What triggers you?

people whome I do not know, asking me personal questions. except medical professionals. makes me wild

Nellicat - understood. My H thinks it's ok to put his arms around me and not let go. Bad very bad

Hmm..
1) Crowded Places
2) Being woke up early in the morning by people being loud
3) One word replies
4) Anyone asking me, "Are you okay?", "What's wrong?"
5) Family telling me I can talk to them about anything, trying to help.
6) My dog not eating her food
7) Making eye contact with someone I don't know
8) Trying to hold a conversation and accidentally slip up, or run words together
9) Having people sit/walk behind me. I feel like they are laughing at me, watching me.
10) Friends asking me to hang out and go somewhere like the mall, or a party, when they know I can't do it. They think they're helping me "get better" but they are actually making it worse. It's ********.
11) A big one..using I, I'm, Me, any word that refers to myself.

I'll stop here. Those are 11 of the *insert large number here* triggers I have. Lol.

Take it easy,

Chris

feeling purposely ignored

Oral sex, images/videos of people giving birth or faking birth/labour, any kind of restricted movement (like pinning down or handing hands behind the back etc), sometimes even just a man with brown eyes. Most of the triggers are calming down, but we just had our second baby (13weeks ago) and all the SA and birth triggers have flared up, despite having a planned c-section. Finding tv very tough especially, it's amazing how often people/actors are shown in labour. *shudder* and now I'm off to cross my legs and hide under my duvet.

Any confrontation at all, Guns, people drinking, yelling, sexual contact, what doesn't is more the question.

oral sex, big time trigger. A word of advice w/ me. Do not insert anything you would like to keep inside my mouth, it's a goner. Live and learn. ( I was raped)

Sorry my own quick flip out, NEXT PERSON -

The other way too, I hate hate hate it. Fortunately my oh is very understanding

big mama

My H would like to keep ownership of his nither regions, so he is quite understanding.

-Talking about anything sexual or intimate with a male
-The song "Last Dollar" by Tim McGraw (But yet I still keep it on my ipod for some reason; I just can't listen to it...)
-Crying Babies
-Thinking about Hospitals
-Crowds
-Having to interact with strangers (Working in a group as well)
- Looking in the mirror

I think this happened to alot, includine me ... I have so many that i can not even say, cause i can't fin just a few words, it would take 2 or 3 pages just to spell them all out... thats why i said it would be easier to name what does no't ...

i was raped 7 x by 7 different people over a span of 17 years (of course at different times), I was tried to be killed by my first 2 husbands, I witnessed gun asults and lived with a drunk who threateene with guns....There are just alot but those are the top... got to stop i cant type anymore...;0(

Everything except small houses

while in public, groups of people laugh and stare at me

For me…

1. Anything to do with sex.
2. Failure and mistakes.
3. School and educational institutions.
4. Being yelled at.
5. Being ignored.
6. Being around family.

feeling like I can't breathe

OMG thats a big one. I can't read anything from the anxiety forum. I have panic attacks. If I get a cold and can't breathe so good, it's hard not to have a panic attack. Glad I'm not the only person who feelsthat way.

Young kids. Their faces, actually, whether it's in person or in photos. I see them and I wonder if they're okay. I wonder if they are living through the same nightmares I had to endure growing up, and I look at their parents, wondering if they're secretly monsters when no one else is looking, or if they're stupid enough to leave them alone with a monster. So, walking through WalMart is like strolling through Hell for me.

Another trigger is my hair...if anyone other than my sisters or the VERY limited female friends that I have touches it, I snap. I can't stop myself from it, either; it's an automatic response. I have screamed at my son in public, humiliating the both of us, because he thought it would be funny to pull my hair while he walked behind me. (My bio-father had practically scalped me when I was younger; he picked me up by my hair and threw me into a wall). I don't remember any of that (or him), but my scalp remembers it, so I trust very few people with my hair, and they are all female. I didn't know about what he'd done to my head/hair until about 10 years ago or so, almost 2 decades after the fact.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?featur...&v=lQkYpatf2Ak

Brook, very deep and heart felt music. You obviously have a passion for music. Thank you.

1. Loud noises
2. Girls screaming
3. Baby's crying
4. Dogs barking
4. Lately politics (and I'm a news junkie)
6. Commercials (basically these days I just watch tv on mute)
6. Anything having to do with a gun

1. People fixating on my previous statement if I change my mind about something. They keep saying, "but you said..."

2. People questioning my expertise at work.

3. My husband getting mad and swearing.

4. My mother nosing into my things and asking prying questions,

5. People who insist on paying for things when I have the money and plan to pay for my own things.

6. Clothes shopping, especially with "skinny" people. I am not skinny.

lies, lier's

anything that curtails my freedom, or ability to flee;hospitals, being locked up, restraints, chemical restraints, loss of physical ability(surgery), loss of transportation

anger, violence; commercials for violent movies, ads of any kind that are too flashy-so rarely watch TV

strobe lights or any lights that are flashing too fast

loud noises

feeling powerless

For me,
1. Loud noises, especially yelling, pet barking/meowing incessantly, a baby crying or kid in the store making loud whining noise
2. Aggression directed towards me
3. Talking over me or walking away from me, without explanation, when it is my turn to talk.
4. Weapons near me (for instance, I'd get upset if someone were brandishing a base ball bat in my face while angry- even if they were only using it to point.)
5. Invading my personal space, walking over my conversations to shut me up or ignoring me
6. Questioning my intelligence ("what are you stupid or something?" "Why don't you think sometimes before you act...", "Think smarter, not harder.")Or talked down to out of spite.
7. Being told or implied that I am not good enough
8. Bullying behavior directed at me- coercion attempts
9. Not allowing me time to explain when asked a question about what I am feeling or not asking me how I feel at all
10. Seeing others disrespected, threatened or abused.
11. Making me repeat myself in conversation or do something repetitive other than out of lack of understanding
12. Taking advantage of me for any reason
13. Crowded or congested areas
14. Not being heard
15. Apathy from others when it comes to picking up after oneself or cleaning up after activities

1. Any sex related
2. Work
3. Forms
4. Group therapy
5. Putting on my " public face"
6. Have a bad dream I can't remember
7. Being judged by my body, gender, or age
8. Not being able to help everyone in their best interests
9. drinking and drugs-I can tolerate a bit of listening/ reading it, but not in a graphic
way that makes them attractive and myself excluded

1. Being in a quiet room
2. Being alone with nothing to do or any noise
3. Bloody movies or tv shows
4. Scary movies
5. Babies crying
6. Babies sleeping