[Fuzzybear]

I don't have the ability to trust people. Can anyone relate?

This has caused all sorts of issues, including with doctors, 2 or 3 therapists etc. This has traumatised me further.

Me. And then I get paranoid ontop of it and lose people. I've lost every boyfriend since I was 16. I hope I don't lose this one. I need get trust.... When I try tho it gets knocked down as quick and then I hate the person n it's prob irrational xxx

[JadeAmethyst]

Yes, this has been an ongoing issue for me also, so yes, I can relate! So, can really understand and feel retraumatized at certain interactions with other people.

Hang in there,

Jade

[sandersdillion948]

I used to trust people in the beginning, then I would get paranoid and all crazy and then they would leave. I still struggle with what was real and what was in my imagination. So at this point in my life, after having lost 4 boyfriends because of my PTSD and sczhizophrenia I have accepted that some people are meant to be alone. I think if i started a relationship again, everything would be okay for a while, but then I would get suspicious and push them away as I always have. I have pets, it works for me.

[Teacake]

Someone told me when I can trust myself I will be able to trust others. It makes a lot of sense.

[SeekerOfLife]

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

I don't have the ability to trust people. Can anyone relate?

This has caused all sorts of issues, including with doctors, 2 or 3 therapists etc. This has traumatised me further.

Yes, I can relate. A little story. My previous therapist--when I started to feel I could trust her, she took another job in another city. I walked into my last appointment with her (and I did not know it was my last appointment), and she tried to settle things before she left. It hurt big time. I did not have closure with her.....then, or even to this day. My relationship with her still feels like unfinished business.

[HazelGirl]

Trust? What's that?

But seriously, I struggle so much with this as well. It takes forever for my defenses to fall even a little, then I start panicking because I know they are. And it ends up creating a ridiculous inner push-pull with all my relationships. It's so annoying.

[NWgirl2013]

((((((((FUZZYBEAR)))))))) Trust is a hard thing when you haven't had it. Some of us were raised in such a way that trust was taken off the table.

It is a baby steps thing that has to be learned person by person. I am still learning those lessons. Don't give up on it Fuzzy. This is something you can work on with a therapist. Knowing that you have trust issues/ saying it out loud is in itself a self knowledge that can become a tool to help you grow.

I am hoping that by being very clear about this, those around you can know they need to be absolutely honest and trustworthy with you. That's how it will start. Fuzzybear! Be a brave bear YIMT

[A Red Panda]

I have a lot of trust issues. I tend to share little things, not because I feel comfortable sharing it or feel like I trust the person... but because I figure that it's important to try and show someone that I trust them. Even when I don't. But I know that's my issue and not usually theirs. So I share littlish things and then freak out and trust them less, even when they have a good reaction. Sharing larger things is sooooooooooooo hard and usually ends up in a withdrawal on my end.

Of course, so far, when I try to trust I then get shown why I shouldn't have trusted them.

It's such a stupid cycle!

[Wren_]

sounds very familiar

[shezbut]

(((((( fuzzybear ))))))

[Fuzzybear]

Yes. I had that whipped into my early in life...

Wow. Such a word "TRUST". Nope, never had it and i never will with anyone on this planet. There is no such thing!!

[Patagonia]

I don't think I need trust, never had it & it's just not worth the pain. I'm happy keeping people at arms length or further away...less trouble!!!

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[Open Eyes]

Trust is a challenge for all human beings. Everyone has experienced placing trust with another and be let down and disappointed. There is simply no such thing as a perfect human being, we all have our faults and anyone of us can let another individual down in someway even if we do not intend that to happen. We are not mind readers and we all have our own uniqueness and unique needs too. I think it is best to learn to appreciate the good things others do offer and not expect them to have the capacity to fill "all" our needs.

OE

Well said, Open Eyes!

[PianogirlPlays]

Many hurts are hard to overcome. I read yesterday that in most instances it is about what is going on inside of them. It is not so much you. I am trying to apply that with the hurts I feel about my daughter. What she is saying to me doesn't really make sense. I am not actually doing anything and she is just verbally yelling. It is just in writing but harsh in my head. I don't even know how to contact her anymore.

[Hellion]

I also have a hard time trusting people, though sometimes when I feel as though I shouldn't trust someone I really should not trust them. But sometimes I get suspicious of people I am close to attempting to screw me over in some way...even when I know its not the case. It can be very annoying especially since if you accuse someone of that sort of thing when they are doing nothing of the sort it upsets them.