[(JD)]

ARRGGGHH! He's some family gossip that shows some of my day to day type stress:

Any additional stress experienced when one has PTSD only adds to the problem...

My 85 year old mother totalled her car Monday. She's ok. I've had to deal with it and her, and other family etc etc you do know what I mean. Now she isn't going to drive... and I know she will try and rely upon me for some transportation (not happening.)

Then, my ex has always been slow with the alimony (like this is new to anyone?) but I found out he just spent some $8,000.00 for his expenses in trying to earn a doctorate... and then he had spent just as much for an additional master's degree... so I sent him a written message telling him I would no longer tolerate his lateness of his court-ordered debt to me as his first wife. To say the least, he lost it! He wrote me to "get over it" and how if I didn't back off he would tell our sons all my lies about our being married in the first place. HUH?

He also explained how he took our a loan from his church to get his (2nd) master's... and how his father is in a nursing home with alzheimers, and his mother is in hospital with broken hip and and and ... no money blah blah blah.

SO? Anyway, he then wrote again, saying ok, give him the information for a direct deposit into my checking account and to hurry up because HE'S GOING AWAY FOR A WEEK at the end of the month. No money, huh? LOL

This was his first communication between us in the 12 years since the divorce... and he's still angry? go figure. Plus, the lies he told ME... about things I know and lived through with him... I think HE'S the one getting alzheimers.

sigh. anyway that's part of my week of late.

I am a bit concerned about the ex's temper now that I think about it... to see what just asking him to pay on time did. He happened to say he was so broke he is trying to get his retirement money early with a %10 penalty. What he doesn't know, yet, is that I get 50% of it! I think he will certainly come totally UNGLUED when he finds that out.

so talk about stressors!

[CedarS]

Rough week, that is a lot to go through all at once, you are dealing with more than your share of stress.

I cannot get over the idea of someone saying that they have no money, and then later that they are going away for a week.

Hope the remaining days of this week lighten up for you, and that next week balances everything out with extra goodness.

I can see why there was no contact for so many years. What a putz!

None of this is needed and just makes things harder to handle. I am grateful to read that your mother is okay after her vehicle accident. Yes, be sure to stand your ground about not becoming her taxi service. You have enough to handle w/o taking on that responsibility...........which isn't yours to take on!!

I hadn't realized it was that time of year again and I'm sorry to hear ARLENE is jangling your nerves.

Please make sure to eat to keep up your strength during these things _Sky. I worry knowing that eating gets dropped when stress is up. I know firsthand how quickly that can spiral out of control. Being the smart cookie you are keep doing the things that are helping and let the rest go each day.

[nothemama8]

Sky don't let him have info to your banking account he could clean you out, do you have a safe place if Arlene hits ? Stay safe darlin, the girls send you kisses
Angie

[SleepsWithButterFlies]

Sky, don't let him hit you like that storm. I hope you get a lawyer to make sure you get your money and his retirement part before he strikes. Do you have a court order on this? Has it been served on the company that holds his 401k? Also you may be able to get his income tax checks if he gets refunds. MAYBE you have looked at all of this but? Also if he dies and isn't married you can pull his SS benefits. The old lady across the street told me once she did that used her current husbands and then the exes. That made me lol , makes you wanna have a lot of exes...Just file that info into your brain. He sounds like a royal jackazz.

[(JD)]

Tks sleeps .. court order is on file (with government)... and he is remarried ( within weeks after divorce).. was married for 26 years but by the time I might get ss (when he reaches real retirement age) there wont be money. ... You only have to be married for ten years to get benies... but I doubt it for me.... yeah he's worse than ever... not to mention he gained about 200 lbs... yep has to be at least 400 lbs...

[SleepsWithButterFlies]

Sky he gained 200 pounds? WOW is he eating all the cash away? I would be so mad. How can he get behind and go to school and trips? I am lost on this. Take care of you..how to be honest I dont know. Maybe let go of it and move on without that to weigh you down. Are you OK? HUGS you're a sweet heart and don't deserve this

[(JD)]

TKs sleeps... actually the bank will make sure things are set up...and having my money direct deposited will give a better sense of safety. I should be able to have nothing more to do with him for quite another while (Unless he comes here on a rapage about his retirement $.)

[(JD)]

So here it is4:15 am on Monday morning. and I haven't slept yet.

TRying to put mind to rest... but brother is coming through on way down to Miami airport this morning... and guess he'll check in wih mother and her car accident dilemma... I have to be a physical therapy at noon, and talk T at 1pm. and DDS tmw at 9 am arrrggghhh. and Wednesday the red hatted sociallights want to go to a movie..... sleep sky sleep