can find some fragment of peace within myself...until then i cannot concieve of having this child home...i can possibly live with the theivery, promiscuity, drugs, etc. but the physical violence against myself and other family members, her threats to murder us in our sleep do not make for a living enviornment of any sort

were you at teenlifelines.com ? I thought they might have resources for you to check out.

welcome to psychcentral... you'll find some tough love advice from many members here if you'd like to stay

I would like to apologize for the hateful reply, I am truely sorry and did not intend to lash out at you, a person I do not even know....

The post 'triggered' me in a sence of MY issues and directed them at you and I am sincerly sorry for my first post and the fact that I do not know you or anything in detail of what you have been through.

I wish you the best in your search and once again apologize for not taking into consideration what you are going through.

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~KRIS~

If you think you have totally gave up, you haven't, because you are here!

apology accepted.....but to answer questions from your first letter....yes, my child is recieving help...this child has been recieving psychological help since she was 6 and psychiatric help since she was 10...she has been in legal trouble since she was 11....this child has always been loved and has never been abused...but she has always been attracted to what she sees as "tough" and criminal...she says so herself and thinks it is "cool"...she is the only one of my children who is like this....her father and i have done everything the drs. and therapists have told us to do over the years, plus anything we could find thru our own searches of parents with children like mine as well as anything we could think of on our own to do to help this child....becuz i do not want to live in constant chaos or in fear for my life or the lives of other family members i do not want her home...and the guilt for feeling this way makes me feel like an absolute failure as a mother, a wife and a human being....after all, what kind of horrible person does not want to be around her own child? this child has almost strained my marriage to the breaking point...her older siblings left home to get away from her. although they are slowly mending relationships since they no longer live around her....i am sorry my post triggered your issues

thank you....i will look them up