Augh, BPD. What a mess.

So sick of this crap. I want a hug and a shoulder to cry on. But with my "lability of personal relationships" I can't have that...
My life is a gigantic mess.

((((((hugggsss))))))

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(((((((Taonuviel))))))) Here's a hug, and a shoulder, because I care. Take care, and don't let the diagnosis get to you.
From one BPD to another....hugs!

Thanks.

I'm only starting to accept the dx... but it makes so much sense. Grr. I hate existing.

((((hugs)))) Being BPD is all about bad days- not bad days like "I woke up with gum in my hair" kinda days, but days where you feel like you have described. I know I feel that way all the time and sometimes there isn't anyone there to pet my hair, rub my shoulders, or engage in any comforting help...

My therapist knows this about me and has suggested that I find other ways to comfort myself. I think a lot of times Borderlines just need to be touched by someone they trust, possibly because many came from dysfunctional families where touch was never given or associated with comfort.
Anyway, some of the things I do are heat up a heating pad (I use a nifty tube sock filled with lentils and lavender)and snuggling it or putting it on my feet, or I rub a nice aromatic lotion on my skin (also good if you are feeling self destructive).

Loneliness... Doesn't matter if I am in a stadium of 5,000 people... my heart seems hollow- I assume because first I have to befriend myself before I can befriend others.

Hope you find some comfort- My love and energy go out to you.

Oh yeah! I also know exactly how that feels. It really gets to me too. Sending hugs to you! and everyone else who needs one!
HUGS!
Ally

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HUGS TO YOU! I've just been diagnosed after suffering with it for 30 years. I've had every other diagnosis before this one. It does hurt, soooo bad. I'm so confused if we are even suppose to ask for a hug??? My therapist acts like I should work it out all by myself.

Yeah. Its so tough. I was diagnosed late last year, and I am 24. I find that my therapist is hard on me too. Well she started out to be really very tough on me; almost like being in the principals office for something bad... anyway now, she is slightly nicer... only slightly... I think maybe they have to be like that. If we can work things out on our own, then thats great, but also the therapist could show you your options and help you to work things out. As for asking for a hug when things get tough.... I think thats ok.

Lotsa Hugs!!!!

Ally