[sittingatwatersedge]

From a recent post of Rainbow's >> When I have had compulsions to be with a T, I have no words. It feels preverbal, and all I feel is pain.

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this is something I mentioned to T last time I saw her - it doesn't happen when I see her, but definitely does happen regularly with a certain kind of person I encounter in my life - I said, it's almost like I really need to tell them something, or need to ask them something, but there are no words; but the urgency, the emotional level, is very high. I don't know what it is.

After our session it occurred to me that this may be preverbal; Rainbow's comment indicates that may be true. Does anyone else experience this? Where do I go from here?

[sugahorse1]

I had a friend who's presence I really valued. I'd feel safe, but like I needed to open up to her. I could only do it via mail, never face to face. And sometimes I get like this with my T.
I think I now rather write my thoughts down beforehand, and structure my thoughts on paper. I'm hoping this will make it easier to actually talk and not just sit there in the pain.

[Melbadaze]

My own experience of this and working with pre verbal feelings is to dig around in session for words, both of us, T and I, and eventually feelings and new words and insight connect, and the eventually when you have these feelings which are about childhood happening in the present, you remember the feeling, you remember the insight you have into it and your able to self talk yourself into handling these feelings and seperating them from the present...its like getting used to a new habit, the feeling hits and instead of reacting to it and getting lost in it, you take time to think it through, sometimes i journal, sometimes I remember what we said about the feeing in session..not easy, no button to press to make it all go away and its like riding a bike, feels awkard at first and you fall off (get lost in them) plenty of times then one day the feelings come and memory of having survived them, get through them replaces the void...

[sugahorse1]

Thanks Melba - why oh why do we battle so much to verbalise things in T??? It is so frustrating!

[granite1]

i think that may be how it is for me a lot of the time sitting.its like you want to say so much and it hurts so bad but you open your mouth and nothing comes out.you have no idea what to sayfrustrating

[Melbadaze]

Originally Posted by sugahorse

why oh why do we battle so much to verbalise things in T??? It is so frustrating!

Not having words is frustrating, the relief when finally you have words is out of this world.

[geez]

Originally Posted by sittingatwatersedge

it's almost like I really need to tell them something, or need to ask them something, but there are no words; but the urgency, the emotional level, is very high. I don't know what it is.

Thank you so much for sharing that SAWE!

That is such a relief to see your words. I feel like that allot!! - but never really could find the words to describe that feeling

[sittingatwatersedge]

Originally Posted by geez

I feel like that allot!! - but never really could find the words to describe that feeling

make a deal with ya - if I find out anything I will let you know, if you wouldn't mind doing the same for me. PM is fine if you prefer. We all help each other...........................