[ballet_girl]

So I was just accepted into a study abroad program and was super excited about it until realizing that it means that if I go I won't be able to see my t for a long time . I think that I would be able to cope for the most part, but I am very hesitant to go because I just really don't want for something to happen and then to feel like I have nowhere to turn. I'm also worried because it has taken me a really long time to trust T, and now finally we are getting to work on some important stuff. I don't want to sacrifice the trust and the progress we have made by going away for a long time. Just don't know what to do, and T isn't much help because she doesn't want to tell me what to do. She did say that we could see about talking on the phone, but I'm not really sure if that would be helpful or if it would just make me miss her more.

[Christina86]

I'd see about the phone sessions, maybe keep in contact via email if you think it would help.

Moving on and leaving a good T relationship behind really can suck, even if it's only for a short time.

[WePow]

I think that it is great to be able to spread your wings a bit. Don't let fear of loosing the bond with T keep you from gaining what could be the experience of a lifetime! Your T will be there still. I would agree with Christina about the phone sessions for sure~! That will allow you to keep that connection going.

If you were to turn down something you really wanted out of fear, it could make you end up resenting T in the long run.

[ballet_girl]

Thanks you guys. I guess you are right. Its taken about 2 years for me to trust her, and I recently told her some things that were really hard for me to talk about. It seems wrong somehow to have told her these things and then leave without talking about them or getting any type of resolution...like its just hanging in the air... I know that I need to resolve these issues and do some more work before I feel totally ready to go, but you are right, she will be here when I come back and maybe a change of pace will do me some good

[venusss]

Don't throw away your oppurtunity of lifetime just because of your t... if she offered you can talk on phone, it's great. You would have to part with her one day anyways... and studies abroad are so great. You learn about yourself and others.... so much.

[3velniai]

How long will you be abroad? You can still keep contact with your T if it's not 4 years or smth. If it's a really long time you might want to find a new T at the place you're going to.

I'm in a similar situation now, training in another country for almost 4 months. My T suggested that I email her every week, we even agreed on a specific day, and that she will reply to the emails. That didn't work out so well (mostly because I'm more or less going crazy, lol), so now we agreed to have skype sessions. I'm not sure how will this go, since the first try is later this week.

Hang in there, everything will be ok

[Oceanwave]

Going away can be very therapeutic! And don't forget that one of the goals of therapy is often to be more independent and function well in the world out there. Travelling can help you achieve that and give you some perspective on your life back home.

[ballet_girl]

I'm going away for about 7 months. I just sent in my deposit, so the decision has been made! Basically we decided that I won't talk to my T unless there is an emergency, and then I can call her but I also have to see somebody there. I have mixed feelings because on the one hand I really want to be independent and take a break from all of this emotional work, but on the other hand I'm really worried about not having the support. And if I was having an emergency, I can't imagine telling anybody but her. But I will let you guys know how it goes. Thanks for the input!

[WePow]

(((((Ballett girl))))) What you are doing took guts. My hat is off to you!