[rainbow8]

I've been fine this week and haven't emailed T at all! But my session is supposed to be tomorrow and I'm worrying.

1. T has jury duty today. What if she gets on a jury?
2. I was exposed to stomach flu. What if I catch it?
3. I think the weather is going to be okay tomorrow, but what if it isn't?
4. What if T gets sick?

She's taking off next week so I really need my session this week. I worry more in winter with snow and with people getting sick more.

I don't want to miss my session. She could probably fit me in another day, but I'm not sure. I wish it were tomorrow already!!

Do any of you think like me? What do you do about it? Thanks!

Originally Posted by rainbow8

Do any of you think like me? What do you do about it? Thanks!

I do hate missing sessions Going down to once a week makes it harder, because if I miss a session it feels like FOREVER before I see T. Kind of like with you, and T having a vacation next week.

I think what helps is that I actually HAVE had to unexpectedly miss sessions with T - when I had a root canal that went really badly (I missed a couple of sessions), when I've had the flu, when T has hurt himself. And even though it's so hard right then, in the big picture of "me and T" it's so small. I go to my next session, he's still there, the relationship continues. I guess it's one of those "this too shall pass" things. So hard while we're in it, but eventually, a minor thing in retrospect.

I'm having a sad day today because of a long break I have coming up, so thinking about this has helped. Thanks, Rainbow

I hope you get to have your session.

[granite1]

wishing tomorrow comes quickly for you

[sittingatwatersedge]

>> Do any of you think like me? What do you do about it?

a) distract myself
b) take tons of vitamin C
c) cancel if the weather even threatens, and kick myself afterward if it turns out less dire than predicted
d) worry anway.

that's about it............

[velcro003]

Rainbow--about #1--my T told me that generally lawyers don't like therapists on juries because they will be "sympathetic" to both sides. She said she's never been elected.

[sunrise]

Originally Posted by rainbow

Do any of you think like me? What do you do about it?

Rainbow, I don't worry about things I can't change or prepare for. But if I can do anything to prepare or influence the outcome, I will focus my efforts on that. It feels good to be able to "take action." Like once I am exposed to the stomach flu, I would make a special effort to boost immune function, such as by getting enough sleep. For the weather, I would watch the weather report and if it seemed likely there would be snow, I would make sure the snow tires were on my car, chains were handy, car was parked at the bottom of the hill, bus schedule was handy if I didn't want to drive, or whatever. For "what if T gets sick?" I would not devote time to that, because it is something completely out of my control. If you are religious, you could say a prayer for your T and her health.

I hope everything goes smoothly with your session tomorrow!

Originally Posted by velcro003

Rainbow--about #1--my T told me that generally lawyers don't like therapists on juries because they will be "sympathetic" to both sides. She said she's never been elected.

That's so interesting! They also don't want someone they think is too biased toward one side, because then the opposing lawyer will ask that they be dropped during jury selection. The judge I had was very unsympathetic to people who said their job was too important for them to take time off to be on the jury (like a doctor, lawyer, or another person who thinks highly of their value). So the judge would make them do it anyway to show them they were just a regular citizen.

Goodness yes! I worry about natural disasters, man-made disasters, airport strikes, snow, leaves on the track (a very British excuse?!), her daughter being ill, her being ill, her double booking, me being stuck on the underground... her building spontaneously crumbling to the ground as I arrive... and yet, she's always there. And so am I. One day we'll learn, Rainbow

I'm sorry you're feeling so anxious

[gelfling]

yes rainbow - i had appt with a new t/caseworker? idk what she is, and i worried all weekend about the meeting - worried that they lost my appt or would cancel my appt - worried about going to the meeting cause they were forcasting blizzard then record cold - would my car start? ---- got up that morning, showered, got car warming up - and then said, hmmm, maybe i should check my messages and sure enough while i was showering they cancelled my appt - go figure..........

[seventyeight]

hi rainbow,

the only thing i wanted to add, is that sometimes it's really cool if the appointment has to change for reasons beyond your control. well, that part of it isn't cool, but what i'm trying to say is that meeting under different circumstances, or at a different time, can be really fun/interesting sometimes.

i know the few times my therapist has had to make a change, it's been neat to have that kind of session - once in the dark because her power was out, one over the phone because of a blizzard, once bare-footted because she had her carpets cleaned, etc. it's almost like seeing things from another perspective or in a different light. plus, sometimes it's neat to have to talk on the phone and try to work together to figure out the new appointment time or whatever it is. you know?

anyway, just my thoughts. i hope you get to go and have your normal session though, if that's what you really need and the way it needs to happen for you.

i worry about double booking, getting to appt and t not being there, but mostly i worry in the last few hours before the appt, and make deals with myself. weird huh?

no, you are not the only one

[BlackCanary]

Originally Posted by rainbow8

I've been fine this week and haven't emailed T at all! But my session is supposed to be tomorrow and I'm worrying.

