Question I need help with .........

was there any proof that this person was a bad guy?
did you even bother to see how the teen felt first?
you realize that if you are wrong about him you totally are going to destroy this person...

No proof as I said it was word againts word.

Someone else had spoken to the teen already. And it was not my job to speak to the teen about this as I am not the teens parent.(remember this is a school age teen)

Cannot destroy the person as I have not named the person.

Tishie I really don't know you, but I'm glad you were aware and didn't dismiss what you heard. Usually when an adult who is connected to an establishment to which such accusation is connected, finds herself in this position, the only real choice it to notify the proper authorities. You always report it just as you know it to be: a rumour, overheard accusation etc. They know how to investigate. Just because you report, they investigate doesn't make it true, as you know. But it's up to the investigator to find out, not the reporter.

I'm glad it was taken care of by the parents.

Thank you Sky and everyone else who has supported me in this, I did not find it easy it took me some time and help from all of you to do the right thing.

(((((Tishie)))))) Of course it wasn't easy, the right thing rarely is. Just remember that could have been your child and you would want to know.

When a minor is involved their safety is more important than their feelings. When someone is grooming a child/teen for abuse the victim usually feels closer to the abuser than their own parent.

Being a victim of abuse when I was a child, too much concern was placed on the reputation of the man that molested me than my own safety. I don't care what career an abuser has (and I know Tishie that this was not a case of a teacher, priest, coach, etc) but even if it was, CHILDREN MUST BE PROTECTED!!!!!

You handled this situation perfectly. You brought it to the parents. They can determine the merits of the situation and take any actions necessary. As a mother, and former victim I thank you very much!

((((((((Tishie)))))))) You did the right thing. Absolutely. Don't let anyone talk you into doubting yourself for a minute there. Just like all the other moms here. Protecting your child is the first and foremost important thing in that childs life. And parents do need to know when there is suspision of or an actual event happening.

I thank you for what you did. You had the guts to get up and take a stand. You deserve kudos.

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Being a victim of abuse when I was a child, too much concern was placed on the reputation of the man that molested me than my own safety.

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Unfortunately, AAAAA, it is still very true. too much worry for teh one who should be condemned. Victims are often raked over teh coals. Where has our society gone wrong?

Teacher...man, whatever...if you make assumptions because of some rumor...that may or may not be true...a life of a man can be forever disrupted and his reputation destroyed....this is reality here.

Reckon some teens are truly confused or >>> never been used by an adult as a pleasure uuuuuugggghhhhhhhh

Apparently some people haven't had false rumors spread about them neither..........

I have been gently warned about replying as to debate points some times .......... Soooooooooo . Let's do by reality >>>>>:

Rumors become investigations ,,, investigations lead to questions ,,, answers given lead to follow - up ,,, Accusations and rumors are given to peeps of peers [ Grand Jury ] ,,, not true bill ,,, or then to trial... It is at this time the truth is revealed and the innocent go free >>>>> and those found guilty go to Prison ,,,

Well, if he is guilty...I hope he ends in Prison where every other pedophilia belong.

I'm just trying to consider the good in a person...I don't know this situation personally...just suggesting though.

But I thought: If I was the parent of the girl, or this was my daughter I would like to know. (My husband brought this to my attention on this topic, "think if it was Sissy" he said).

Not meaning to begin a debate...for I've been warned in the past as well...it's all good

omg. um omg.
um. im speechless. trish why are u so worried?
im fine honest. it doenst matter.
thankyou for caring so much, i couldnt resent you for that, ever.
i still have no idea where i go from here. i dont like losing friends. and i dont believe that the rumors are true. oh idk
help

ty guys ur frigging fantastic.
love,
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O K Selfy ,,, we just spent an almost ,, few hours talking ,, and you came here and read this thread at my request ,,

We continued to talk and ,, You were as you truly are >> loyal peep << ,,, But with the things you deal with ,, as to your personal struggles ,, And here you see a consensus of opinions as to what ifs ,, And I was more than Happy to hear by the end of our convo ,, that you were thinking deeper than the surface .

And I know you will some day make a great advocate for mental Health and Be a Super careing Person IRL .

Report him to whomever should be informed about him, including police! If he is innocent, no harm done, hopefully. If this is habitual, then there's probably a "paper trail" out there...

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who has been befriended

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I don't know what this means. Befriended how? Online? In-person? Are they going off together or just talking where others see them? Where did she meet this man? Do others know him?

I don't think I can say much one way or the other, I don't have any information, just my imagination and a set-piece scenario.

This has been dealt with and to be honest is making me ill as it keeps being brought up.

Nothing was done lightly it was thought out before I did anything at all, no names have been mentioned but I guess you have all figured out it was somone online in PC World,

Admin are aware and I really feel this matter should now be left with them.

corky ur too nice. i hereby promote you to PC daddy. lol. thats really screwed up the family tree now huh.
thankyou kiddo for the chat, u r a cool kid.
oh btw, hope u dont mind, for an essay question, we had to write about who we admire. i kinda ummm did it about u sooooo u may not get enough recognition at home, but my class thinks your great lol.
(hugs)
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Due to the nature of this thread, I feel it is time to close this discussion.

Please know that mods/admins and DocJohn care deeply about all folks here at PC. As per guidelines, there are to be no discussions on the boards regarding any actions taken by the team.

Thank you all for your support towards the safety of our members...teen or adult. We truly have a caring community, one that I am proud of!


sabby

and trish, i need to thank you too. dunno what id be like without all u guys making sure i dont get screwed over.
*hugs*
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