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Jan 30, 2009, 07:42 AM
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All,
Have a general question and am not sure where to post it, so I put it here. Would there be any impact on the mother/child bonding, or on the child's emotional development, if an infant is separated from its mother at birth and then permanently reunited with her 6-8 wks later? I was recently surprised to realize that it happened to me.  Thanks for any comments you can give on this. |
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Jan 30, 2009, 08:53 AM
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Jan 30, 2009, 09:04 AM
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I don't know, depends on a lot of factors I think. I think that is a relatively short period of time and the child is so young that it would affect you more than she. Think of adoption, many times adoptive parents don't get their children for many weeks/months after birth.
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Jan 30, 2009, 12:21 PM
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yeah I will have had some effect, they now say babies who are born prematurely and are incubators experience feelings of abandonment and/or loss..I'm an adoptee and was placed with my adoptive witch, ops I mean mother at 8days .. and if your time of "abandoment", and it feels like a abandoment to a newborn, whether it is or isn't in reality, wasn't acknowledged then you will have some residue feelings left from that time...
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Jan 31, 2009, 08:13 PM
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from what i understand it has alot to do with the bond that is formed for the longest possible time- that is, if someone else formed a bond with the child for the 1st few weeks but you have had the chance over the following months to form a more enduring bond it is your longer, stronger bond that impacts upon the child.
Form my own experience (which is when i was told that) I had severe postnatal psychosis and my daughter was 4mths old before I got treatment. She was then in a medical ward for the next 3 months without me, so we never really started to form any sort of bond til she was 8mths old. I am extremely proud to say that today, 4 years later, we have the strongest bond I could ever imagine. In some ways it is stronger than that of my oldest girl. Apparently the lack of a bond at the start (which was for the 1st 8mths!) shouldn't impact on her ever again because of her sense of safety, security and love now. She is a mummy's girls and I won't allow anything to change that!
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