Please help our daughter

First off, I apologize if this in the wrong place. I didn't know where to put it.

My daughter, Jackie is 13 and has always been a very sad and lonely girl. She has never had any real friends and and people around her have always either ignored her or made fun of her. Her own birth mother has made it clear that she doesn't want her by the fact that even though she lives 10 miles away, she hasn't had any contact with them in 3 years and even the last time ( 2 weeks ago ) was only because my daughters aunt made her. That call lasted less than five minutes before she hung up without even saying I love you. This for obvious reason really tears my daughter apart. My wife and I, along with her siblings and aunts and uncles try so hard to be there for her and lift spirits but its hard with the way she is treated. She is such a beautiful and loving girl that I cant understand why people don't like her. The real problem is though, that every time she gets down so much and so low, she not only tries to hurt herself ( stabbing her leg with pencils, that sort of thing ) then she always accuses somebody of sexual abuse. When that happens ( it has happened 5 times so far since age 9 and always against a different person ) then she gets all the love and attention she wants, only to turn around and admit she was lying and have it all dropped. I often wondered if she was actually abused and just too scared to say by who. But now she has done it again and its against me. I swear I DID NOT do this! I would never hurt my daughter, I never even disciplined her before because I hate seeing her hurt. Now for the first time after all the other allegations, her and her siblings have been removed from our home, I am facing child sexual abuse charges, my wife is facing child endangerment charges. I am facing years in prison and losing my entire family over a crime I did not commit. The police and child services know of her past history and even have it on record but they are not considering it, they aren't even putting it in there paperwork for court because they say it is irrelevant. It can't be irrelevant! I had hoped and prayed that she would have told the truth by now, but as my friend says " She was never taken away before, she was always with people who loved her that she trusted. Maybe now that was taken, she is too scared to say anything. ) Through this all the only thing I can do is feel sad for my daughter, to feel she needs to do things like this. I am not mad at her even though I probably should be. The worst part to me though is I can't get past the feeling that my daughter hates me. I need to know why a child would do this sort of thing. I want help for my daughter and if it takes me going to prison for that beautiful little girl to get the help she needs then so be it, but I will never make a false confession. Basically I am asking for help and advice for my daughter and the rest of us. Please somebody give me something.

omg, i am so sorry that this has happened to you. for the system to not consider the past allegations is ridiculous. i can understand removal. we have to err on the side of caution for the child, but after some simple investigation here it should be taken care of. love and attention make sense, but at this point, after five allegations, you should know the answer to the question as to why she is doing this. she should have been in therapy after the first allegation until the answer was discovered so that there wasnt a second allegation. definitely not a third. i really hope this doesnt turn out for the worse.

I read your post and just want to cry with you. Wanted you to know you are being heard Children with issues are difficult to treat/approach/confront including my own daughter. Truly hope things clear up. Huggles

I am so sorry u r having this problem. I agree with previous posts about getting help the first time. I know a man who spent years in prison over this. The girl actually told the authorities she was lying but they then did not believe her and he spent his time in prison for what he had not done. Get an excellent attorney no matter what it costs. Can you send her back to her birth mother maybe there is something in that relationship that needs to be resolved. She must know the system and how to manipulate it very well.

UPDATE: But not a good one. We have been in touch with my kid's friends and their families because the kids all go to the same schools as before and they have told us our girls' hair was chopped really short against their will, they are not allowed ANY physical contact at all ( hugging or anything ) they have been told by the foster family that we hated them and when the girls told that to the DFS worker they were ignored. She had one class with a close friend ( music class ) and during one of these classes she admitted to him that she lied, was scared and just wanted to go home. His mom called the DFS to inform them but instead of doing the right thing, they took her out of that class, took away her trombone and told her friends mother if she interferes with the " INVESTIGATION " that her children will be removed from the home. She is now so terrified that she wont have anything to do with it anymore.
When this all first began, I mentioned to the detective that my son ( her older brother who is 15 ) was there the entire time that she alleges this happened. He was with me in the living room the whole time and her step mom was only gone less than 9 minutes. I thought they had spoken to him to get his side, but they placed him in a different home away from his scared sisters. Finally after telling everybody he could that he was there and it's not true, his vice principle listened and called DFS. They listened to my son then tried to tell him he was mistaken. My daughter told my son at their first visit that she wanted to go home. He told her we all still love her and want her home. He was then removed from the room and told his visits have been cancelled.

Sorry it took so long to reply.
We tried contacting her birth mother but as usual she made excuses as to why her kids can't stay with her. She has not showed up to any court proceedings, has not asked about how her kids are doing in foster care and never once in our conversation even said tell them I love them.