[jen29]

Hi there everyone...it's been so long since i have been on here. I just got a new laptop and now i have some privacy.
I can't sleep...i have been haveing flashbacks like crazy last night and today. I finally got on the computer and found someone to talk to. I feel a little better...still shaking and teary eyed...but i think i can make it through the day.
I do have a question though. My dad is supposed to go to counseling with me on Wednesday which is tomorrow. He wants to learn ways he can help and understand things better. I am wondering if it would be rude if I asked him to wait another week before he goes so i can discuss things with my counselor? I don't know...i don't really know what to do.
I have been having flashbacks about the men i have been with and what some have done to me. I feel so ashamed and disgusted with myself for what i let happen. I feel i let it happen because i could have said no louder for him to stop. It was consentual at first but then i 5:40 in the morning...still morning for me. I don't know what to do...anyone with any suggestions would be appreciated.
Thanks for listening

[phoenix7]

Hi jen29,

I dont think it would be rude to ask your father to wait another week - can you ring your T and talk with him/her about it before the appointment - ?

It sounds like you have things you need to address now - and just to be clear - you said NO - whether you shouted it or whispered it - you said it - he should have listened - he didnt - he did wrong NOT YOU - sending you safe hugs - - hope you can get some sleep P7

[Capp]

((Jen))

I hope you were able to tell your father you want to wait...it's not a rude thing to do. It's a way that you are taking care of yourself...
Taking care of yourself is your first priority.

P7 is right about you said No/asked him to stop. It's a reflection on him and not on you. Please try and let go of the guilt, guilt is a wasted emotion.

Peace to you, Jen

Cap

[darkpurplesecrets]

((((((Jen)))))

You have every right to ask your father to wait another week if that is what you need to do. You need to take care of you. This is about you and you are the important one here.

You are not to blame for anything. No means no - no matter how loud or soft you say it. He knew what you said. It is not your guilt--it is not your fault You could have screamed it or just tried to push him away, he knew.

I understand flashbacks and they are not easy. I also understand no sleep. It also comes with what you are dealing with. I want to say that with time it will get easier but that is not to say that what you are going through now is not real and terrible.

Talk things out with your t and know that if you need 1 week or 5 weeks longer, you have that right. I do understand and I want you to know that you are going to be okay. If you would like to talk please feel free to pm me. I do understand and I know what you are going through.

You are not alone, and we will not leave you stranded by yourself. We will be here to shine a flashlight should you get lost until you find your footing.

darkpurplesecrets

[cleanhippie09]

i know this is a little late on the whole dad situation but im new on here and i just wanted to let you know you are not alone. i am in the same situation with pts. i havent been sleeping well either because of the same thing and like you i have been blaming myself. if you ever want to talk to someone who knows what you are going through im here

cleanhippie09