[who_]

what does it mean that I dreamed my therapist kissed me? I am devoted to my husband and am surprised I dreamed this. I'm afraid to bring it up with my therapist because he's been my therapist for 6 years and I don't want him to tell me I'll have to get another therapist.

[seventyeight]

hi who. i can't imagine that he'd ask you to get another therapist based on a) a dream that you had that was out of your control and b) something so innocent (albeit inappropriate) as a simple kiss.

i think it's normal to subconsiously think about stuff like that. like you said, you're devoted to your husband, so i'm sure it has nothing to do with that. it probably has more to do with going to therapy week after week for 6 years, opening up and sharing very personal details about yourself and your life, and then having to maintain physical boundries with someone that you're so emotionally intimate with. i think it's hard for people to not comprehend being so intimate in one way, but then being so un-intimate in another way.

[3velniai]

A dream is a dream, I don't think your T will stop seeing you because of that, and it could usefull and interesting to explore it with T. A dream can mean a lot of things. I don't believe that there are universal explanations, only you can find out its true meaning.

[zooropa]

I don't think your T would terminate you based on that, but at the same time I wouldn't tell my own T if I dreamed the I kissed her. AWKWARD!!!

[Perna]

I usually told my T my dreams. I dreamed once that I had my head in her lap and she was stroking it, that was a little awkward to relate :-) There was another dream that included a wall of toilet paper, I don't remember the whole thing now/the context but that dream got a lot of discussion; I was telling her things second-hand and she didn't like that, compared it to how I behaved in therapy and it was very helpful to us.

Since it's your dream, only you can say what the dream meant, the first thing that popped into my head was a "Judas kiss", I don't know what the surrounding dream was and what had happened that day but maybe you feel/felt like someone is playing you false and you'd be more likely to believe it if your therapist "told" you? My therapist often appeared in my dreams, or the "sense" of her, and I knew then that it was okay to explore that dream content (kind of lucid understanding) that though it might be scary, I would be okay because my therapist was there.

[lily99]

I think it's ok to tell your T about this, if you feel you need/want to. I once dreamt about kissing T, but there wasn't really anything romantic attached to it. It was more just a feeling of great affection, closeness... maybe even self-love. Who knows. Just wanted to assure you that your T will be fine with it

[ECHOES]

Your T has heard it all and knows you. He will help you understand what it means in your therapeutic relationship with him. It is not literal, so don't worry about that. It is symbolic, a metaphor for something else.
It's good to tell them anything and everything and especially when it feels important.
Let him help you with this.

[sittingatwatersedge]

Originally Posted by zooropa

II wouldn't tell my own T if I dreamed the I kissed her.

Thanks Z, neither would I (not that it's ever happened). No way.

[tears_of_a_clown]

I am curious why you would not. Are you fearful of the T's reaction, embarrassed, think it's weird?

Originally Posted by sittingatwatersedge

Thanks Z, neither would I (not that it's ever happened). No way.