[countrymusicgurl]

I can't live this way anymore

theres so much fighting

one minute everythings fine then i get looks and whispering and i feel terrible. i told myself i would not let it get to me but i can't do it anymore.
i know i made a stupid decision but i'm handeling it now

i know i shouldnt be pregnant at 16 but i am and i can't change that

i am so sick of people looking down upon me and whispering shes a slut or i thought she had more common sense than that

okay i'm sorry sometimes things just happen

i can't do it anymore i cant stand the yelling and all of it

i have no idea what to do anymore

anyone have any advice on what to do i would looove it

CountryMusicGurl

[DePressMe]

countrymusicgurl, I can't totally relate to what you are going through but I can identify with some of your feelings. I too was looked down upon and whispered about...that takes a toll on your self esteem and pride. I am not sure my way of dealing with it was the best, but I tried, as hard as I could to hold my head up high and keep moving forward. I told myself their comments did not matter, but they still hurt me. Somehow, I saw through the pain and came through to the other side...a side where I accept myself and sometimes even love myself. It is not easy and I really do feel for you. I wish I had some advice on how to "fix" your situation, but those people will always be there...doing what they do...I just had to do my best to keep my self worth and pride intact. Now, I look at those people and I realize I am the one that is much further down the road...they are still stuck in their pettiness and their hate...I have moved beyond that to a much brighter world. Hang in there my friend--you can make it through this.

[sarahlilianne]

(((((((((((((((((((((CountryMusicGurl ))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) I'm sorry that you are feeling so down... I hope that tomorrow will be better for you.
Lily

[bebop]

hon I was pregnant at 15. I know what you are going thru. hold your head up high! yes what you did was a mistake but hon we all make mistakes. all my aunts called me slut and whatever else they could come up with. the only one that stood up for me was my grandpa. he told them to leave me alone that I made a mistake. that I did nothing more than they did only I got caught. you did the same honey. now hold that head up high and don't worry about what those people say. ((((hugs)))) btw my daughter is going to be 35 in a couple of weeks.

[snowflake_48888]

I was 15 and pregnant and no one to stand up for me. My father told me "I made my bed, now lie in it", so I did. I ignored peoples stare, talk , disapproval, but at times I would lie in bed and cry. I made hon, like many others, and so will you. Just keep holding that head up high!





snowy

[youOme]

I was pregnant when I was 17, had two babies before I was 19. I know what your feeling, it's especially tough when people are looking down on you. Today, teenage parenting is pretty typical. Although people may say things to you to bring you down you have to remember whats most important and that is the baby. Attempt to have a good attitude about it, reach out to people who won't judge you harshly. I luckily met a group of young mothers when I was pregnant with my first baby and they really helped me. Good luck hun

[eskielover]

Reading over the comments so far....I think you are getting some really good advice here.

Yes, you made a huge mistake.....we all make mistakes....those with the horrible comments toward you have probably made some even more huge mistakes in their lives....just different ones....but it doesn't make them any better or in a place to criticize you. I got pregnant when I was married after I was 24 & close to getting my degree....I planned on never having children, so my mistake was also a mistake & to me, just as huge.

The thing is that children are special & they are meant to be....planned on unplanned.....they are special & pregnancy should be treated that way. I know it's probably family that is giving you the worst time & they aren't easy to avoid.......but keeping pride in yourself & focusing on your yourself, your baby & your pregnancy is the most important thing. It's also important at your age, not to let having a child get in the way of making something out of your own life. Going through this will give you the strength of character to go through life & get through things you never thought you could get through....& when you have your child.....it will be even more learning & growing in your abilities & strengths.

Don't let them tear you down.......when you get through this & are stronger for it....they will be the ones stuck in their petty world while you end up making something of yours & being more of a good person than they will ever be able to be.

Take care of yourself....it isn't easy to deal with words....especially if you feel some of them towards yourself in the first place......but you will be fine & so will your baby.

Keep your head up & ears close to those who tear you down,
Debbie

[countrymusicgurl]

Hi everyone,
I wanted to say thank your to everyone that replied and helped me and you all did.

I did take the advice and I've decied not to care what others are saying about me.

It's not good for me or the baby to be stressed out about things I have no control over....
But thanks to everyone....
Me and the baby are both doing very well acording to my doctor so thats all that should matter.

Thanks agian
CountryMusicGurl

Hi countrymusicgirl!

I'm sorry you are having such a hard time. I can sort of relate - I have a five month old who was..unplanned. Though I am 26 I wasn't ready to have a child of my own accord - but I decided that I would make the best of it and I love my little boy to absolute bits.

This whole pregnancy and birth will change you, much for the better. At least thats the way it was for me. When that little baby is born, and you first look at him or her, you will realize that the comments and everything are just that - comments. People said alot of crap about me too before I had my baby - that I wasnt responsible, i slept around, i couldnt be a mother - and so far I am doing an awesome job according to the very same people who said the mean things.

Yes 16 is young, but it doesn't mean that you can't come through this a better person, I don't think. It just means its going to be a little bit harder for you as a parent, but trust me, its all worth it.

Anytime you want to chat PM me ok? If you want advice, information, anything, just a shoulder to rant on I am here