[Fuzzybear]

Don't get your fur all twisted in knots, Fuzziest of friends.

Take care of you first. You matter.

[Fuzzybear]

lol purple petals... thanks for the smile.

I am very growly and yes my fur is twisted in many knots....GGGGRRRRRRRRR

[Rhapsody]

We hear YOU Fuzzy.................................

[Fuzzybear]

((((((((((((((( Rhapsody )))))))))))))))


Fuzzy

[hillbunnyb]

go figure: remember, de nial ain't just a river in Egypt. Hang in there kiddo, some of us prefer the truth, even if it is pointed pointedly as us. How can you clean up a mess if you don't know you made it??? I depend on my friends to keep me on track, ya know???

[woundedhearts]

[Fuzzybear]

Thank you hillbunny and woundedhearts

[jennie]

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People who only want to hear "compliments" and not the "truth"?

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[Fuzzybear]

Yuck!!!!

[(JD)]

Exactly my thinking... most ppl can't handle the truth. Why should WE be the ogres delivering the truth when it's wasted on them anyway?

[Fuzzybear]

I agree Sky. I usually try not to be too harsh.... but when I once said to someone who had been...... irritating me for months....... "I wish people wouldn't do.......?????" .... there was a massive freak out. I felt like an monster of a bear. Bad bad bad bear. I was only trying to point out some of their patterns. I failed though.

I wouldn't say that to anyone else again though.... just incase

Too much info. probably.

[Fuzzybear]

idk though.... I think there are shades of grey here. Do you have any more thoughts, Sky? Ugh I just had a thought about the pot which I won't share ........................

NP if not. I have been far too "talkative" recently. I am going to hide in my cave. Keep to that Fuzzy. Keep to that, Bear.

[(JD)]

hehehe must be the moon. Tonight I had had ENOUGH of someone's blathering IRL... he has lied to me and about me for years now, and had JUST snidely made a point about how he deals with a certain problem. Someone new came in and stated that they were going to do such and such and the guy, going against what HE HAD JUST SAID, went with it. I waited a minute or two for them to finish agreeing and I was like WAIT A MINUTE!!!!

ooops. Well, I finally said," ok this is between you and me and we'll deal with it later, but I was in a position doing my work and you didn't support me at all!" (To counter him completely.) It was not my best moment. He continued to be snide to me the remainder of the meeting... he's paid to do this and it's just a job, I volunteer and he's the reason I quit my position before. GRRRRR.
He just doesn't get it. I only lowered myself to his level when I blasted him.

[Fuzzybear]

For me, silence is safer, like I said. I am trying to learn to be less "sensitive". Sigh. Not sure if it's possible. It is possible to keep my mouth shut in certain situations though (although it used not to be)..... meaning as of now, I am going to try to keep my mouth shut, or mutter inconsequential growls

[Fuzzybear]

"going against what HE HAD JUST SAID".... that is a huge trigger for me. One of my worst triggers. I hope I don't do that. I think I might though but not to try to lie to someone

Therapist. Therapist. Therapist. Thanks for your patience in putting up with the slow, procrastinating bear

"going against what HE HAD JUST SAID"....

Would that be considered a hypocrite?

[Fuzzybear]

It could be yes. Or maybe different "parts" ,.... sigh.

Or maybe just very triggered. I just don't know.

[(JD)]

yeah hypocrite...wrong thread

Well, he puts himself into a position of authority when he is there to support the volunteers with what WE need to do the program. Improper use of authority is one of my triggers.

I shouldn't have gone. I told T I was concerned about a confrontation but it was with another person who arbitrarily blocked one of my programs without even discussing it with me, and taking one of the volunteers that was assisting me with the program for herself and her own interests. WEll, SHE wasn't there and I guess I let my guard down (while still feeling discounted) and when he made that stupid statement, being the exact opposite of the way he has been for 2 1/2 years... I lost it. I wasn't angry, just very directly firm with my dissatisfaction.

WHY do I feel so bad about calling him out? He's the one who is acting badly...he's the liar... he's the one keeping the programs from proceeding as the volunteers want... and has for 2 1/2 years. But was it my job to call him on it? IDK. I wish I didn't feel bad about saying all this too.

[gardenergirl]

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For me, silence is safer, like I said. I am trying to learn to be less "sensitive". Sigh. Not sure if it's possible.

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I think that's probably really difficult if not impossible. Although I say that because I'm highly sensitive, so I have to give myself wiggle room, right?

But we can work on taking extra care of ourselves to soothe the hurts. My T said that my sensitivity was like walking around with a chronic sunburn. Lots and lots of stuff hurt when you have a sunburn. Stuff that doesn't hurt non-sunburned folks.

So I try to remember my psychological sunscreen. But when I forget, I try to remember to put on some soothing psychological aloe gel.

((((Fuzzy))))

gg

[(JD)]

gg! I like that: psychological sunscreen!

I've thought more about my situation of last night. The guy I countered had been sitting there all but taking full credit for what was being done in our district...and expecting us all to "compliment" him for his hard work. (Thus another reason for posting it on fuzzy's thread here.)

In reality, he has been the one most problem singlehandedly running the volunteers away, so he can not have to bother with them or get into his way ??? IDK.

I woke with the guilt of speaking out, on my mind. I am trying to rationalize what I did. Though somewhat unprofessional, it was the meeting to hash problems out. I'm eccentric so they know I think out of the box. I'm more passionate about the program than he is... all of us are (more passionate than this guy.) I prevented him from continuing the process he had been complaining about, at least in that one area. grrrr BUT I would still look better today if I had kept my mouth shut. I think this is why no one wants to go to those meetings anymore (not because of me, silly, because they are also frustrated.)

[Fuzzybear]

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