scared all the time

I don't really know what to say as I've never posted in this forum before and I'm not good with words but I need to try so here goes...

Nightmares, flashbacks, triggers...all that stuff's bad enough. But it's the being scared just about all the time of just about everybody and everything I can't take most days. Best friends, casual friends, IRL friends, online friends....crowded places, being completely alone, places I know, places I don't know. Pills make me like a zombie, the thought of talking to people makes me scared. What's a person supposed to do???

I'm so sorry Kalamity. And really, there's only one thing you can do. Carefully navigate your life, keeping yourself as safe as possible, while getting therapeutic help that can slowly lessen the effects of the trauma. It can get better. Just share as much as you can here (as that helps too) and don't give up.

Cyran0

CyranO you make it sound so simple. But maybe that's coz you're right. And thank you, sometimes it just takes a few words to bring a bit of perspective or hope.

kj

i know it seems like a daily struggle to cope, but we are here to listen to you if and when you need it,

what about asking doc for diferant meds if they make you like zombie

going to places with ppl you know or ppl you dont can be very terrafying what about a be friender they could be with you, hubby has one they set it up through mind

he also has a comunity care assitant vist him once a week and if he needs to go out with out me these ppl will go with him,

you are allowed to be scared tell ppl that it makes you uncomfortable, we vist friends once a week coz it started making hubby feel sick everytime we went there, not that they are horrible ppl just his anxiety taking over

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Hi katheryn

I took myself off my meds overnight coz my doc had me on Zopiclone and a few other things for over 9 months, you're not supposed to be on them that long and she wouldn't cut me down gradually. I feel weak for saying so but I need to be back on something.

Friends do take me out on day trips to beach, spa etc in Summer but I can rarely leave the house in Winter.

My Social Worker is looking to get me a daily carer as I'm supposed to have full-time care anyway. But it's being done through the NHS so waiting lists, red tape etc. I will mention to her to check out Mind though...thanks for that one.

And I'm sure your hubby will get there with all the love and support he has.

Best wishes to you both.

Kalamity, I hear ya. It's not easy. Far from it. But I still know you can do it.

Cyran0

Thank you again, CyranO, and I wont give up.

kj

klamity
both myself and hubby have been on meds for a long time, as each time things start getting better something else crops up, i started my meds in march 05, and they got increased throught 05 and then in 07 i thought they were not working any more so i asked for them to be changed, hubby started his meds sept 05 and changed them two or three times but hes been on the last lot since then

he also has been prescribed diazopam while things got rough there for a bit
also has meds to help settle his tum when he gets anxious

ppl take meds for diferant lenghs of time it depends if they are helping you or not

http://www.mind.org.uk/ all she needs to do is refer you to mind

is your social worker with your mental health team

katheryn

No, she's not with the mental health team but she's recently got me a psychologist with the local mental health team and they're both working together to get the things I need put in place but they're struggling for some reason. Thanks for the link to Mind, I'll definitely pass it on in the morning.

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I guess the only thing I can say is baby steps
Self care too. Which means if its a bad day for you
take it easy on your self
Seeing someone would help too imo
You talk so well here we are grateful to have you
you fit right in.......you matter already here

awww ((((((((muffy)))))))) thank you

it helps being here and I love you all to bits
and your right, I will see someone

Kalamity, can you talk to yourself as if you were your own (really good) parent - like you would to a child that was lost and scared? You've got you this time around.... talk yourself through things. I have to do this when my internal system is overwhelmed - and it sounds like you're constantly overwhelmed... kind of take your own hand and guide yourself as you would a little one that needs help.

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Kiya

thank you Kiya, that's good advice.

((((((Kiya))))))

Whew, boy do I understanding being afraid of everything like that. I've finally gotten to where there are moments when I am not as afraid but they are still few and far in between. It's wearing being afraid of everything. And discouraging.

Kiya has some really good advice (as do others here). I have to do a lot of self talk sometimes. Even though there are parts of me that take on and do when I can't, it doesn't seem to alleviate the fear when I'm present.

Hang in there Kalamity. I wish I had some really good tricks to get through, but I just wanted you to know I care and understand.

Thank you wanttoheal

It's good that we can all help each other and you don't have to have specific ideas...just knowing you understand and care is enough.

And I'm glad you've got to the stage were you're less scared even if just a little bit. You hang in there too.

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thank you for caring, still scared but you do help

(((((Kalamity, Want to heal))))))))

There was a poew I read that was my mouth for a while. I will dig it up but the last verse is:

Such light, such love and so much fear.

That was me and my desire, my wish in therapy was to be less afraid. It worked. I am less afraid. You will be as well, it's hard work but worth it.

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I know things will get better but you both know yourselves, at the time it feels like forever. Thank you both for caring as it does help.

having people care does wonders. being apart of a community like this is the best thing i have done for myself. it adds up over time, you know?