Shame and Shaming

I can't help myself around food. I could be stuffed but if I know I have food somewhere I will eat it. It's worse when I'm upset because I will eat and eat and eat and be crying while doing it but I need it. I need it to feel whole again. There have been times when I'm so desperate for food that I cry. I'm already depressed, I don't want to feel worse over food.

I try not to complain because I eat non-stop and am really thin, but I hate having people tell me "oh you're so lucky! you can eat as much as you want and you won't gain weight" or "omg where do you put all of THAT?" I hate the thin-shaming that happens to me when they don't realize it only makes it worse and I'll just eat MORE. They don't see that I don't eat because I can, I eat because I can't stop myself.

Prettyinred, sorry to hear you are upset with our situation. Many people at Psych Central are working with their eating disorders. You are not alone.

Do you have a therapist specializing in eating disorders or a psych doctor that can add their expertise to guide you to more stable ground?

Please feel free to let us know how you are doing.

This is a powerful statement. I am mostly a "can", I can help, I can do, I can feel and love and care. The shame I feel in mistakes, failures and not giving my all is such a destructive "can't". I believe I can heal myself of the 'cant's' by forgiving myself for the over reactions and supporting myself when I am being run over.

The shame is not ours, but the false teaching of those controlled by it and those whom forced it on us. Time to unfetter ourselves from these shackles and forge new paths.

Sam

That is so true. Society seems to think that all women should be 5'10; and weigh 100 pounds
Men should be over 6', have no body hair and abs of steel

What is wrong with us that we buy into the codswallop?