1. T has jury duty today. What if she gets on a jury?
2. I was exposed to stomach flu. What if I catch it?
3. I think the weather is going to be okay tomorrow, but what if it isn't?
4. What if T gets sick?

She's taking off next week so I really need my session this week. I worry more in winter with snow and with people getting sick more.

I don't want to miss my session. She could probably fit me in another day, but I'm not sure. I wish it were tomorrow already!!

Do any of you think like me? What do you do about it? Thanks!

1. Many are called, few are chosen
2. I just had this - if you catch it, you will not care about missing anything, not even therapy.
3. Did you not get a 4whl drive after last winter? and a snow blower?
4. She will still come in if she is sick (unless it's the stomach flu). My T had sessions when she tore up her knee, and last week she had a broken rib from coughing so hard/vitamin D deficiency. Therapists appear quite unwilling to miss work, IMHO.

But, my appt isn't until Friday and I'm also worried - what if I get into the training that I'm wait-listed for and have to cancel? What if it snows - she doesn't have 4 whl drive in her Prius! I have to talk about my worries - how sucky work is, and holiday stress,

OK, the one thing I do that kind of helps is my T's phrase "The answer is within you". So, if I write out my questions, concerns, things I'd take into therapy, then I can sometimes get to the answer that is already within me without going to therapy. It feels good to accomplish this insight on my own. I do like to get to therapy eventually and report on my results, of course!

Also, you may need to apply to my Professional League of Worriers. We only take the most competent worriers.
a) are you worrying as you go to sleep?
b) do you wake up with the same worries?
c) are you worried about worrying?
If you answered yes to all of the above, please send in your application form and fee

[rainbow8]

Update: my H is the one who woke up with a fever today. So far I'm all right, but I'll probably catch it if it's that flu going around. Just get me through my session!

T didn't email to cancel me yet, and the weather's cold but my car is okay. Breathe....

Black Canary: I definitely want to join your Professional League of Worriers!! Your comments made me laugh, besides being true and good advice. Thank you!

jbmomg: yeah, I have about 3 hours to go and I'm still nervous because of this bug going around. What if I throw up in her office? Ha! She has a light colored couch that's hard to clean. I don't feel nauseous, though.

seventyeight: that's an interesting perspective, but I really want to see T in person today. I don't think she'd be good in phone sessions because she relies on body language so much, and our interaction in person. Reminds me of something funny with former T. She was once caught in traffic and kept calling my cell phone to apologize. She did therapy out of her home, and her waiting room was her library, a nice, comfy room that I loved more than her office. I was fine, and found it amusing that she was so disconcerted about being late. It didn't mess up her other appointments; I was the last one.

gelfling: thanks. I know it happens sometimes. I'm not used to Ts canceling me much. I'm spoiled!

improving: I TOLD you we were twins, didn't I?

sunrise: that's why you are you and I am me! I think (and worry) differently but need to try to think like you. Thanks.

velcro: that's interesting about lawyers and juries. Looks like she didn't get called.

SAWE: I like the last one: worry anyway!

granite: thanks. It's soon if I don't get sick.

tree: that's a good attitude and you're right. It SEEMS to matter so much at the time, but in the scheme of things, it's all right if I have to miss a session or two.

[Fuzzybear]

(((((((((((((((( rainbow ))))))))))))))))

Originally Posted by rainbow8

I've been fine this week and haven't emailed T at all! But my session is supposed to be tomorrow and I'm worrying.

i just wanted to say great job on not emailing T this week. i'm a worrier too but i worry about different things so am not much help in that regard. i do like tree's big picture approach though. in the grand scheme it won't make much difference. our feelings are still valid though.

[granite1]

i also want to say great job on not e-mailing and ask how things went

[rainbow8]

Thanks for asking, granite. Thanks, fuzzy. Always nice to see you! Thanks, bloom. It's dinner time, but I'll start a new thread about my session. It was productive in many ways, though not what I was expecting to talk about today.

[WePow]

((((Rainbow)))))

[googley]

I totally worry about things like this. For example my T has been coughing for the last two sessions and I worry that she will get sicker and not be able to come. Or we had a snow storm and I was worried that the roads would still be really bad and so we wouldn't be able to have session. So you are not the only one to worry. I think that is only natural to worry about something that is so important to us.

[sittingatwatersedge]

Hi Rainbow,
Hope your session goes well today.