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Old Oct 09, 2013, 05:28 AM
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Does anyone else feel like it is a hopeless battle, or is it just me?

I binge eat at any emotion. I ate my way to gain a lot of weight. Last year I really tried and ended up losing quite a bit of weight. in have gained some back in the last 3 weeks from bingeing.

It's like eating makes me happy emotionally, but hurts me physically. When I was "doing good" it was such a fight every single day. It never gets easier.

Maybe I should just accept that my purpose in life is to eat myself to death.

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Old Oct 10, 2013, 08:05 PM
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No i get it. Ive struggled my entire life..n i ask myself is this who im jus meant to be? A fat person? Ive gone on special diets done them all but its sooo hard. It consumes u and its an emotional battle. I must say since starting topamax meds it hasnt made me lose weight as it can for some, but it takes away my emotional obsessions with food and lets me make healthier choices and im not hating myself as i used to. Have you researched the medication?
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Old Oct 10, 2013, 09:17 PM
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No i get it. Ive struggled my entire life..n i ask myself is this who im jus meant to be? A fat person? Ive gone on special diets done them all but its sooo hard. It consumes u and its an emotional battle. I must say since starting topamax meds it hasnt made me lose weight as it can for some, but it takes away my emotional obsessions with food and lets me make healthier choices and im not hating myself as i used to. Have you researched the medication?
Yes, meds don't do well with me. I am super sensitive.
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Old Oct 12, 2013, 07:20 PM
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Yes, I hear ya! It does feel hopeless! So few people lose it and keep it off. Especially among those of us with a great deal to lose.
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Old Oct 13, 2013, 02:05 AM
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Food is sort of our "drug" of choice isn't it?

Is there something that perhaps triggered the binge eating? A situation?

Losing weight and keeping it off is a lifelong battle - one that I haven't managed to win myself. And any kind of setback just starts those old feelings of self-loathing and failure up again.

Look at this this way, you have still lost a lot of weight. That is incredible and still an awesome achievement! I managed to lose some weight 3 years ago, but I fell off the wagon and gained back even more.

My advice is, cut yourself a little slack - you are only human. Acknowledge you gained back some pounds and that it's okay. We all have setbacks once in a while. Then, promise yourself that starting Monday or whenever, that you are going to get back on the wagon. I found I did a lot better when I scheduled a "cheat day" every couple of weeks. That way I could look forward to indulging on that day with out completely hating myself.

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Old Oct 15, 2013, 05:25 PM
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This is EXACTLY how I feel. I've read so many ways to stop binge eating and none work for me. One says to restrict what you eat so the cravings go away but I'd feel deprived for the rest of my life and would inevitably fall off the wagon and go crazy. Then I read you have to stop dieting and restricting and let yourself have anything you want. That terrifies me because I eat such crap. I used to be orthorexic and was terrified of foods that were "bad for you" and I still have a little bit of that mentality. My diet is horrendous.
I lost weight from march 2010 to January 2011, and now I've gained some back. I don't know exactly because I gave away my scale and refuse to weigh myself. I feel like every single day is a struggle and will be for the rest of my life, and I feel like this is the size I'm meant to be. On the other hand I feel like I'm using the eating disorder as an excuse and that I can do anything I put my mind to.
I'm so scared of waking up one day and find I've gained a lot of weight and ill never be able to lose it and ill never want to leave the house.

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Old Oct 19, 2013, 10:56 PM
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Sympathize with all of you...I've been on a diet since the summer after sixth grade...have been on every diet out there...lost quite a bit 25 yrs ago on medifastand did everything I could to keep it off...ate less calories a day, walked 3 miles every day,and had a cheat night on Friday night when I would have Mex food and wine...the wt came back after 18mos; it was VERY traumatic thru the whole thing...after that it seems like I just can't lose any more...know age has something to do with it (am 69)but I worked out with a trainer for nine yrs and still lost nothing...my problem isn't binging, but not eating enough, he says...I swear I can't believe I'm not losing with what I'm eating...back in April, went on the liquid diet again for 6mos, lost some weight, but have stayed the same since.. Take a diet pill about 2days a week which I don't like to do..recentlymwas thinking if it makes u so unhappy, quit eating...so, I started drinking the liquid 2times a day, and ate an apple and peanut butter for dinner...still haven't lost..have started walking now..have had company a week and have gained a few pounds...feel hopeless...have worried about itmall my life!!!

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Old Dec 07, 2013, 12:18 AM
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I feel that! I eat everything in sight when I'm feeling especially lonely or bored. My friends just think I'm always hungry!
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Old Dec 08, 2013, 02:53 PM
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Sympathize with all of you...I've been on a diet since the summer after sixth grade...have been on every diet out there...lost quite a bit 25 yrs ago on medifastand did everything I could to keep it off...ate less calories a day, walked 3 miles every day,and had a cheat night on Friday night when I would have Mex food and wine...the wt came back after 18mos; it was VERY traumatic thru the whole thing...after that it seems like I just can't lose any more...know age has something to do with it (am 69)but I worked out with a trainer for nine yrs and still lost nothing...my problem isn't binging, but not eating enough, he says...I swear I can't believe I'm not losing with what I'm eating...back in April, went on the liquid diet again for 6mos, lost some weight, but have stayed the same since.. Take a diet pill about 2days a week which I don't like to do..recentlymwas thinking if it makes u so unhappy, quit eating...so, I started drinking the liquid 2times a day, and ate an apple and peanut butter for dinner...still haven't lost..have started walking now..have had company a week and have gained a few pounds...feel hopeless...have worried about itmall my life!!!
If you eat too little it slows down your metabolism so even though your are eating a small amount you gain weight b/c your metabolism is so slow. Its like you're doing all this work by dieting and your body is fighting back. You may actually need to eat more to boost your metabolism and you might gain weight initially but then be able to lose some just stay where you are weight wise and be able to eat more and feel better.

I feel a bit hypocritical saying this b/c I have a hard time excepting my weight and gained a lot through reactive eating due to extreme dieting and want to start dieting again even though that may not really be the best thing.
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