How do you deal with Nars?

thank you for all you suggestion and empathy. It really was helpful to me. Best of luck to you. We will prob chat via another thread.

Peace

Wow I rolled on the longest fighting thread NOT shutdown on p.c. I have seen threads shutdown because of nonsense and this keeps going?

Here's some of my questions: do you think the mods dint think the nars get offended lol

Do you feel like those abused by nars come on this forum to perpetrate an abusive cycle....by you
Guessed it....abusing nars

And I have to say is the fact I found this whole thread delightful make me a....NAR (insert creepy
Music here)

Nahh just messing with you all

*****the fact that I felt the need to post this definitely proves I am no narcissist

What kind of creepy music? I was thinking Ave Satani from The Omen would be fitting for me, LOL.

I'll bring the fluffy bunnies and kittens, you're welcome.

HA HA HA HA You're welcome?? Come on my friend it's time for all the light to be shed from the darkest souls....... Yes people I am here, once again blessed by the almighty!!! Just remember,"Silly rabbit, tricks are for kids".

That Rabbit was so poetic.

Love ME!!

You can always walk away (although I would suggest RUN! don't walk) It's hard, they will make it nearly impossible, but it is doable. I was married to one for 18 years, isolated, lied to, lied about to others. In court he presented "evidence", photos of me that he had posted online looking for sex partners, saying that I was the one posting them! Even after 4 years in and out of divorce court, I was still under his thumb. Broke, no work skills (I hadn't been allowed to work in case I might confide in someone there about what he and his family were doing to me), no friends locally because the rumors he had spread around made other parents at my son's school think I was some kind of pervert! The only way I could get truly away was to give him what he said he wanted (full custody of our son) and move overseas and remarry (to a nice normal respectful man). Our son moved here last summer, immediately after graduation, he and I both are free at last. My son is now going through what I did, confusion, anger (he was also isolated, completely dependent on his dad, lied to "You make your stepmother uncomfortable, don't talk to her, she doesn't like you" "You can't trust her", lied about to others - to his step mother "he hates you, you make him uncomfortable, I'm afraid he might try to harm you so stay away from him" To me, "I moved him in with my parents without telling you because he was causing problems between me and my new wife".

Get out, they aren't going to change, the only thing you can change is how or if you deal with them. You can only get them to do what you want is if you convince them that they will benefit "If you send our son to me after graduation, you can do what you want to your soon to be ex wife (she found photos of herself online too) and I won't say a thing and our son can't be supeonaed."

Get out and then cut off contact (and just so you don't think I'm letting soon to be exwife number 2 hang out to dry, I've given her a witness statement and will go testify for her if/when she needs me to.)

Whew! Thanks for letting me get all of that off my chest! But do make a plan, I auctioned off everything I had including my wedding ring to get that plane ticket to get out, worked long hours at crap jobs to get my son here. the only way to be free is to be independent. And it's worth it!