[sally_j]

I really dont know whether this goes in this category but here it goes anyways. When the abuse ended with my ex from 2 years ago I tottaly understood the concept of the nightmares. So I thought okay, so i was angry or mad. And having a little hard time adjusting to stuff so I took the nightmares for about a year. These dreams are nothing but mixed messages from his side.Not only that when these dreams happen I become confused the next day and getting all mad and angry as too why he's doing this and I start getting angry or lashing out on the people I love. I've quit talking to this pervert for 1 year and 2 months and got to say made so much of big approvments as to getting my life back together again. Now, I've put up with these dreams for 2 years now and it still wont leave me alone. I tried everything. Getting busy, going to the gym, communicating more with only my husband only. And I'm sure the last thing he wants to hear is me dreaming about this. Yes, I do still have lots of anger that i have to let go of, some might say maybe that's what's causing it. And I'm working on that releasing my anger the right way not the wrong way. I've also tried meditating and it worked for about a good 2 months but now again its starting again. I"m really at the end of my wits with this. Wanted to contact the pervert in some form and to really ask if he's got anything to talk about but I talk myself out of doing that. the last thing i need is hell comming from his side. The situation didnt end up in good terms. Now, I know this might sound cruel , I wouldn't care one bit if he died that's how low I think of this idiot. Can anyone please tell me or give me any suggestion as to how i can handel this. Does writing a letter out and speaking out loud will help. Then I have no problem doing that. Really dont. Please Help Me.

[obsids]

In the past, I've kept a dream diary. I kept it next to my bed with a pen, and when I woke up, I wrote down everything I could remember. Over the course of weeks and months, I started understanding the different elements of the dreams.

I don't know how to stop having nightmares. I did go through intense Cognitive Behavioral Therapy to gain some tools to cope with my anger and anxiety when I was awake.

I think that sometimes nightmares are the way our brains release some of the pressure and pain we hold inside and ignore.

Do you have a counselor? Sometimes it helps to have someone neutral who can help you sort out all the confusion.

*hugs*

[sally_j]

About a week ago I went to the hospital. I had sever chest pain and when they asked me in the ambulance if i am suffering from Anxity I said no.I dont want to admit it that I have Anxity. I dont like to even think about even having a disorder like that. I dont want to accept it. I had anxity before and its not a good feeling at all. When they ran test in the hospital they said I was suffering from Anxity and with my left arm hurting they said I was being to aggrivated. I'm not depressed. I dont want to be and sure dont have the time to go back into my depressive mood. Yes, at time my mood does change. Sometimes i'm happy somtimes I"m Not. But that does not mean I'm depressed. All I know is i'm not the same person I use to be anymore. I know people change but this isn't me. My views in life have changed competely, My view's in my parents have changed competely ( and when that happens) I ususally push them away especially my mom. I dont want my husband knowing i have problems so what do I do. I avoid all the problems in my life. I dont communicate with my folks. The only main person I communicate is with my husband because i'm more comfortable around him but I dont open up about personal stuff that arises in my life. Not only this and now these dreams. Really can my life get any depressing then this?

[CedarS]

I encourage you to go into therapy and tell them everything, exactly how you are feeling. If you don't want to admit something, tell them anyway, including the fact that you really don't want to. You need to tell them everything so they can help, they can be part of your team, they can be on your side.

Are you on any medications? Sometimes meds can cause nightmares for some of us, I have to be careful for instance of Benadryl.

I have nightmares, they have lessened some over time and lots of therapy.

What are some things you can do to help you feel nurtured and cared for?

Best wishes to you.

[darkangel70]

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Hi Sally i suffer from ptsd and also have nightmares i was put on mini presser for the nightmares you might ask about it. hugss to you hun

[CedarS]

How are you doing Sally? I hope everything has eased up for you.